You are Forever Passionate

Warren Buffet (and other's secret to Wealth)

2012-01-31T23:23:00.000-08:00

Hi,I'll make this brief.Warren Buffett was a hedge fund manager and then went into insurance. Both of these are uses of Other People's Money. The key is to secure OPM at a low cost. Insurance generates cash at about a 1% interest rate for Warren Buffet. If you'd like a more detailed explanation, just go to http://www.berkshirehathaway.com/letters/letters.html. Hedge Fund managers pool other people's money together and earn a portion of the upside.The other industry is banking because you again get to use other people's money at a very low interest rate. The key then is Magnify Other People's Money at a low cost (interest rate). All the Best to You,Geoff

Integrity as the basis

2012-01-06T00:26:00.000-08:00

Hi,

I know that I may have mentioned this before, but it's important to note again the importance of integrity in one's daily affairs. Integrity is defined by the New Oxford American Dictionary as "quality of being honest with high moral standards". To many people that means different things, but I think a really good and practical working definition taught to me by Joseph Faust was that it is the honoring of one's promises. While deceptively simple, this one principle had alluded me for years...in terms of its importance. Nonetheless, I decided to take the integrity challenge and to honor every single promise I made. This huge shift which I made 2 years ago really has helped me out tremendously and transformed my life. While I'm by no means perfect, I kind of feel like it gives me a good base off which to operate. I kind of like to think of it as Insurance. While insurance won't make you rich, it will prevent you from going broke. The same is true with Integrity.

Best,
Geoff

Latest thoughts

2011-12-31T21:52:00.001-08:00

From 2 places, I've heard the idea of making meaning. From Tony Robbins and from Landmark. The main difference is that Landmark encourages you to stay away from making meaning but instead focus on "Just the facts" as Deborah Russell put it. On the other hand, Tony Robbins is very much about making an empowering meaning. In his work, I've heard him mention things like "Decisions shape your destiny" and "The Mastery of Life is the mastery over meanining". He may have even already put this together, but I don't think he did. This is what I call the meaning generator model, and it works as follows.

First, there's what happened? You lost your job, you watched or saw something and feel amazing, you just found out that a relative is sick

Second, there's the meaning you give it? This is life challenging to step up and become even more, there's nothing but love in this world, people die all the time, so we have to cherish every moment we have with our loved ones

Third, there's the decision you make *out* of the meaning you created. I'm going to do everything in my power to get a new job as soon as possible, I'm going to be the most loving person I can be, I'm going to be there for that person through thick and thin

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Next concept, is the idea of "success" versus "growth". Really most people's definitions of success of quite arbitrary. It's usually an amount of money coupled with a certain bodyfat percentage coupled with something about having a special someone. The thing is that it's really hard to get all the ducks lined up in a row, and thus hard for people to experience what they want to experience which is success. Tony Robbins was the first I heard to kind of challenge the notiion of success, and make it easier to attain. He furthermore goes in his work in encouraging people to recreate their values based off what he calls their ultimate destiny (ie, where you ultimately want to end up). Usually during this process, people's priority of success goes down a bit and up moves other important things such as love, health, happiness, gratitude, etc. Where I'm going with this though is that I challenge the whole idea of the pursuit of success and instead encourage the pursuit of growth. Whereas success is a fixed point of attainment, growth is a never ending process. You could maybe even say that you're after financial growth rather than financial success. Or you could definte success not by how far you are away from your destination but rahter how quickly you're growing (and thus hopefully headed to our destination).

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Completion conversations. I think this is also a crucial component of personal development. There are rampant stories of spiritual gurus who have all types of challenges in their personal lives (extramarital affairs, lashing out on others, etc). A powerful concept taught by the controversial *yet* effective Landmark is the idea of coming to completion with the people in your life most importantly of course if your relatives (even the ones you decided you would never talk to again). I encourage anyone to with a healthy bit of scepticism to take Landmark, and see if it can help you do this. I heard a counselor who was attending Landmark say to one of his colleagues on the phone "They're doing everything we do, but just doing it faster. Whereas what we do mike take months, they're doing it over the course of the weekend". I do have to warn you that Landmark is by no means the end all be all of personal development (I highly encourage it along with Stephen Covey as a great starting point).

Summary of NLP

2011-06-16T14:27:00.001-07:00

Honestly, this morning I had a super low self-esteem moment. I was thinking about how I wasn’t selected for an important group that I wanted to be a part of, and I started to feel a bit down. It instantly affected my performance, and it was hard to continue my presentation. I of course finished, but I found I had some of the same challenges on some of my later calls. I did my typical remedy which is heartbreathing (read more about Hearthmath), but it didn’t work. As someone who has gotten accustomed to a fair amount of state control, it kind of threw me for a loop.

After I left the gym (hoping that would make me feel better), I still hadn’t shaken it. Then, I remembered much of what I had learned from NLP. Specifically, the phrase “feel good for no reason”. I started saying that and everything negative faded away. I felt awesome and did a great job on my next presentation. With that said, I’d like to share with you the major principles that I’ve learned from NLP. I received a tremendous bit of value, but I think I was using NLP as a substitute for counseling and therapy which are equally as important. Make no mistake about it. NLP is the king of performance in my opinion, but if you’re trying to perform off of a weak base, good luck (I’m speaking from experience here).

Here they are:

1.) Find what works and use it – NLP stresses that you do not rely on a specific theory, but rather focus on what gets you the result in using that. In doing so, you may find yourself diving into multi-disciplines in order to accomplish your objectives but that is more than ok.

2.) Do new things in new ways – NLP is all about expanding your “familiarity zone” by willing to have an open mind and do new things in new ways. New books, new learnings, new insights, and so forth. To this end, NLP is also big on altered states that come from laughter, smiling, and relaxation

3.) Feel good for no reason – NLP feels that the mind operates best when it is being fed good brain fuel, and that good brain fuel comes from feeling good. It stresses that one should never make a decision when in a negative state but rather make ones primary objective to get out of that negative state.

4.) The best thing about the past is that’s over --- NLP feels that there is nothing in your childhood/past that will help you with the present. I actually disagree with this precept, and feel that it stems from some of the founders refusal/unwillingings/fear in healing their own past.

Other principles are:

Making Good Decisions
Obsession with Learning

Proposing a new model of Personal Development and Change (yet again)

2010-11-18T22:55:00.001-08:00

We've all heard of Spiral Dynamics taught at Tony Robbins . It's the
idea that humans evolve over time as to their definition of what is
healthy mature adult behavior. Well, that's great, and if you haven't
read Spiral Dynamics or the audio from Sounds True, it's one of the best
things I have ever read.

My proposal is the following based off Spiral Dynamics but with a
Maslow-esque vibe

*Picture the below as a pyramid

Authentic-self Driven=You can't get caught up in being someone that
you're not. You really have to strive to be authentic . (*Note: I'm
still a little fuzzy on this one)
Consciousness Driven=You have to have a quest to serve something more
than just yourself and your tribe
Goal Driven=You need to have goals and a sense of going after it.
"Making it"
Principle Driven=You have to have a core set of values that you can fall
back on
Autonomous Human Being=You have to be able to assert yourself in this
new and fresh world
Tribe Centered= You have to have a family around you who got your back
and you have there's
Survival Centered = You have to make money, some base off which to survive

The key is that you need to focus on the base (Survival) and ensure that
that is in place. Then, you need to focus on the next, and the next,
etc, etc. While (according to my current theory), pushing upward.
Without a strong foundation, you have what I call the leaning tower of
peeza. I have met a lot of good people without a rock-solid foundation,
and they weren't that effective.

Proposing a new model of personal development

2010-11-18T05:48:00.000-08:00

Thus far in the personal development journey to my knowledge no one has proposed the following model first brought to my attention by Stephen Covey

Mind – NLP and learning in general from a vast array of areas of study
Heart – Emotional Floods, Hearth Breathing, Gratitude
Soul – Forgiveness, Completion Conversations
Body – Intense Vigorous Exercise including weight lifting, Health-consciousness
Mind & Spirit - Meditation, Nature

Ideas on Health

2010-06-09T15:09:00.000-07:00

I think that within the health community there is a move toward organic, which I think is good, but I think that it is easy to get swayed into thinking "Well, it's organic, so it must be good for me". Crap of anything, organic or not, is still crap. For example, Organic ice cream is still ice cream and too much of it will wind up on your waist and butt. Of course, certain things are in moderation are ok. My thinking was heavily influenced by Tom Venuto after reading the precision within one can attain physique goals when counting and looking at calories. Of course for years, people had mentioned Venuto to me, but I was so heavily influenced at that point by the Phillips brothers (Bill and Shawn) that I couldn't see out of the haze of portion control. It was only when the new wine wouldn't work with the old wine skins metaphorically speaking that I switched to the new method. I did a variety of approaches and experimented with a variety of diets, including raw, vegan, Paleolithic, all natural, and I found thus far that the venuto approach to work great with some pragmatic alterations. First off, the venuto approach is to take the number of calories that one should consume in a day (about 1800 for women and 2500 for men) and then slice that up into 5-6 meals maintaining high carbs, medium protein, and low fat. Of course, the no carb people hate this because they want you to consume all the olive oil, saturated fat, and peanut butter that you'd ever want, but my personal opinion is that I really like the way I eat and since compliance (actually sticking to something longterm) is a major factor, then I choose to eat the way I do. So, the major modification I made to keep it more practical is to take 2500 and divide it by 5 and ensure that each meal has no more than 500 calories. However, I don't calculate the number of calories that I am eating in a day, and thus far, the results have been promising eating this way. This approach of course will not work for all people because some people are undereaters and don't eat enough per day. But for me, I eat plenty of healthy foods and just need some direction. So for me, that works really well.

The other thing that works really well for all people is in addition to your regular vigorous exercise, burning extra calories is very helpful. For example, if you're stuck in traffic, keep one hand on the steering wheel while doing air boxing with the other. We all know to take the stairs but how many actually do it. Also, I just find reasons to do say 3 pushups here. Or, if there is a place where you can do one pull up. Just knock one out. The old me was the type to take the elevator to the gym, but now, I take the stairs because I really do think a really great way to get to your fitness goals faster is to increase the number of calories you burn. There is something called the fitness bug (I think that's the name) that when strapped on you calculates the number of calories. There are scientific studies that show that people who use pedometers walk on average an extra mile per day. (What gets measured gets improved). I also only recommend hydrostatic or bodpod body fat testing as other methods tend to not be very accurate in my opinion. I know this method of testing isn't accessible for a lot of people, so I'd like to suggest that I have had some friends who use the home body fat scales and they really like them. They are the ones that you step onto and give you your weight but then also your body fat percentage. My friends arguments is that while they don't give you an accurate number, you can track the change.

On the training side, variability continues to be an important factor. That is, never repeating the same workout twice. Do something each time to vary it. For example, you can do one minute static holds (hold the bar/dumbbell in the same place for one minute), explosions (hold at the rest position for a brief rest and then explode up versus some training methodoligies that want you to keep the bar moving up and down in a fluid motion), Justin specials (20 seconds in the middle, 20 seconds on the top, and 20 seconds on the bottom of the range of movement), Crossfit, Geoff specials (one minute straight repetitions with no rest), EDT modifications (as many sets as you can do in 7 minutes, 11 minutes, or 14 minutes). On the 11 or 14 minute long sets, alternating between two exercises. German volume training (pick one muscle group that is weak and do that for at least 10 sets). Julian Michaels rhythm training – have your spotter spot you such that even after you can't do the weight, you continue in a fluid motion with your spotters assistance.

On the cardio side, you can do intervals of all different variations (30 seconds on 30 seconds off, 60 seconds on 60 seconds off, 30 seconds, rest for 2 seconds, 30 seconds, rest for 2 seconds, 30 seconds rest for 2 minutes…repeat.). You can also do cruise control cardio – about 70-85% of your max heart rate from 30-50 minutes. You can also do super high intensity cardio for 20 minutes and then do slower cardio after that. The point is that your body habituates (gets used to what you are doing to it), so you must continue to change what you are doing it.

Also, once per week at least, do some yoga or stretching.

On the health side, I recommend taking in at least 4 servings of live foods per day (preferably organic). Some great ways to do this are buy fruit, nuts, have salads, purchase a blendtec blender and watch your life positively change (this thing can turn whole vegetables into juice in 1 minute), superfoods (goji berries, brazil nuts, etc)

I'm also researching health indicators (if you have any, please email me like you guys always do), these are my preliminary findings: a.) blood work (I haven't done this but the Robbins crew and other groups of holistic people are into it, b.) pH strips (making sure your body is alkaline is very important and necessary), c.) cholesterol levels (you can easily check this at drug stores), d.) blood sugar levels (I haven't done this yet but I think that this might work as you can easily buy home sugar level testers).

Also, of course, we all know to drink lots of water, get good rest (the length is up for debate but all will agree that good deep rest is essential), vigorous exercise, supplements (digestive enzymes, multivitmains, fish oil, probiotics, green powders, superfoods).

My very best secret…thus far

2010-05-28T21:49:00.000-07:00

So, I've pounded into your mind the importance and being impeccable with your word. However, this week, I have learned that there is another factor that must be accounted for, and that is we need goals. That is, our promises must be directed toward clear, specific outcomes. I want to credit Robbins for popularizing the idea of outcomes. He released a program back in I believe the mid 90s called "OPA" which stands for "Outcome Purpose Action". The beauty of it is that he would have you collect all your to-dos, and then out of those to-dos begin forming outcomes. Out of that, you would naturally begin to create outcomes out of them. For example, your list might be:

-Pickup Laundry
-spend 30 minutes on the script
-Workout

From there, he would have you produce outcomes from your list of to'dos. So, you might take the action "spend 30 minutes on the script" and transmute that into the outcome "Make major progress on producing an outstanding script". You might then look at that outcome and add "Call agent", "Read 10 pages from script writing book", "investigate script writing classes".

Tony Robbins uses the example of how he had an outcome of forwarding his infomercial. It was after he created his outcome that he discovered an action item was to call Greg Norman (famous pro golfer) and ask for a video testimonial. He followed through on that and Greg said yes! All this happened because he followed the sequence: to do's  outcome  action plan.

Tony Robbins also recommends that you generate a purpose for each outcome AND that can be useful.

Robbins also recommends that one brainstorm weekly outcomes; he recommends about 3 (if memory serves me right) weekly outcomes.

In addition, once you have generated your action plan he recommends that you go and star the action items that you must accomplish for that day. So this way, you have a best case scenario and a worst case scenario. Worst case scenario, you complete all your musts and the outcome has been accomplished. Best case scenario, you complete all your action items and you have really made a lot of progress.

Excellence in Action

2010-05-26T21:00:00.000-07:00

We all talk about dreams and goals, but how many actually do it. Richard Bandler made an interesting point in his book "Get the Life You Want". His point was simply that most people start off something never planning to slip up. He said, that you have to decide that the more you fall down, the more fiercly you will get up and continue until you finally master whatever it is you are wanting to do.

He also talked about propulsion systems and how with exercise we all ought to have something that makes it so that the closer we get to exercising, the better we feel AND the more we think about not exercising, the worse we feel. Of course, this very statement is a form of hypnosis called "the more the more pattern". The more you read my blog, the smarter you will become. Somehow eventhough it lacks what is called a referential index ("according to", "based on", etc). There are many example of what are called hypnotic patterns, but this is definitely one of them. It's good to know, so that you don't unconsciously get influenced by them. I'm so happy as well that Bandler is recommending exercise and health now. In one of his speeches, he was talking about how prior to going into a mental ward he was adjusting their diets, so that patients were easier to work with.

That's truly outstanding and definitely a sign from my perspective that he definitely is evolving. I sometimes wish that Bandler and Beck would link up as they are two of the smartest people I have ever heard speak. Interestingly, both have struggled with their weights...maybe too much reading and not enough exquisite exercise.
At the current point, my current model of what works is based as follows:

1.) Meditation-Based Spiritual Practice – While other things in the spiritual realm are great, such as IntegralLIfe.com and the teachers that are part of that community, I think at the end of the day good solid quite mind meditation rules.
2.) Exercise and Health – The other day I was having a green smoothie with a close friend of mine, and my friend packs his smoothies jam packed with greens (celery, avocado, mustard greens, parsley, coconut, maca) and boy was it tasty. Equisitely tasty. Anyways, afterwards my whole being felt elated. In that moment, I realized that your health has important spiritual properties as well. And of course exercise speaks for itself, if you want to live a long time, you need to have lots of muscle and very little fat.
3.) Psychology – I have covered a listing of a broad array of helpful tidbits on psychology and its importance.
4.) Bandler – Although Bandler is a subset of Psychology, I make him his own group because of his massive impact on myself and the entire personal development field.
5.) Family and Close Friends – spending quality times with the ones you love. This to me seems like living. I heard recently that the present moment is intersection between the formless infinite and the infinite in form, and when I look at the people I love, I really do feel as a Brother once said "God is always showing you that he loves you"
6.) Your surroundings – something magical hapepned to me when I recently took the time to clean my desk. I then decided that cleaning is releasing the past.
7.) Reading and Learning – I currently focus my studies on learning more about the above areas as much as I can and I strive to get out in the world to do my part. To "do the change that the world needs done" as Don Beck puts it.

I'm also opening to the idea of more perspectives. In my early twenties, I was all about being mr. Informed and had a subscription to US News and World Report. Then, upon my study of personal development and their encouragment that you reduce your news intake to reduct the negativity that was in your life, I stopped listening to all news. Furthermore, through Tony Robbins, I got into "natural health" which believe that all illnesses can be prevented or even cured (this is my interpretation of what I have studied) through the consuption of healthy foods, fasting, and other cleansing related activities, such as colonics. Conventional medicine should only be pursued as a last minute resort. Well, once you adopt that philosophy which was radically different than the traditional philosophies espoused in our scientific instuitions, I kind of cut myself off of what more mainstream science was about. But thanks to my wife, Tom Venuto, and the show the Biggest Loser, I have begun to read the Tufts Nutrition Journal and other sources.

The difference between achieving goals and day dreaming.

2010-05-24T21:02:00.001-07:00

While there is a lot of literature written on goals, I have yet to read much if anything on the importance of having your word be impeccable. You see goal achievement is a simple process of a.) Setting a goal (and possibly sub goals), b.) Creating promises to achieve that goal. I don't yet know why but so many people set goals but few create a promise list OR worse their promise list gets quickly broken within a few days unfortunately.

I myself am a recovering word breaker and it's unfortunate that the deeper I dive into the personal development field the more I find people who's word is worthless. I don't yet know where all this comes from, but I think many in the self-help industry are to blame for this phenomenon. What's more is that few personal development speakers even keep their word to themselves, TRs seminars start late, and hence those followers who seek to model him think – well if TR is late, then it's ok for me to be late. NOT. TR is by no means perfect.

While we are on this topic, I would like to say that ALL teachers' teachings have problems including mine. I have discussed in previous topics endlessly about the importance about studying from many different authors. The nuance that I'd like to add is the importance of going "deep" as well. If you just jump from author to author then you are not getting the beauty and nuances of the deeper teachings. My guess at a guideline is that you should go deep where you feel intuitively more that there is to grasp.

So back on the topic of honoring and being impeccable with your word. You see, I had the good fortune of having some very challenging experiences with some people that you don't want to have to deal with, and through the good fortune of working with a great coach for six-months (JosephFaust.com), he opened my previously stubborn eyes to the idea that many of my problems were coming from my lack of impeccability of my word.

He then put me on an assignment to begin tracking my promises on a sheet. Anytime I made a promise I had to log it on the sheet. Then, at the end of the day, I had to record whether the promises for that day where met or not. Then, if a promise wasn't met I had to explain why it wasn't met. Joseph came up with some beautiful questions, such as "Did you not take your promise seriously? Did you make a promise without fully being conscious of the size and scope of the promise?".

I began to see that unless a promise was realistic, it wouldn't be kept. I can hear the audience already "realistic?". I mean afterall all the personal development stuff is about being "unrealistic". Well, let's trace this all back to how athletes train. Do they set unrealistic promises to themselves on a daily basis? No, they know going in to practice that it will be tough but that they will be able to do it BUT here's the clincher, if I discipline myself to set and keep all my realistic promises to myself, I will begin to develop inner strength. I will create room for myself to be more courageous. I will create room for myself to experiment. It all starts though with keeping and maintaining my promises to myself and to others.

What do most people do? They set promises, and then when you ask them the next day, "So, how did you do with your promises?" They say "well, yesterday was a challenging day". You see they (and me previously) have learned that a bad day is an excuse to not followthrough on the things they've said they are going to do! Where does this come from? It comes from the terrible idea "I can only do if I feel good". That comes straight from Tony Robbins who emphasizes "state management" but even himself admits that he has times when he has just had to reach inside himself and pull it out of himself, even though he emotionally didn't feel good. Furthermore, who is more likely to solve their "state" problems – someone who stops whenever they don't feel good OR someone who no matter what follows through on the things they said they were going to do. Of course, we all know the answer to this. Person B! But yet how many few people get this.

Then, of course we have the law of attraction people who believe that with no to little effort you can "manifest" whatever you want. Yet, Olympians and high performers scoff at the secret and instead espouse committed and focused effort. Many of the people who espouse the law of attraction are over weight from my experience and not very wealthy (I went to a meeting with Esther Hicks followers in a tiny cramped one-bedroom apartment, so much for abundance). I mean seriously how many top performers do you see espousing the secret. I heard that Tony Robbins hated the secret, and I know why – because any philosophy that espouses inaction is retarded. Tell a farmer that he just needs to visualize his farm being outstanding and that his crop will magically manifest. Ha!

Now, of course there is some merit to visualization, goal setting, and affirmations BUT as Tom Venuto points out, the purpose of these is to stimulate more action. That is, if you have a visualization a few minutes before a performance, chances are that it will go better. HOWEVER, you still have to practice. That is skill needs to be bread. Please, please, please – I implore you, don't fall into the trap I fell into and believe the Law of Attraction plus the Secret NO MORE. If anything, these are peak performance tools to be used when you have a solid base of practice and followthrough.

Joseph Faust put it best to me when he saw me listening to Richard Bandler tracks yet not following through with my promises. "You're trying to use a power saw when all you need is a drill, plus the power saw is messing up your life" He was right. By the way, I highly recommend anyone to get a coach in your life. What is a coach? Well, if you think about it, everyone's happiness is caused by a variety of things, such as unhappy with their body, emotions, lack of fulfillment, relationships, lack of relationships, money, etc. The thing is that a coach helps you focus on all the areas of life, so that you can succeed. It is slight different than a therapist, though I wouldn't be surprised if many therapists are now offering coaching as part of their services. But again, a great coach can really help you to achieve.

The point of all of this is to get some integrity into your life. Good Luck!

A Theory about Everything

2010-05-21T21:12:00.000-07:00

A Theory

First off, let me tell you that I am so grateful to be alive. All the trials and tribulations I have been through make me incredibly grateful for the life that I live. While by no means perfect, my life is filled with joy, happiness, bliss, and ecstasty.

First off, let me tell you the exact sequence for freeing myself of some self-imposed fears. Step One was to pull the fast phobia cure from Richard Bandler's "Get The Life You Want" and do the exercise EXACTLY as laid out. I also followed that with the laughter exercise listed in his book. That literally wiped away the fear AND then in the altered state new solutions entered my mind. I then plucked from his writings a great phrase "My fears are dissipating bit by bit". I kept saying that over and over to myself. The power in doing this was that this phrase has slight hypnotic elements and allowed me to dip into a light trance. I then pulled a great line taken from some lectures that I Napoleon Hill did. He recommended in his writing to use it with a coworker that you were having a hard time with. The sentence goes as follows, but first you have to come in with a smile and shake their hand:

"Listen, Pal, from here on out, let's you and I enjoy working together"

I then followed it with "If there is anything I can do to make working with me more enjoyable, let me know. My manager responded "Well, there are a few things that you can do for me." At first, I got angry, thinking "How dare you be so insensitive to my feelings". That is, I was expecting her to be like "Ok, thank you". But, earlier that day, I had listened to an executive summary of "The Secret" from Rhonda Byrnes, and I had remembered that as long as I didn't stop where I was at and kept going and stayed in tune with my outcome that she would enjoy working with me. I stuck it out and during our time together, things got better. Jim Rohn said "Go until". This is what I did.

Now, in this incredibly inspired state, I am going to write this.

First, off, I am going to say that I have come along way. I really like my ability to synthesize several different fields together. Namely, taking and heading the advice of what I think to be the best therapists alive:

1.) Richard Bandler – his strategies for eliminating things that psychologists thought were impossible to cure such as phobias were legendary at the time. He continues to forage ahead with his ability to cure a variety of psychological disorders, such as psychophrenia, obsessive compulsive disorders, claustrophia, and a variety of other bizarre psychological disorders. Why bizarre? Because the easy stuff like depression, etc he can handle quickly and with great skill. One of his students, Paul McKenna, is equally outstanding in his own right.
2.) Tony Robbins – Tony Robbins work is absolutely brilliant because he uses a huge variety of strategies to effectively cure and eliminate a variety of psychological disorders and handles it beautifully on multiple levels. He also implements a lot of spiritual and family-related therapies to get the change. In short, he is tenacious.
3.) Byron Katie – Absolutely legendary in her own right. She literally transforms clientele using her 4 question process. Judge your neighbor, question it, find out its impact on you, who would you be without it, and turn it around. However, she ventures off her formula quite frequently but comes back to her formula and uses it kind of like a general guideline. She is very effective while also being very intelligent. Her process called "The work" is endorsed by many big name coaches, such as Steve Chandler and Steve Hardison.
4.) Marshall Rosenberg – Building off the work of Carl Rogers, Rosenberg encourages people to adopt a different language style called "Giraffe Language", which encourages students to express their feelings. Rosenberg notes that a thought is not a feeling "I feel like you don't love me" is not a feeling but rather a thought intermixed with a feeling. Thoughts create feelings; therefore it would be more apt to skip thoughts express observations and feelings and needs. "When you come home after 8PM, I feel frustration because I am needing love. Will you come home before 8PM tomorrow?"

A willingness to express one's emotions and needs to others is truly legendary and is incredibly courageous in my opinion. Rosenberg is legendary for his ability to express his emotions in incredibly difficult environments thus creating the space for other people to do the same. Rosenberg cites stores of expressing his feelings in front of board room meetings and even in front of gang members. His authenticity then gives other people permission to be authentic.
5.) Cloe Madanes – Although I am not 100% familiar with her work, she gets in to my list in part because Chloe Madanes is partner to Tony Robbins in forming the Center for Strategic Intervention. Furthermore, her strategies (aka techniques) for turning around people are legendary. In short, from her own success stories along with Tony Robbins endorsement, she is a top therapist. A famous story of Madanes was turning around a chronically abusive, misogynistic man by bringing the man's father and his grandmother and using the fact that the grandmother had power over her son as leverage to get the abusive man's father to apologize. After the abusive man's father apologized, the man's father also vowed to help out his son with building a business as a form of reperation. Afterwards, the abusive man stopped abusing women and transformed into a beautiful man. Chloe Madanes ability to identify the root cause of the problem and then fix it by bringing in not only the man's father but also his grandmother into the equation in order to have leverage on the father to apologize to his son is to me extraordinary.
6.) Don Beck – While not a psychologist in the traditional sense, he is almost a social psychologist able to sense and see what a particular group of people, such as an ethnic group in Africa, and give that to them. He uses a form of thinking called "Spiral Dynamics" which states that systems lie in humans mind and affect the way they think based off their life conditions. Like if you are poor and struggle to get food into your mouth, your self-imposed perception of what life is about is going to be different than someone who is wealthy, grew up with safe parents, and was able to go to good schooling and have an overall good life experience. This is by no means saying that other people can't ascend up the spiral as Beck calls it but that in order to do ascend up the spiral typically one's life conditions must change. However, Beck cautions not to try to pursue changing people such that they ascend up the spiral but instead focus on making sure to direct that person in a way that works for them. For example, he was working with an African tribe in Africa, and this tribe (from what I remember) was about to go attack another tribe because "God told them to do it". He said "No, God wants you to take a trek, and on this trek, he wants you to go and do as much good to the nation of Africa". The group listened to Beck and they went on their trek to do good. He didn't try to tell the group that they were wrong for listening to God to tell them what to do. Beck is also a masterful contextualizer (fancy speak for his ability to get people to see things in a different light). Also, great at this are all the psychologists on this list. Of note, is that Tony Robbins stresses that one shouldn't just recontextualize but should sometimes take action. You can reframe why you are overweight, or just take action to get it handled.

The biggest thing that I would recommend to anyone studying psychology is study the successful therapists. Richard Bandler was one of the first to do this, that is to take a strict modelers anti-theory approach and look what it did for him. Anti-theory means rather than forming a theory and then test it, let what works (that is skill, or the ability to do the intended result) form your basis for what works. Bandler studied who were believed to be the most successful therapists at the time, those included Milton Erickson, Virginia Satir, and Fritz Pearls. He continues to study successful therapists and has added to the list Moshe Feldon Kraz (don't think I am spelling that right) as another successful healer. He now is able to do things on camera (YouTube "Richard Bandler The Hypnotist") things that people thought before was impossible. Tony Robbins followed suit by studying many successful therapists but the thing that I love that Tony Robbins did was he felt that there was something missing from his therapeutic interventions, so he continued to read and pursued other therapeutic methodologies and even traveled into arena's that Bandler tells people not to go. More traditional forms of resolving past family difficulties, etc. My own hallucination, and I say this with the utmost respect is that Bandler has yet to resolve early childhood trauma and still continues to act out in a very reckless (at times) manner that taints his image and hence the ability for his messages to get out to a larger body of people.

The biggest breakthroughs for me are to cover a variety of different facets in order to "fill in the gaps" of your understanding. A close friend of the Clinton family says "Nothing short of everything will do". I think of this philosophy which I am beginning to explain here as a ball and in order to fully see the ball you have to look at it through as many different eyes as possible. Only then will you have a comprehensive understanding of what the ball really is. I used to be so fearful to venture away from Tony Robbins, I thought to myself then "But if I go on and study others, what if they're wrong and it messes me up". That was wrong. The truth is that you will take all your positive understandings and learnings with you and they will jump out at you at the appropriate time. Something that I learned from Tony Robbins will make more sense when I see that Byron Katie is doing a similar element. This enhanced understanding allows me to have a better framework in which to operate.

Something that I continue to learn is to go straight to the source. For example, spiritual theorist Ken Wilbur states and uses a lot of developmental psychology as the basis for his work. I for a while would listen to his work and I learned a lot of helpful things. One thing I love is that he emphasizes and encourages followers to see a therapist in addition to spiritual work. However, my understanding of developmental psychology was limited until I went to the source. You see Don Beck was a student of Clare Graves. Clare Graves was the founder of developmental psychologist and was a close friend of Abraham Maslow. However, Maslow admitted in his later years that there is no end to the proverbial developmental staircase. Furthermore, Graves did more than survey people, he did other test to determine their speed of recognition of words and symbols that were typified for their level of psychological development. I'm still learning more about how he did this. However the point of all of this is that my understanding was greatly enhanced once I went to the source and studied Don Beck – the closest source of the work of Clare Graves. I also had equally deep insights when I went to the "source" with NLP instead of learning from students of Richard Bandler, such as Anthony Robbins or Tad James, I went straight to Richard Bandler and his work. This helped out tremendously and I am finding that I am having the same experience with going straight to Don Beck and his audiobook Spiral Dynamics.

At the end of his book, Don Beck states "This is a theory about everything". He carefully notes that it is not "the" theory because their is no such thing (at least I don't think so but if you know it let me know, and I will be sure to hit you up. =)

On Courage and Integrity

2010-05-18T21:09:00.000-07:00

I thought I might right a short expose on the importance of courage. As I have previously mentioned (I think), courage is one of the most important things to develop and cultivate on a continual basis. I used to put courage above everything else, and I think that was incorrect. I had a very wise man (JosephFaust.com) tell me: integrity is the most important. Now, I broke that down to mean the following: honor your promises to yourself and to others and don't make promises that you don't intend on keeping. Integrity must always come first. But here is what I love (I came up with this one…I think): integrity is the container that holds courage. Courage is like a wild beautiful beast that when unleashed streams bountiful energy. However, like any beast, it must be tamed and it is tamed by integrity.

The next thing I would like to talk about courage is the many faces of courage. What does that mean? Well, let's just say that you should never judge your acts of courage but instead do more of them. That is, sending a letter is just as courageous as calling someone up as it is driving over to their house. It's all great. I sometimes use letters as a fall back option in case I don't have the conversation. You can also type up a letter and read it to that person. If you write and send that person a letter, you can add at the bottom, I would be free to speak with you regarding any questions at a time that works for both of us.

You can also get a body and create a courage pod. Start by negotiating a time at which you know the other party will be available and schedule a time. I suggest you tell them "I have an important communication to deliver to you. When will you be free?" If they say, "right now". You can call them OR call your courage buddy. Now, your courage buddy will give you 1-2 minutes of inspiration and some tough love. Then, you're off. Afterwards, you can call your courage buddy and celebrate. Sometimes I don't hear back from people for a while because they are having a very deep conversation and they end up hanging out or something. There is something beautiful that integrity combined with courage can do.

This is compared to the old me. Who would only accept the boldest act, and I would a.) judge others who didn't act in alignment with that, and b.) beat myself up trying to tell myself that I wasn't going to succeed until I did this one courageous action.

Now, I am much more free with courage. I use it as a tool, and it is no longer a tool to say look at me look at how great I am. Instead, it is a great tool for me to bring families closer together. Because I have been willing to be courageous, it has allowed for me to grow really close to all of my family members. But again, I am very free.

I would like to give a shot out to founder of Peer Success Circles (http://peersc.com) who has been a complete inspiration to me when it comes to courage. He would come back to me and say "yeah, I had this conversation with this person", and I would be completely inspired and take on more courage.

Ahh courage, it is never ending as well, which is kind of exciting. That is, there will always be an abundance of courageous actions to take. They are found in all areas of like: courageous workouts – push yourself to the sheer brink of exhaustion, courageous relationships – open up your heart and soul to this person, courageous business – calling up and asking for new business, renogitating or ending existing business relationships, spiritual courage – apologizing to people, etc

But again, it must be tamed with honoring your promises because courage can free up and unleash a tremendous amount of energy within you.

What is one courageous action you can do today? Just one.

As the old saying says "Mile by Mile life is hard, but inch by inch life is a cinch".

In courage,

Geoff, an eternal student of courage

Read on Relationship Tips

2010-05-18T08:54:00.001-07:00

Hey Guys,

I just spoke with a friend of mine and we were brainstorming long term relationship tips. I thought I might share a few since I do get asked what my thoughts are on the subject of relationship maintenance.

1.) CONTINUE TO STUDY ATTRACTION MATERIAL – my thoughts at this point are that it helps to continue to study attraction material while obviously being loyal and faithful at all times to your sweetheart. I think that as you get deeper (I’m over 5 years in) you can get complacent or possibly even lose your attraction skills (you’re no longer attracting women afterall), so it’s vital that you keep developing those.

Furthermore, in an indepth analysis of all the different teachers, we came to the preliminary conclusion that the only real teacher of attraction is David D’Angelo. The rest of the teachers are teaching seduction. Again, this is just preliminary findings, but I noticed that when I studied many of the other big name people my social skills went way up but I didn’t feel like my attractiveness to my sweetheart actually went up.

2.) Avoid Explaining yourself. I asked my friend to better explain it, and he gave me an example.

Explaining yourself example: “I don’t have a job…it’s only because I’m in a transition period”

Explaining yourself example: “I’m only living here because I want to keep my expenses low”.

Why does this not work? It’s almost like saying “The way I am living is not good enough but it’s only for these reasons” VERSUS “This is the way I am…it is what it is”

My friend and I then brainstormed ways to mention things without explaining yourself.

“Just so you know…I don’t have a job right now”

“Just so you know when you come over…my place isn’t some ballerific place that you might be thinking I live in…but I like it”

We then came to the conclusion that there is a fundamental difference between explaining yourself and framing.

3.) Cocky and Funny defined. People still to this day have questions about what Cocky and Funny is so I thought I might make a very clear defintion.

Cocky Funny = funny humor through a superior position/frame.

The key is that the humor must make you look like you are on top.

Examples:

a.) If you behave yourself you might get lucky.

b.) You know you’re allright

c.) Keep that up and you might be sleeping on the couch tonight.

4.) My friend suggested that having “Calm, Chill, and Comfortable” body languageas a way of generating attraction. He said that he could almost see right away the guys that are unsuccessful with women because they don’t project the right type of body language.

My own block here was that I tend to be very high energy, but I have seen myself that guys with very good body language are typically surrounded with attractive women now whether or not we can see that is correlational or causational is up for grabs. BUT, I think having a good, chill vibe is important, and I think a way to do that is regular meditation. Of course there are other ways: traveling, getting out in nature, getting a therapist/counselor/coach, go to Landmark or some other course that helps you clear up the past, yoga (maybe) – basically, anything that will help you to have a more balanced sense of well-being in the world.

And of course, there is got be a balance because I have seen high energy guys with attractive women as well.

5.) Continue to study sex all the time. This was more of a suggestion from my friend, but I am willing to take it on too. This may be obvious to some, but I am still going to say it: chics typically don’t leave guys who are satisfying them sexually.

6.) Come to a place where you are in the relationship to give and trust that it will come back to you. Also, realize that you will go through different phases were you’ll be putting in a lot and not getting much (or so you perceive) and then there will be other times were the opposite will happen. A losing formula that I fell into at one point in my relationship with my wife was the whole judging how much you are getting back. That just does not work. As Tony Robbins says, relationships are a place to give not a place to get. So, really the only way to survive is to give, give, give and trust that it will come back to you. Even Napoleon Hill talked about giving and how it will come back to you, he said something to the effect of “As long as you keep giving, it will come back to you multiplied from some source…maybe not from the source in which you are giving it to but it will come back”. So, if you translate that…that means as long as you give to your sweetie, that goodness will come back to you in some manner. Again, don’t ever fall into the trap of judging what you are getting.

QUICK BIT ON SELECTION

Furthermore, ensure that you have selected the right person. If you are in a relationship and don’t know whether you have selected the right person, unfortunately, I don’t yet have any information for you. However, for those, that are in the process of selecting, some things I would recommend are:

1.) What is her profession? Caring professions (teachers, nurses, healers, etc) tend to make for great mates as they have vowed to be about helping others

2.) What is her relationship with her parents like? If you watch, the show “Tough Love”, a show dedicated toware rehabilitating women who have a hard time in a relationship, EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THE WOMEN HAVE PROBLEMS WITH THEIR FATHERS. Not good if you want to be in a relationships.

3.) What are her goals and aspirations? My wife told me that she wanted to have a house and a family. She also has told me that she will follow me wherever I go. Again, everyone is different, so you just need to make sure that her goals resonate with yours.

6.) What are your fears in the relationship? My friend suggested that this a great conversation to have with your significant others. I haven’t tried it yet, but it seems like it is a good thing to talk about.

The perfection that exists all around us.

2010-05-10T11:11:00.001-07:00

Within us all there lies a beautiful cavern of goodness…just kidding. You guys thought I was going to give an esoteric essay on why we are the way they are.

Well, I'm not, I'm going to speak in good old fashioned 2^nd person on this one, so you are going to have to bear with me.

1.) You need to get a blendtec blender. This one thing will literally change your life. After you get one, talk to me, and I'll discuss with you how to use it. Basically, buy organic greens (preferrably prewashed and chopped), drop them into the blender add water and press the "Juice" button. In about 2 mintues, you can have a tasty juice that would have taken you much longer to make otherwise.

2.) You need to join Peer Success Circles. It's just $100 per month, and it totally rocks.

3.) You need to start counting calories by the meal. Figure out your caloric expenditure for normal days and for weight days. For normal days, I need about 2500 calories. I sliced that into 5 parts, so basically I need 500 calories per meal. I strive to eat 500 calories. To make it easy, I either round to the nearest 50 calories (if I'm eating out say at Subway), or to 25 calories if I'm at home with a small 4 x 6 piece of paper. I also have a food scale. I'm currently sitting at 163 lbs of muscle and 13.3 % bodyfat, so it seems to be working really well.

4.) Get out there and be social. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you can't be social.

5.) Attend Tony Robbins Date with Destiny. By far, this is such a great seminar, and I think it is one of the better ones in the personal development business. Tony Robbins flexes his therapeutic skills, which according to Chloe Madanes are very good.

Insights from my Cousin – A guy successful with women

2010-05-08T11:50:00.000-07:00

My cousin is an amazingly charismatic person. He was born that way in my opinion but I think going out and meeting women really helped him to enhance him. This past weekend, I went to a wedding and had an opportunity to go out with him as part of the bachelor party.

Some things I noticed in him were:

a.) a ferociousness to approach. As soon as he got off the plane, he began approaching and stayed that way for 2-3 days, literally non stop opening women.
b.) coming in high energy into interactions. A lot of guys to play it cool, come in low energy, and while that is an approach that can work, I like going in higher energy because to me it yield to much better interactions where I am more fully self-expressed
c.) extreme positivity. His positivity is reflected through his interactions.
d.) great sense of humor. This is something that I share…although you woudn't get that from reading this…he has a great sense of humor. The way I like ot think about it is…that humor (aka being funny) makes others laugh whereas a sense of humor makes you laugh and invites other people to crack jokes as well. There is nothing more beautiful to me than a woman cracking jokes.

Some things I am noticing in my interactions:

1.) I learned this idea from Sinn, basically, he says when opening sets you start with social comfort and then layer in attract material. That is exactly reverse of what we were taught which is attraction then comfort. I think a good social comfort, where you show that you are cool, confident, and funny are a great foundation. I think that while these are a great foundation and while they may help you succeed with some women, other women may require additional things, such as framing, possibly dhvs. I think a fundamental thing to keep in the back of your mind is to only and always be putting your best foot forward. Now, this doesn't mean to lie as that will blow up in your face later when you go to turn her into your girlfriend. However, I think we can see and we can appreciate that women dress themselves up before going out. In the same way, we want to be projecting great things about ourselves when we go out. If we are an accountant, we talk about how we are an accountant but that we have dreams of becoming an x. This is much more interesting. I think that a big fear that women ride with is that they don't want to be married to a boring dude. I think death for a girl is to marry a nice, stable guy because he has not chance of exciting her. There was a show called "Millionaire Matchmaker", and one of the great things about it was the host of the show recommended to one of her male clients "You should take your date on a hot air balloon ride". The male client was like "What? No woman is ever going to like that". Sure enough if you polled women on whether they would like to go on a hot air balloon ride, most will say yes. What does this prove? As Brad P teaches, "Girls just want to have fun". Obviously, there is more to it but if you are fun and adventurous, your always out to do new things that women like that and grab onto that. As I learned from Body for Life, "the only difference between a rut and the grave is a few feet". So, if you are in a rut right now, in a job you don't like, in a relationship you don't like, consider giving yourself 3 focused months to make the situation better, and then if after 3 months of really focused putting forth lots of effort things aren't better, then maybe it's time to try something new. It will vastly improve your chances with women.

I met a guy once who basically was diametrically opposed to the idea of meeting women on the streets. He (who is a well regarded guru) told me "No one gets laid that way". Because he created that limiting belief, it limited his experience and success. I personally don't believe there are any limitations on game except those you place on yourself.

Another great example is another guy who told me that the only way his game could get better at this point is for him to make more money. That's the equivalent to a basketball player saying, "The only way my game can get better is I put on 5 lbs of muscle". We both know that while the 5 extra pounds can help, that is not an excuse for not practicing your skill. David D talked about how anything is a skill that can be learned, and I love that and think it is true. While it is true, that some have natural advantages, I think we all can think of or name a few 6'5" African American men who didn't go on to become Michael Jordan.

However, I'm also not a fan of making things more difficult than they need to be unless it is to support a frame of breaking through limiting beliefs. That is, if I believe "in order to get hot chics, I need to have on my best threads", I am now limited by that belief system. However, once I have removed that belief, I can then go back and put on great clothes and realize they are more of an enhancement than a crux (I hope I'm using the right word there).

It goes without saying that you should always approach women wanting to leave them better than you found them. If you are just interested in a fling, then that should be made clear. I have heard (and know) of a few guys who like to create deep emotional connections with women as a way of seducing them. A sense of humor is a great way for leaving girls better than you found them and if they don't laugh it means they don't have a sense of humor and they probably weren't your type anyway.

I also speak with a close friend of mine and he has studied but has no practice. That is, he approaches maybe one girl per week. This weekend warrior approach to women will simply not work. I think approaching no less than 30 women per week would get you the type of success you want. You see as it has been explained women get approached from the time they are about 15-16 until the time you meet them. That naturally increases the number of social interactions they have encountered. You on the other hand don't have that experience and need to learn all the subtle nuances that will help you succeed.

I also think that with another friend I know he has no flare when it comes to his dress. He has studied how to dress well but his dress is still kind of "in the box". It's comfortable for him, and he's not trying to push his comfort zone in terms of what he is wearing, and his success. If anything, your dress could impact the way you are pereceived by women. My wife told me that the three most important thing in meeting a guy that she might want to have a relationship are:

1.) Loving
2.) Personality (funny, charismatic, )
3.) Attractive Physically

I think this is reflective of most women. If a guy is attractive but has no personality he will be boring. If a guy is not loving, then you can't really have a relationship with that guy.

Social Pressure. Brad P and I met a few times and we discussed our concepts. It seems working independently we had reached the exact same conclusions. Big Balls win everytime. What does that mean? Well, I had and do always stress social pressure exercises at the beginning of my programs. Why? Because I think that guys approach with fear still in their souls, but by yelling "Freedom" at the top of their lungs in a public place while everyone stares at them. Something is set free. And after that, there approaches are 10-20x more effective. Think about it, how self-expressed are you when you have fear? I even saw a big name guru, take my advice, and I watched how being free of the social pressure, he was set free and did some way better sets than what I was used to seeing. I think of social pressure exercises (Brad P calls them social freedom) as a primer for your evenings. There are other ways you can be set free, but a man set free of his fears and inhibitions when directed by an intelligent mind is a powerful force. (I like that phrase by the way).

Layering Sexuality into your interactions. Yet again, I began noticing what I called Sexual IOIs, and I think later I found out that Juggler had the same term. It is whenever a girl is throwing you signals that say that she is ready to physically take the interaction to the next level. What was great about many of my interactions when I was signal was I was great at reading them and then capitalizing on them. I think one of them is that all the while I have always been in touch with my sexuality. I hear of guys having bed room anxiety, and that is something completely foreign to me. I have met a lot of guys in the LA area and almost all of them at least in my opinion are trying to play it cool (aka safe). They're not particularly self-expressed, there is nothing about them that really strikes out to me. I think most of them are still single many years later, and I think it is because they are all still trying to do all the behaviors but they aren't fearless.

Hang out with PUAs when approaching but keep your normal friends. There is also a tendency for guys to hang out with other PUAs (aka guys learning pickup) all the time. The problem with this is that every single PUA has weird, awkward, and possibly anti-social behaviors which got them into the community to begin with. My behaviors were to reclude into my own world and study, study, study instead of going out and meeting new people, couple that with some arrogance, and fear around approaching and escalating and you have Geoff Graham cerca 2001 (certified douche bag). I don't know in which conversation this evolved but basically it was this idea: do approaches with PUAs and hang out with normal cool guys. Normal cool guys don't do that many approaches, if you try to make them, my experience has taught me that they won't and will try to say "I just like to chill when I go out" (which is fine).

Lower your standard in the beginning. When I first began approaching women, I had in my mind that I deserved a woman as hot as my wife. I refused to talk to any girls that weren't as attractive as her but gradually over time I realized that my skill level did not yet merit the type of woman that I was after. However, through, hard work, diligence, courageousness, and intelligence, I was able to persevere.

Don't get too big into the community. I think some guys get so big into the pickup community that at a certain point they revolt and say no to any pick up stuff. Those guys are still single these days too. They might say "Yeah, I need to get back into that pickup stuff." I think you have to be careful and not get too big into online discussion forums and stuff like that because then it becomes kind of a weird like addiction. I used to be members of all these things but I closed them all out. My only way of keeping in touch with the community are staying in touch with what I undertand are the masters: Brad P, Captain Jack, and El Topo. I learn from them and use Sinn's list of top 10 PUAs to keep on top of who still is on top.

Lose your ego, don't lie, don't exaggerate. I'll admit it. I exaggerated about the quality of the women I was with. I think every PUA (maybe with the exception of Mystery) did that back in the mid to early 2000s. Worse yet, some guys, lied and fabricated lay reports…don't know how that is useful?!? I think the most productive thing you can do for youself is be open and honest as to your success and tell the whole picture. Have you had sex with 50 women, maybe follow that with most were "5s". That way, the person that you are interacting with can get a complete picture of where your game is at. I want to call out Jeffy for being so cool in this way, his lay reports almost always reflected the quality of the women he was with. He also grew very fast into the community and while his game was a little technical in my opinion, there were a lot of great fundamentals on which he rested his game, and I being kind of all over the place and then some, learned a lot from hanging out with him. He has great insights and strengths in a lot of different areas, and he is one of the most beloved figures in the PUA community.

Don't buy into the MLTR, bisexual chic hunting vibe of the community. A lot of guys talk about it and most who do it are kind of disturbed. Most women are not bisexual but furthermore, is that a healthy thing to pursue? Is that the best use of your time? Then, there is having multiple long term relationships. Most guys that fall into this are also kind of weird and can't be taken out in public. I would say go into the community looking for a special girl and keep your goal focused on that. Follow your gut and your intuition, and if something isn't feeling right, it isn't. I had one girl where everything logically seemed to be checking out, but then later, after I had broken it off with her, found out some pretty interesting facts about her.

Be Model Agnostic. There are so many different models and theories, your best bet is go skim, skim, skim, and then maybe go deep with a teacher who really speaks to you BUT continue to move on. Every model and teacher (including me) has problems, so your best bet is to get a well rounded perspective. Also, avoid any philosophy that is not an action based philosophy. That is, any philosophy that espouses that you not do approaches because this is the bedrock cornerstone foundational skill of meeting women and must continue to be cultivated. There for a while back in like 2006 was a push toward lifestyle and having sex with women. My thoughts on that are without the skills gained from solid, consistent approaching, you won't be able to capitalize on those women. Before I got into the community, I went to plenty of great parties where there were lots of women, and somehow I was never able to convert any of those. My lifestyle was giving me plent of opportunities…what was wrong? I didn't have the skill to capitalize. TR (who probably learned it from someone else) said "When opportunity meets preparation, that is what people called luck". It's opportunity + preparation. Preperation is comprised of your approaching skills, hair, clothes, and grooming, and opportunities are getting into cool parties, cool clubs, cool trips with lots of beautiful women. Again, I went on really cool trips before I was in the community and met lots of beautiful women but somehow never converted them.

Ethereal versus non-ethereal states and Bandler versus Madanes

2010-04-24T15:06:00.000-07:00

I just had a conversation with someone close to me, and she was saying that she has a problem with ethereal states because it's hard to function and she says that it makes it hard to communicate with others. As a frame of reference, someone who is very ethereal is someone who knew about and talked about the Law of Attraction long before it existed, someone who is very much about energy, vibes, etc. Now, some great examples that pop into my mind are kind of like hippie chics, in Los Angeles you can find a lot of these at a spiritual worship place called Agape. The positive aspects about this type of person is that they always uplift you. Like when I speak with this person I really feel good almost like they are channeling a lot of energy. Again, the drawbacks to this type of person is that with all that energy it is hard to stay present, and you from my experience won't find a person like this having high standards as they are so much in the cosmic realm that they don't really develop all the traits necessary for achievement. However, again, hanging around them is uplifting and you will find people like this really digging into their forgiveness issues and being very accepting and loving.

On the other the hand, you have grounded centered beings. I have someone very close to me who is like this. She is all about being hardworking, and her life is always about going to work and then enjoying her free time by hanging out with friends, spending time with family, keeping the house clean. The pros about this person are that they are very reliable; you won't find yourself getting frustrated with this person (they might get frustrated with you). Another pro is that they are "functional" that is they typically handle all areas of their lives (or at least most of them). The cons is that while you won't feel down, you won't leave this person feeling incredibly uplifted. The other con is that they have very clever ways of rationalizing why they don't put more attention on the spiritual sides of themselves.

I myself am working to find a bridge between the two. I went from hardcore ethereal to hardcore grounded. I am wanting to find a balance between the two. Since Monday where I had a powerful breakthrough surrounding an experience that occurred in my childhood, I have really opened up to the ethereal states more. Furthermore, I let go (or am in the process of letting go) the constant hypnosis that I did like day in and day out I would be listening to a hypnosis track. I did this for over 2 years. I would not recommend this to anybody as it is extremely obsessive and while it made some positive profound shifts in me there were some unexpected consequences. I guess the rule of thumb is that you never want to one model one person to closely. If you model Mr. Robbins too, you might start getting angry…he is prone to get angry. If you model Bandler too much, you might start getting frustrated and have violent thoughts, Bandler mentions violence in a lot of his programs and talks about his frustrations.

*A lot of these ideas I first heard in James Ray's programs

That also leads me to discuss something else. A dichotomy that I am just now diving into. Basically, you again have two camps or schools of thoughts on psychotherapy.. You have Richard Bandler's "the content isn't important it's how the content is structured" camp. This camp contends that the things that people do (bad habits, feelings, negative addictions) are simply things that you do inside your mind and therefore if you change how they are being represented you can change the individual. This approach does work and in fact to my knowledge prior to Bandler no one was able to cure phobias and now phobias are continually curred throughout the world. This approach works from all types of things and taps into powerful linguistic channels which allow one to literally reprogram themselves for achievement. The downside is that it is almost anti-content that is Richard Bandler would prefer that you have amnesia for a traumatic experience ever having happened, and he can do so. However, this to me is possibly where this approach is taken too far. I mean, yes, if the traumatic experience is so traumatic then why not change the representation such that the pictures are more sizable and the person can still handle the situation without getting overwhelmed. Bandler's camp contains that sometimes people have problems with overwhelm whenever the mind is representing pictures to closely to the viewers perspective. Bandler (possibly in the interest of time) would rather just give someone an amnesis and be done with it. I'm sure not all in his camp operate like that but since he heads it and they follow it, then I am going to use the philosophy that I have seen him espouse.

And the Madanes (and probably Satir camp) which says that the content is important and if you can heal the content that person's life changes…for the better. Madanes might look at you and try to figure out where in your life something went wrong and try to heal that. She would use multiple things including bringing other family members into the therapeutic session to do coaching. She would also look for leverage points in the situation to affect change on the person. Like the father is really mean, so he brings in the father's mother, who he listens to and respects. She states and has many case examples of affecting change in this way. Now, Bandler might look at this and say and notice things that she was doing linguistically (specifically hypnotic patterns that she might unconsciously be using) and try to distill what she was doing. He actually did exactly this with Virginia Satir where he began looking at the language patterns that she was using and sought to model them. I think the big breakthrough with Bandler is that understanding does not always create change – there has to be more. For me, my experience earlier this week was healed by going through a very specific process with my coach (JosephFaust.com) where we not just touched the painful childhood memory but he asked me very specific questions in a very loving way in order to affect change while also keeping in mind the power dynamic (I kind of helped him there) so that you leave the situation leaving empowered. You see the thing is that Madanes knows that an individual can find it hard to leave a situation or let a situation go if they don't feel like they have any power. A great example (from Madanes work) is an example of a brother who essentially took money from a sister, and she fought and fought for him to give it back, and she had a hard time letting it go. She told her to let it go and move on with her life but before she did to make what he had done to her public to the rest of the family. She states that by making a problem public, you take away the power that secrecy has and that society typically will come to your aid. I actually applied this with a family member and noticed that the approach did work. I still sometimes have forgiveness issues with this person but I think I will handle that with some things I am working on in that area.

Now,

A Lesson Learned when getting Married

2010-04-23T12:18:00.003-07:00

One thing I never learned is how to slide in that you are taken from the beginning of the conversation, so that it sets the right tone for the interaction with a member of the opposite sex. If not done in the beginning, it can lead to a big let down later with the other person and is in my opinion bad karma. I like to slide it in as soon as possible and will use any context to slide it in.
Her: I like your hair
Me: Thanks my wife did it
Her: I like your shirt
You: Thanks my wife hates it
Her: I am so tired
Me: Yeah, I know my wife has been really tired lately too
*Anything you can do to slide in there that you are taken is a must.

Unrelated Interesting Facts:

Interesting: I just heard that someone modeled Erickson so closely that they started developing symptoms of polio
Interesting: that whole setting goals study never actually occurred, no researcher has ever found that such a study ever even existed

Short Vignette on Having Powerful Conversations

2010-04-23T12:18:00.001-07:00

Hey All,

The other day I was in a meeting. There was a lot of under the table the stuff going on the in the meeting. I asked a colleague, "how did you get your email to go onto your phone?" He replied "I willed it to happen". The guys around him started to laugh. I felt off from that conversation and started to go home. I then though to myself "fuck this". I grabbed his cell phone number from the employee directory, and I said to him.

"Hey man [insert subtle pretext to call...in my case it was to ask him if we would train me]...hey by the way, in the meeting, when I asked you about the email, you said you willed it to happen, I wanted to make sure that I didn't offend you in anyway" He replied "Let me tell you something...if I offended you, you'll know because it will be the last time". I said "Ok, man, take care".
I felt good about myself for being more proactive about the interaction. I then got notice the next day from my manager that this same guy had reported me for saying the word "fuck" in a meeting. Nice.

Lesson Learned: stay away from these people...something that continues to be reinforced with each passing day.
Adios,
Geoff

Fwd: Short Read on my thoughts

2010-04-03T18:01:00.001-07:00

I think that Eban Pagan and Frank Kern both have great insights.

I am not about manipulation, hype, or even being misleading. Even though I was kicked out of West Point (I like to tell people that), there were certain points of ethics that I learned there which I take very seriously. Of course, I haven't always lived up to those ethics AND I am absolutely committed to becoming as ethical as possible.

I saw your quote "laughter releases positive chemicals". I'd again like to emphasize that those positive chemicals actually make one more intelligent, thus my interest in it. Of course positive chemicals are great AND the thought that they can make you more intelligent thus really allowing me as someone aspiring to high achievement to step apart from the crowd.

From my perception, everyone else is being really serious, projecting an image that their work is perfect and has no flaws, and then if I, Geoff, can find a way to be authentic and vulnerable while also showing that I have put in my time, I think that for me feels really good. I am actually grateful that I didn't achieve the results I had wanted to at the age I had wanted to because that would have more deeply encouraged and strengthened my ego.

I'll never forget the quote from James Ray's lawyer "James Ray is not a wealthy man" although James' books were entitled "Harmonic Wealth".

With regards to obtaining win-win results, I am absolutely about that. I am fundamentally rock-bottom about that.

Much Respect,

Geoff

Fwd: Short Read re: active and passive forms of income.

2010-03-30T21:34:00.001-07:00

Hi,

A fundamental distinction that I have gotten from Steve Chandler's work is the idea that you have to be in action, doing both what I will call active and inactive forms of revenue generation. Inactive forms of revenue generation could be creating a website that you will drive internet traffic to. Other inactive forms of revenue generation could be creating a new product, etc. Active forms of revenue generation are having powerful income generating conversations, so for a coach it might mean going through your email and following up with past clients, calling potential clients, calling clients who expressed an interest, calling referrers to offer tastes of exceptional value to them or to a potential referee.

I know from my experience with coaching guys with dating was this was the fundamental mistake they all made was that they (and me too) would spend all this time learning new information and would get involved with very passive forms of meeting women (online dating, creating a social group that might eventually yield me hot women) AND while these forms of meeting women are valuable and should be pursued, very few are doing the active form of meeting women, which with women means doing cold approaches and calling the girls whose phone numbers you already have. As a side note, I thank Tyler Durden for constantly staying on me to follow up on my phone numbers. He had methods to follow up on all his numbers like calling half his girls on one day and half on the next. I was really good at the initial approach but then wouldn't stay on top of my follow-ups. (primarily out of fear)

I really think that this translates really well into generating immediate income PLUS it gives you a burst of passion and fire for your passive income generating projects. Joseph Varghese and I developed the question: what is one courageous action that you can do today that will provide immediate income? For me today, it was to call Juicy and get referrals for any potential immediate dating coaching clients (he didn't answer).

For a friend of mine, it is to send an email to a mass number of people asking them to enroll in his program, many of whom he hasn't spoken with in years and don't know what he is up to.

Whatever it is, I think taking what I'll call "active income generating actions" WHILE also pursuing more longterm income generating projects. Doing both is the key AND doing the "active income generating actions" gives you so much power and drive from my experience!!

Hope this helps…though you may have already known this,

Geoff

A Song for a Young Successful Person by Carl Anderson.

2010-03-01T05:11:00.000-08:00

There was a singer named Carl Anderson who spoke a beautiful song. He sang this in front of the Agape Spiritual Community. I listen to it whenever I need a little boost. There is a portion of the song where it gets really inspirtational (about 1:10) into the song where he starts with

Walk On
Through the Wind
Walk On
Through the Rain
Though your dreams be tossed and blown

Walk On
Walk On
With Hope
In Your Eyes

And you’ll never walk alone

Sample the song below

Quick Vid on State Management

2010-01-21T21:19:00.000-08:00

Hey Guys,

I made a quick video on my findings on state management.

Thanks,

Geoff

Some Tips on State Management from Geoff Graham on Vimeo.

Overview of Fantastic 7 AND Global Beliefs

2010-01-12T13:04:00.000-08:00

Here is a longer video: 23 minutes that I made on the Fantastic 7 (principles I learned over the course of 2+ years that really make an outstanding life AND the concept of global beliefs.

New Post Entitled: Overview of Fantastic 7 AND Global Beliefs from Geoff Graham on Vimeo.

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2010-01-12T01:38:00.001-08:00

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Quick Video How I learned to Manage My State

2010-01-12T00:26:00.001-08:00

Hey Guys,

I made this quick video for you to see how the process through which I went to manage my state:

Quick Video on Creating a Winning Psychology

2010-01-12T00:21:00.000-08:00

Hey Guys,

I made this quick video to explain a powerful new technique that I just discovered which should radically transform your psychology. Now, definitely leave comments as you have them...adios!

Single to Soulmate

2010-01-02T18:58:00.000-08:00

The purpose of this is to add insight into what I did to get myself from being a Single Guy to attracting a soulmate and then keeping her and successfully having a great relationship for the past 5 years. A lot of what I am going to tell you is possibly stuff that you have already heard but I think it would be cool to see the exact things that I did to get to where I want, and I am going to break this up into 3 parts: getting the girl, attracting the girl, and blossoming the relationship

Getting the Girl

Now, there are a lot of theories and books out their on the market on dating for guys, and for those new to this sphere dating the way I define it is getting yourself to the first few dates with a girl. However, there is a caveat but you must read on to find it. My journey started off with a simple book called Double Your Dating which I promote heavily because it is a resource that I personally used to form a great foundation for me to get this area of my life handled. I bought Double Your Dating and the Advanced Series. You see I had previously began to get other areas of my life together, but this one area (women...I wanted a girlfriend specifically) is one that I never quite got the hang of. Whenever my cousin told me about Double Your Dating, I immediately went and bought it. I studied it heavily and afterwards..I felt so full of hope and optimism that I went out and began practicing the book's techniques. I love the book because it lays solid fundamentals (please note there is more to this article than just a plug for Double Your Dating so please keep reading) AND the book espouses getting your inner psychology together. You see I have had the privilege of hanging out with a majority of all the major professional attraction coaches AND I have seen many guys with many philosophies. Some are purely outergame based and have very sophisticated theories and ideas as to how it attraction and seduction works AND yet other experts don't have quite the sophistication yet still produce results. HOw is that? Well, it is because they have their inner psychology together. I heard a great exercise from Tony Robbins that you probably can apply it to any area of your life. The basic thing is to write down all your fears and all the things that you don't want to do BUT have to do in order to accomplish the goal and resolve to face those fears AND resolve to do those things that you'd rather not do UPFRONT. Again, the exercise comes straight from Eben Pagan's interview with Tony Robbins. What are your inner conflicts with dating and women? Here are some realities of getting your soulmate that you are going to have to face up front

REALITY #1.) You will be laughed at, feel humiliated, feel discouraged, feel like quitting, go out nights and be challenging by your fears, feel insecure.
RESOLVE TO HANDLE THESE WHEN THEY COME UP

REALITY#2.) Myth: That you can find some magic recipe that will make the journey easy and painless
HAHAHAHAH - yeah right this is going to be a journey that is going to stretch you beyond all belief. If you think it is going to be easy and you can find some magic way of attracting girls on the internet that will be sweet and easy, YEAH RIGHT.

REALITY#3) That you will have to get good with women before you can attract your soulmate.

Here are some things that I did to begin the process of getting good with women. First off, I knew very little about women, so following a "naturals" advice (someone who is already successful with women) advice, I purchased Sex and the City to get a better idea into dating and sex. If I were thinking about it now, here are some other things to do to help you learn about women and dating

1.) Californication (watch how smooth Hank Moody is)
2.) Tough Love (begin to understand the kinds of things that women look for AND the internal struggles they face)
3.) Read Susan Jeffers "Feel the fear and do it anyway" along with her companion book "End the Struggle and Dance with Life"
4.) Workout consistently AND intensely (helps out with overall stamina)
5.) Attend a Landmark Seminar (really great stuff on healing your relationships)

Ok, so with that said, the next step is the hardest one is to get out there and start approaching. This is the crucial step that you must maintain throughout your entire journey with women until you meet your soulmate. It is a common excuse to not approach women for a variety of reasons BUT the people that I saw with these excuses are still single today. There are a variety of techniques to help you overcomes your fears, but at the bottom of the day, the release should compel you to start taking action. These are the ones that I have found to work for me:

1.) Tony Robbin's Unleash the Power Within
2.) Finding a buddy who is fearless OR will get you to approach women
3.) Completely immerse yourself in reading about the tales of the professional pick up artists (PUAs as they are called) on fastseduction.com (some of the names to read about are Tyler Durden, Sinn, Captain Jack, Mystery, PlayboyLA, BradP, etc).
4.) Join a local seduction group that incorporates approaching as one of its many activities (it's great to go to a group BUT if it doesn't lead for you to actually talk with new women and try the techniques THEN it was just more information). A common doctrine in the attraction and seduction community is 2:1 -- for every 1 hour of study you should be out there approaching women for 2 hours.
5.) Use Mystery's method of x number of approaches per night and follow through with it! (Me personally, I would go out and say ok tonight I am going to do 12 approaches, and I would not go home until I had done all 12 approaches)
6.) In the beginning of my journey, I started off just telling girls that they were beautiful and walking off (this can lead to a bad habit of "ejecting early" or in laymen's terms leaving the interaction prior to a successful outcome or her asking you to leave). With all that said, this approach of just walking up to women and saying hi nonetheless helped me. I
7.) I also joined a dating site where I would get women's instant messaging screennames, and have short fun flirtation interactions. I think this was good because it got me more interactions with women is so crucial. One thing I used to teach is that a hot women has been approaches 1,000s of times, so her social intelligence is highly cultivated AND it is time for you to do the same.

Again though, I think that you have to get past all your inner conflicts because without this crucial step you won't take the amount of action necessary to see results. You should follow TR's formula of 1.) Your vision and why, 2.) model the best, 3.) resolve innerconflicts then that will help you out. The key is are you taking new massive action. The reason why I say you have to resolve your innerconflicts is because you will need to stick with this and go talk with 20-30 new girls per week (my own estimation), so that you begin to remold your personality that will be one that will attract your soulmate. Now, one other thing to do as you start off on this Journey (credit TR for this one but I think he got this from someone else). Create a list of all the attractive qualities you want in a female AND all the attractive qualities that you would rather not have in your soulmate. THEN, after you have made that list, ask yourself which of these are "musts" and which ones are nice to haves. But, here is where it gets good, then create a list of the qualities that YOU would need to have in order to attract that person and then focus on cultivating those in yourself. Does that make sense? Basically, it's list attractive qualities in a mate THEN list traits that you would need to have in order to cultivate that personality. An easy tip that you can do is ask yourself "What is something [insert trait] that I can do today?" One thing you can do to cultivate these new qualities in yourself is to pursue goals and hobbies that will help you develop those qualities. Like if you want to be brave, sky diving and rollercoaster riding is a great start BUT taking action is still key. It's good to have that list and keep it handy and reflect on it throughout your journey.

One thing that also helped me in "opening more sets" (translation talking to more women) was having a few openers (canned conversation starters) and other canned (prescripted) material because it gave me more confidence. However, I think that without sufficient social intelligence you can use canned lines as an excuse to not learn anything SO I would recommend you make it a daily practice to listen to an NLP track from Richard Bandler on a daily basis. This will help keep your mind sharp, so you can begin to notice all the subtitles in your interactions and notice which of the things you say yield the best responses -- basically, so you can learn.

Hang out with naturals (guys naturally good with women) but don't go out at night with naturals (naturals can be fun some nights, jealous others, and a drag other nights). Your free time should NOT be spent with other people who you are pursuing becoming more successful with women with BUT instead should be spent with other naturals. If naturals don't want to hang out with you, then make it your job to be cool. Make a study of cool. Find out what are cool clothes, cool music, cool movies. What is cool? In my opinion, it is just an emotion or a feeling that you get. Point of the matter is that a natural has all the attractive traits that you want to rub off on you, so you need to get a baseline of coolness to hang out with them.

Be fearless - I met my wife by approaching a group of people -- men and women (given she did make eye contact with me)

New Strategies and Tips -- If I was doing it all over again, I would follow the above AND I would consult and study from the following teachers

1.) Brad P (really good with women and solid fundamentals)
2.) Captain Jack (his stuff on sexual framing is really powerful)
3.) Sinn (he is massively intelligent and everytime I spoke with him or read his stuff it really made a lot of sense to me)

Also, I would listen to NLP consistently to help keep a flood of good positive feelings. I would work with a good coach/therapist to help me resolve my deep inner conflicts. I would ensure that I had a job because women ain't going to get you a job -- unless it is a pickup instructor which is a dead end job. I would pick up the practice of meditating just 2 minutes morning and night. Stay disciplined...you need to have your life together because then you can really capture in your mind and on paper what is working and what is not. Without this simple step, you will not be able to have the same success level. However, getting your life together is not an excuse to stop going out and approaching women. This needs to be a weekly if not daily practice just like going to the gym or anything like that. Approaching women has to be a habit until you meet your soulmate AND no half ass approaches, when you do an approach you need to put your heart and soul into it. As my mentor Joseph Faust (www.josephfaust.com) taught me, practice does not make perfect....perfect practice makes perfect.

Other tips for your journey...as you are meeting women the fundamental mindshift that really helped me was learning that you had to first have sex with women before you could pursue them for a relationship. Being a virgin when I first began this journey, I had no idea that that is how it was supposed to go. I just thought you would make eye contact, fall in love, have sex and live happily ever after. The process is actually more like: eye contact, sex, fall in love, and live happily after. Throughout my process, I learned that these were biggest breakthrough points for me

Learning to Kiss a woman
Having sex
Getting dates

The funny thing that I noticed along the journal is really best encapsulated "Fortune does not change men, it unmasks them" - Suzanne Necker. I know someone who as soon as he had these skills over time began to cheat on his girlfriends AND even in myself, I noticed that if I was in a relationship I would miss the single life with the "thrill of the kill" so to speak. That is, the thrill that you get right before you are about to have sex with a new woman but I also know that it is a rather emptiness and any positive feeling soon fades.

Anyways, so once you have the girl, then my experience has taught me that you need to see her on a fairly frequent basis in order to loop her into a relationship. Now, in order to do that should be simply. Now, voila, once you have done that you should have her in a relationship.

The final step is relationship maintenance, there is no other better resource that I have found for relationships than Tony Robbins. I recommend:

1.) Tony Robbin's Ultimate Relationship Program
2.) Tony Robbing's Date with Destiny

NY Times interviewed me -- there are a few notes I scribbled on what you could do if you were married to spice up your relationship.

What other things did I do when I was at real social dynamiccs that carried over well to my relationship?

Being in the moment and spontaneous - not always but sometimes acting on impulse -- women dig spontaneity. My wife is very health conscious, and then one evening I brought home a huge ice cream sundae, and she hadn't had an ice cream sundae in years, and she loved it. I remember how my wife met all the pickup artists, and the one she like the most she said was "the most fun".

Occupying the obstacles -- meeting and maintaining good relationships with her friends. When your out, you want to subtly tell her friends all the good things that your wife has been saying about them, and you want to just be relaxed and confident while making sure to not be condescending.

Having balls (as pickup artist --> making that approach, as a married guy --> making that tough call to your mother in law to ask her how she is doing OR speaking with a relative that you haven't spoken to OR being able to have those tough conversations with your wife about the things that are on your mind)

Having the balls to be honest.

Not being needy - I was totally cool if she wanted to go out with her friends, and actually encouraged it.

Establishing an emotional connection - Tony Robbins coined a word called meadowing, and I realize that that is what I was doing al along just talking about my day and all the things that I was doing even if it seemed pointless. According to the theory that Robbins espouses, women trust other women who "meadow"

Killer sense of humor - not being afraid to crack a joke and push the edge a little bit with my sense of humor

What other things did I learn from working at real social dynamics that would help out a guy in a relationship?

Hang out with other men who are in happy relationships - single guys tend to sabotage your progress as they get jealous at all the time that you are spending. Becoming a PUA is only an inbetween step between single and soulmate.

Be Courageous and don't give up on your passions -- even if you don't yet make money from it, I think women are attracted to a man with a sense of purpose.

Pretend game -- Sometimes I say to myself and play a pretend game where this is a chic who I haven't banged yet, and it's good.

going logical -- Don't complain about not getting laid -- I started to not get laid by my wife, and I started to complain to her about it and tell her all the LOGICAL reasons why she should be having sex. No go. Instead, focus on hitting the tony robbin's 3 attraction switches of being in the moment, masculinity, and sense of humor.

Cavemanning -- I like to pickup my girl sometimes when I see her and give her a big hug and pick her up and twirl her.

Learn to dance but not try to be the showboat --

Women need to feel validated - I like to dress up and go out with our cool couple friends, and I think that makes my wife feel very validated which she needs from time to time. Make her feel cool. cool fashion sense.

don't be afraid to tease her a little bit -- a slap on the arm is a good thing (credit david d)

make the decisions -- if women see that you are indecisive, it annoys them.

sms your girl -- just like closing chics can usefully employ sms so can having a great relationship

Get over the power struggle in a relationship -- be an adult. I was super non-trusting when I entered relationships, and I wanted to be in control all the time but I found that as I relinquished control I felt happier.

The importance of exercise along your Personal Development Journey

2009-11-10T03:33:00.000-08:00

I went to a Tony Robbins' UPW in April of 2008, and the big thing that I took home from that seminar was the idea that I needed to reignite my connection with the masculine part of myself. Luckily, I had a friend (who has since become my best friend) who I had to workout with. In fact, I don't know how long the commitment would have lasted without him, but regardless, this one skill has dramatically impacted my life for the better. I'll explain how (obviously there are the health benefits as well including things about how weight training actually reverses the aging process). Anyways, here is how I think intense exercise aids you in your personal development journey.

First, it helps you reconnect with your empowering purpose and practice the skill of applying your empowering purpose. I think you should definitely aim to weight train intensely, so whenever you think about quitting you can reconnect to your "why". Now, of course your "why" will change over time. At first, my why was to reconnect with my masculine side of myself, then it was to inspire other people, and now it is mens sana en corporo sano (sound mind in a sound body).

Next, it is an amazing state changer. I call it my only drug of choice. During my lunch break, rather than go to the local restaurant for food or hang out in the office, I put on my running shoes and go running. Here's a tip, if you come back into the office and don't have time to shower, get some baby wipes and give yourself a "baby wipe bath".

Next, it builds discipline which will come in handy. Going after a fitness goal either via body composition such as getting to a certain bodyfat percentage or packing on a certain amount of lean mass) OR via a fitness goal such as completing a triathalon will build your discipline to the highest level.

A couple tips along your journey

1.) For those really serious about body composition don't even consider starting without the aid of Tom Venuto. He is simply amazing in terms of his depths of sophistication and understanding of how to create an amazing physique. When I finally gave in and began applying his techniques, my success soared. For those wanting what I think is the best program on the market in terms of sophistication, please consult either Tom Venuto's Ebook by just going and buying it by clicking here OR you can checkout his new program "Body Fat Solution" which I love (got me to consistently lose about a percentage point every two weeks) . There is no website for it, so this link will actually take you to Amazon. click here. Those are really the only two resources I can vouch for.

I did Body for LIfe and then Shawn Philips program (Absolution) for 5-6 years and I would recommend reading both of those books for the insights and options that you have in training. Another book, which I think is good, but haven't read cover to cover is Shawn Phillips latest book "Strength for life". Again, I think it is good to read to get different perspectives on what could work but at the end of the day Tom Venuto still has my vote.

2.) Get a copy of p90x. It has helped me out tremendously with a.) getting the idea that a properly formed training session works as follows:

3 weeks of weight training and cardio and maybe 1 day of yoga/stretching,
1 week of just cardio and yoga/stretching

You don't have to follow it all the time but having some at home resources is great for when you can't make it to the gym. You can read more about P90x here.

3.) Get a workout partner who has high fitness standards.

4.) See if there is a place where you can get your body composition tested professionally. This is the place I go to. It is called Fitness Wave, and they have a mobile testing station that sometimes comes to Los Angeles where I live. I personally don't trust calipers, accumeasure calipers, body fat percentage scales, or any of the other gadgets that attempt to approximate body fat percentage ALTHOUGH they could work for some people as some people say that since say a scale displays a pretty consistent reading (although inaccurate) they can use it to track changes in their body fat percentage. A new great resource is the following link which will show you all the places that have available BodPod testing. What is a bodpod testing? It is the 2nd most accurate (next to underwater testing) available on the face of the Earth. Here is a link to the places that offer bodyfat tested with the BodPod by clicking here

4.) My friend Randy would be upset if I didn't plug the Crossfit training method. So there's my plug, it is a super challenging, high intensity, short to medium duration ass whooping. I had some amazing results including putting on 2 lbs plus of muscle in a week although I wasn't able to maintain that although I don't yet know why (I think nutrition). You can read more about the training methodology by clicking here

5.) Get an iPod and load some awesome inspirational tunes. Here is a list of the songs that I jam to:

Thubthumping by Chumbawamba
Love You Save by Jackson 5 (that's right)
Lightning Crashes and Overcome by Live
Right Here by Randy
One Step at a Time by Jordin Sparks
Call on Me by Eric Prydz
How do you Sleep by Jesse McCartney
Use Somebody (Christian Luke Reboot) by Kings of Leon (amazing song you have to get this version)
I Surrender by Kate Ryan
We Break the Dawn by Michelle Williams
Elements of LIfe by DJ Tiesto

Nature Therapy and other things

2009-11-08T14:19:00.001-08:00

Hey,

A fundamental skill I think at least is nature walks. Nature is
incredibly cleansing. Being around all the trees, the wildlife, and the
seclusion really nourishes your soul and spirit and really helps you to
see what is really true. I live by Griffith Park in Los Angeles, and
there are some amazing trails to go on. I am now going to make it my
weekly ritual to do at least once because the benefits are so huge. You
can also take your iPod loaded full of audiobooks, inspirational music,
and works from Richard Bandler and Paul McKenna. Now, while not a
requirement it can really add to the experience because when your in a
certain state certain ideas will be available to you. So powerful is
getting out with nature that you can almost not afford not to do it. In
addition to the mental and spiritual benefits, there are tons of health
benefits. What do plants exhale? Of course oxygen, so your enriching
your cells with all that beautiful oxygen. Furthermore, some say that
it is good for your eyes to be out in nature to do the massive amounts
of visual diversity that lend themselves toward really benefiting your
psyche.

Plus, walking/hiking is great cardiovascular work if you find a
trail that has hills (or you go jogging for say the first 30-60 minutes
of it). Seriously, devote part of your Saturday or Sunday to doing so.
I left this morning at about 9AM and returned at about 12PM. So amazing
it was, I had all types of insights and I also felt in touch with God
that creative spirit that governs all things. I can't emphasize this
enough. It can recharge your "batteries" so to speak, and you will
sleep soo soundly. Plus, I think you need to reconnect with what is
real and true and what a great way to do so. While on this walks, I can
see how a guy like Ralph Waldo Emmerson and other people would seclude
to a cabin somewhere because there is something amazing that happens
when you are out with nature.

Now, with 21st century technology, you listen to great works of wisdom
while enjoying the outdoors. Amazing that you can get almost any book
in audio format and listen to it while on a hike.

Gratefully departing,

Geoff

God Delusion, Personal Growth Chunks, and Suffering

2009-11-06T22:09:00.000-08:00

Hey Guys,

Geoff here again, and today, I'm writing to you to something that happened to me called the God Delusion. I think you should be aware of it as you are going along on your personal development journey, and it is summed up by a phrase that I heard James Ray say which is "Pride precedes the fall". That is as you start making progress on your life be weary of this false sense of confidence that could happen to you. Remember that are a human being, and just remember to make Good Decisions always and forever. Now, one thing else I'd like to mention to you are things I call Personal Growth Chunks, you get Personal Growth Chunks every time you

1.) Attend a seminar and have a breakthrough

2.) stick with it and achieve a goal

3.) Watch when the word can't comes up and you go anyways. This comes from a concept that I believe Richard Bandler coined, which is "If you can't, you must, and if you must, then you can".

4.) when you feel like quitting and you keep f**king going.

5.) You act courageously

Each time you do any of these things, you get a personal growth chunk. The basic idea is that a guy like Tony Robbins has accumulated a lot of these, and he started at a very young age. At 16, he began studying personal development, but he did not have a "cushy" life. He was the person who according to him did all the shopping, cooking, and cleaning in the household, and if you're anything like me, you didn't grow up like this. I had my mother doing a lot of this, and I was free to be a teenager. Obviously both types of upbringings have their advantages, but the thing I'd like to mention though is that he was accumulating personal growth chunks at a very young age. Therefore, to get to any level of success to even approximate what he has done we must embrace at least numbers 1 - 5 above. Now, I know that's not what you want to hear whenever there is a seminar promoter, book, telelclass, coach, who is saying come with me, and I'll change your life. Don't believe it. Change will only come from lasting and life long commitment to the above. By the way, the list above is not exhaustive by any means.

The other idea I want to talk about today is embracing the idea of suffering, that is realize that suffering is a part of life. I hate to say this, but I think it is really one of the fundamental truths. If you try to run from it, I think you can't fully realize your truest potential. Now, that doesn't mean that you have to be depressed, or any of those things, those are choices that you make in your mind, and they can be changed. Now, one thing to realize is that you can bring all that suffering to a greater purpose if you tie it to a greater meaning. Victor Frankl sums this up nicely in his book where he talks about the trick is not to be optimistic or pessimistic but to have a reason to live. He says that you may not expect anything out life but life may expect something out of you, and that something must be attained at any cost. So, what is it that you're really going for. Why are you really going for this?

Turning every challenge into an Opportunity,

Geoff

PS, if you have any questions, just leave them in the comments, and I'll be sure to answer them.

Trancework.

2009-11-05T15:11:00.001-08:00

Hey Guys,

Geoff here and I am just writing to emphasize “Trance Work”. That’s right Trancework. Now, let me give you a little bit of the background. Basically, back in the 1970s, Richard Bandler ended up being able to have the good fortune of studying under Milton Erickson (founder of Ericksonian hypnosis). Now, from what I understand, no one knew what Erickson was doing, and I don’t think he was well-respected in his community (the psychological health community that is). Richard Bandler called himself a “modeler” and said that he didn’t have to understand how something works to get it to work, so he set out to model what it was that Erickson was doing. From his study of Erickson and their combined genius, Richard Bandler was able to distill elements of hypnosis. Since then, the findings of Bandler and later Grinder who joined his team became known as NLP. The name NLP came about (at least according to Bandler who is one of the founders) because if you went into to a psychiatric hospital and said “Hey, I’m a modeler, I’d like to work with patients,” the hospital would not let you.

So, instead, they went in and said “We’re Neuro-Linguistic Programmers here to study patients”. It’s the same thing that Robbins does when he calls trance work a “Closed-Eye Process” versus “Hypnosis” (sorry Tony). Of course to be fair, there are other things that Tony does as well which are not purely hypnosis I know for sure that during his first training (UPW) that is what he does.

Now, the reason why I wanted to mention all this is because there is power in doing “trance work” on a regular basis. I watched a video once by Tony Robbins (really old), and I’ll never forget it because me and my friend Manny Goldman would watch it first thing in the morning when we got up. Tony’s whole thing in this video is that he would get you to scramble all the things that were other than useful that happened in the previous day. Now, one thing that always bugged me was that it didn’t always work, and left questions in my mind, and it wasn’t until an intensive study (going on two years) of NLP and trancework that I am finally coming to the answer.

Sometimes things work best in trance.

Scrambling is one of them. For those of you unfamiliar with the concept of Scrambling is basically taking images and sounds and distorting them such that they no longer bother you. It is actually very very useful and can be done in the “waking state” but it gets funner and has more “stickiness” in my opinion if done in trance.

Now, the biggest thing is how do you get into a trance and how do you get out and the trick is to actually let an NLP master because they have studied hypnosis do it for you. Now, you can do it on your own, and I’ll give you a few buzzwords to help you in doing so

1.) Deep...really deep

2.) Back of your mind

3.) Now

4.) Trance

Any of these things will place you into a trance although I still think that letting a master (my search thus far has led me to two people Paul McKenna and Richard Bandler, but I’m sure there are other) letting that master put you into a trance and then once there you can do some scrambling to help you program your mind for success.

In the future, I will send you some links for some programs but for starters, I recommend Bandler’s Personal Enhancement Series AND anything by Paul McKenna.

Lastly, I consider Trancework to be one of the 3 essential elements in living a life you love. They are

1.) Trancework

2.) Meditation

3.) Massive amounts of Learning

What I'm listening to:

2009-11-02T00:15:00.001-08:00

Self Made Wealth by David D aka Eben Pagan

http://www.wakeupproductive.net/

Also, an amazing resource...Eben Pagan is on fire!!!

http://ebenpagan.wordpress.com/

Poem from Rumi

2009-10-30T00:01:00.001-07:00

Today, like every other day, we wake up empty
and frightened. Don't open the door to the study
and begin reading. Take down a musical instrument.
Let the beauty we love be what we do.
There are hundreds of ways to kneel and kiss the ground.

The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you.
Don't go back to sleep.
You must ask for what you really want.
Don't go back to sleep.
People are going back and forth across the doorsill
where the two worlds touch.
The door is round and open.
Don't go back to sleep.

~Rumi~

Found c/o Steve Chandler

Double Your Dating

2009-10-29T22:16:00.000-07:00

Hey Guys,

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David D's ebook is one of the few dating resources that I recommend and it is absolutely foundational. I will only have this promotion available for the first 10 people that take advantage of it and afterwards that's it in terms of getting the ebook and then by video presentation.

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leave comments below if you have any questions.

All the best,

Geoff

Quick Things on Anchoring and Swish Pattern

2009-10-28T17:44:00.001-07:00

Today, I want to talk about the importance of anchoring in your life. WE all have positive anchors and other than positive anchors. The other than positive anchors are ones that probably lead you to disempowering states whereas the positive anchors you fire off and you feel great. I don’t like the word anchors because I don’t think it describes it. Better words might be “trigger” or “marking”. That is, you can anchor yourself to feel fantastic even in places that used to make you feel bad.

For example, at my work, I have coworkers who challenge me and when they come by I snap my fingers. The moment I do that, I snap into a better state and are better equipped to handle them. How do you build an anchor? Well, you have to do it over time or all at once, but the key is emotional intensity and recency. If everytime you feel great, say after a run, and you snap your fingers. That anchor will build over time. I noticed one thing super smart that Richard Bandler does is that anytime he is working with say phobics before he works with them he will begin building anchors (he calls it marking a spot sometimes). That way once he approaches the challenging issues they stay in an empowered state. Amazing amazing stuff.

The other thing I’d like to mention is the idea of swish patterns. Swish Patterns are a way of saying to your unconscious mind “not that, this”. So, you literally condition your mind that whenever it thinks of the old picture/movie, think of the new picture/movie. Again, ingenious stuff that I’m passing on to you and none of it is my own making! The way to do this is to think of the old image that you don’t want no more than push it off in to the distance and have a new positive image/movie of yourself come flying back. There are tons of variations but the basic idea is “not this, that”.

Good luck on your journey,

Geoff

What do you think the Mature Adult Being is...

2009-10-21T18:20:00.001-07:00

Here is my definition...fill in yours below:

mature adult personality in operation is one who cares about others
the mature adult being loves the thrill of the outdoors
the mature adult being loves children
the mature adult being can see what is really important in life
the mature adult being takes care of his responsibiliites
the mature adult being is discplined
the mature adult being thinks long term
the mature adult being is not driven by the need to impress
the mature adult being is loyal
the mature adult being makes wise decisions
the mature adult being treats all people well
the mature adult being mentors those beneath him
the mature adult being submits himself to being a student to those above him
the mature adult being does not overreact to his thoughts but finds situations and way to change them
the mature adult being has a sense of humor
the mature adult being sees that people are different than him and he honors that yet he still honrs the goodness in them
the mature adult being spends wisely
the mature adult being sees right and wrong as only being decided by Truth.

My Best Ideas

2009-10-19T13:01:00.001-07:00

So cruicial and sounds so simpley yet this will revolutionize your life

1.) Meditate daily
2.) Immerse yourself in anything personal development relted
3.) LIisten and study language (I recommend reading and studying
anything you can find from Richard Bandler)

Hypnotic goal setting elements

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1.) I am learning really learning
2.) insert goal and use what I call specifiers, "under", "over"
3.) insert a time frame such as " before way before [insert date]. In
the end, you have something that looks like this:

I am learning really learning to be under wayyy under 10% bodyfat and
over wayyy 165 leans muscle mass before wayyyyy before Thanksgiving
day. yes

latest post

2009-07-28T20:50:00.000-07:00

So, I'm basically writing this and going to switch to a little bit more of a teacher student vibe because i think more comes through me that way. again, i'm no guru, i am just sharing what i've noticed works.

Be careful about the deceipt of dehydation - i noticed that i get a little more fearful when i am dehydrated. answer: drink water
blend your salad - read a book called green for life available from "Healthbooksummaries.com". basically, put organic lettuce, banana, and water (fruit optional) blend and drink.
meditate - go to http://www.contemplativeoutreach.org/site/PageServer. i like it because it is a catholic spin on meditation
listen to hypnosis - i've plugged bandler a lot on this blog. also, checkout paul mckenna he is like bandler's brother - mckenna.com
continual barage of personal development - just keep fucking listening. yes, there is the law of action but there is also the law of learning. keep learning!!! always learning!!
stay close to TR and Ray - i think james ray and tony robbins are two top notch people in personal development. listen to other stuff but always venture back to these two guy

that's it. more to come.

As I continue my journey

2008-06-21T00:01:00.000-07:00

Weww, been a while since i typed a post. I'm not trying to be a guru no more but rather just post my thoughts. I think that is a good thing as there are far too many gurus out there...probably not enough students.

anyways, i continue along my daily routine. everyday i do 3 things listen to holosync, listen to richard bandler tracks, and exercise. if i do those, i feel great. very sharp and crisp. i get coaching once a week, so i can talk about all my stuff.

well my head is pounding, i wish i had more stuff to share with you guys, but as much as i would love to share principals. i think it is easy as doing the two above things. the eckart tolle stuff is very helpful too as well as going to deeksha (oneness blessings) once a week. i am also still eating a healthy diet. what looks cool these days is the body ecology diet.

i personally don't like diets as it has the word "die" in it. and i think all diets do just that. they die, so i'm more interested in solid principals. i'm seeing a lot of raw foodists (ok, not a lot), but some start to lean more toward the principals of body ecology. it seems pretty sound. but again, i am still learning, so you need to learn what works for you.

i'm having these really cool transformational workouts with a friend of mine. he is big in tony robbins like me (by the way he had a one day seminar that i went to with him recently). it was really good. i like his stuff, and i really love his strength. if there's anyone that has strength it is TR.

however, i have to contend that richard bandler has a sharper mind. more observant and practical. i kind of get the vibe (i could be wrong) that TR is trying to come up with this integral model of psychology (like his mentor Ken Wilbur). there's nothing wrong with that, but i just think all models eventually come to an end. then, you just try putting more stuff in, and the model doesn't work. and if you've read any of my posts, you're going to know what the only true question that you should ask is

what works?

that is it. it creates solid flexibility in thinking, so that you can approach problems in new ways -- thereby giving you new solutions. i learned to be rigid in the military. and i think it is good to be rigid. be rigidly dogged about your goals, but don't be rigid at all about the way you will get there. in fact, i was watching tonight "america's best dance crew", and i thought to myself "you know what, if i was on that show, i would just do my best, and then if that didn't workout, I would keep going until i found something that i excelled in" tony robbins is a great example of this where he didn't do well with writing, then baseball, and then finally he got financial success in sales, but then he found his niche with motivation.

but yes, if i could advise one question that has saved me a lot of drama, it has been what works. and when you start from there, you will find more of what works. i haven't found all the answers yet. let me tell you. i still get random obsessives thoughts for now, and i still haven't found a way yet will to overcome some nervousness that i sometimes feel.

however, the journey has treated me well. i have a job, i have a family on the way, i have a soulmate, i have good health, i have good money management, i have great spiritual growth, i have amazing friends. i mean life has been good to me. but you know there's a part that wants more. and it's not the ego. it is the masculine part of myself that knows that i can be doing so much more. i honor it by making it through everyday. something relatively new to me.

however, i was the most fulfilled in a lot of ways (not all ways), when i was in the military and my standards were so high. however, leaving that environment was awesome b/c it truly has humbled me thereby making me wiser.

but i am getting to a point here. i remember that story that tr tells about the marines and how the marines never can stay at the same level after they leave the marines. and the marine general asks why is that so. tr says "the quality of your life is a direct reflection of the expectation of your peer grouo". here is where i think it gets good though. you need a peer group in each area. don't expect, although anything is possible, to find a peer group that meets all your needs. like you may have a peer that is good with money, but sucks with his physical body. if you just surrounded yourself with him, you would be a rich fat guy. however, if you hang out with someone who has great fitness or health standards (and i believe fitness and health are two seperte things although some like to say they are the same) but no financial standards, then you are going to be fit but broke.

that is my thoughts thus far. if i have anymore, i'll make a post in the future. and again, i want to stress that this is what i have found...use at your own discretion. and most importantl -BE YOUR OWN GURU!

Good Career & Life Coach

2008-02-14T05:50:00.000-08:00

A great career coach is Rachel Jacobs. Very helpful information I have learned from her, and she is extremely well educated so her stuff is really on point. She has been very patient with me and worked through a lot of my weaknesses. She is very fast and helped me to get back on track with my life and most importantly -- stay focused!

Her website is: http://yourlifequestions.com/

Quick Notes

2008-01-12T00:20:00.000-08:00

Checkout YouTube for this show "The Big Idea" great stuff. As well as this guy, "Gary Coxe" looks good. Lastly, interesting things going on with the boats (Iranian Votes). Videos to me look fake, or at least seem so, after having learning about some interesting things that happened when we went to the moon.

Incantations - The breakfast of champions

2008-01-10T17:56:00.000-08:00

Here's a simple process: do incantations (in public preferred as there's social pressure on you), jump through the window of opportunity that you will see arise, pay particular attention to the ones that involve your heart because those result in a rise in consciousness.

Who Da What Who do Who?

2007-12-23T17:22:00.000-08:00

Hey Ya, it's your man G to the E to the O to the Double F here just bringing you some more great tipz as you live your life.

WATCH YOUR ATTENTION

This took me a while to get but to start with make sure that your attention is on what you are doing. If you are talking with someone put all your attention to them. The phrase "Be in relationship with..." is very helpful. That is, "Be in relationship with the person you are with". It's a subtle energetic thing, but it is very helpful. I hear it's something they teach you in Dianetics, but you don't need to join Dianetics to utilize it.

WATCH YOUR BLOOD SUGAR LEVELS

This is so subtle, and is something that my beautiful wife and I were already starting to do. Specifically, read the "South Beach Diet", which states that you want to have Proteins, Vegetables, and Fats in the beginning. You want to gradually reintroduce grains and fruits, but only after a phase where you have gone without them. The key is to always have whole-grains and have them before lunch. I did this diet and did no exercise for like a month and stayed at the exact same body fat percentage and put on like 1-lb of muscle.

LEARN FROM RICHARD BANDLER

This guy gets so much shit 'cuz he's so crazy, but the man is a genius. I never really understood NLP that well until I started listening to him. Now, it's all clear to me now. In addition, he has some amazing tapes called the Neurosonics Personal Enhancement Series. Some amazing stuff. Be careful though ordering from his website 'cuz some of the *other* audio programs aren't as high-quality as you would expect from a professional program. BUT, the personal enhancement series is available from this link:

http://www.nlpstore.com/shop/index.php?action=item&substart=&id=23

CHECKOUT SOME OF RICHARD DAWKINS STUFF

Richard Dawkins is the Power vs. Force guy that TR and countless other people reference. Whether or not you believe in muscle calibration his stuff on Spirituality is mind-blowing. His website is easy to find through google.

WHAT TO SAY WHEN I TALK TO MYSELF

It's a book but also an amazing way to keep yourself going. Make sure that you're continually adding in little nuggets of positive self-talk. I wouln't worry so much about the negative talk other than you might occasionally want to train your mind to make the negative voices sound like they're playing in slow motion.

MEDITATE

Often overlooked but super effective way. Improves concentration, clarity, sense of well-being, sense of self. The list goes on and on. I have yet to meed a meditator who wasn't happy. By the way, checkout Holosync Meditational tapes. They take your brains into accelerated states to help you think faster and make better decisions. You can get a free sample sent to your front door from this link:

http://www.centerpointe.com/

JAMES RAY BABY

James Ray is like Tony Robbins but a lot smarter. This guy studied from some of the greats and now delivers his message in a Tony Robbins-esque manner. love TR by the way some amazing stuff there especially for the newbie to all this stuff 'cuz you can see how much it changed his life. I like James Ray however because he infuses a lot more spirituality into his message and he makes no apologies for it because he backs it up with science, hard science.

JOSEPH FAUST

This is a life coach who is totally booked is totally booked. I can't even get a session with him, but be on the lookout for this guy. I may do an interview with him. He's an amazing life coach with a lot of amazing stuff going on. And for those of you who have yet to get a coach. Get on the ball-game!!!! Do your homework find someone. They'll help you get a lot of the concepts that you maybe know but don't really understand. Believe me when I say that a great coach can go a long way. I will update you guys on this guy as I find out more. LifeCoachingWorks.com

START ADDING SOME SUPERFOODS TO YOUR DIET

I hear everybody talking about blueberry's because of their antioxidant power. Hello!!! There are superfoods, which have at least 4x as many antioxidants. What are they? We're talking about Goji Berries and Raw Organic Cacao. Both of these things are awesome, taste great, and will keep you healthy. I like to make a shake with Coconut Water, Goji Berries, Flax Seed, Cacao, Agave, Maca, and Hemp Protein. Love it! This is the future, so look out for Raw Superfoods to make their way into mainstream.

GET YOURSELF AN IPOD

This sounds so simple, but I think everybody needs an iPod loaded full of personal development material. That way no matter where you are you can be listening to the Neurosonics Personal Enhancement tapes from Richard Bandler or the Holosync or some new seminars from one of the great teachers.

BE COMMITTED TO THE OUTCOME NOT TO THE SCHOOL

I had a long talk with a mentor of mine about this, and what I have recently come to believe is that you need to be committed to your outcome whatever that is and less to your ideology. IE, if you're an NLPer and your not getting the shifts you want, more NLP probably won't help you. And in fact, NLP was based off the principle of flexibility, so you have even more incentive to do BE FLEXIBLE.

FOCUS YOU'RE CONSCIOUS MIND ON "WHAT WORKS"

This is soo crucial in fact life changing. Very few people get this, but when you do you learn sooo ridiculously fast it's unbelievable. Most people look at events and ask, "What can I learn from this?" or "What happened?" both good questions to ask, but you know what they aren't as useful as asking "What was I doing that was working?" By doing that you're training your unconscious mind and conscious mind to constantly be looking for what works. There's so much data that trying to keep all the things that work and that don't work is going to be tough. To add, what you find doesn't work may work later when you're a little more evolved. So just focus on what works and let all the rest fall into place.

REMEMBER BRUCE LEE? WELL -- REMEMBER STYLE OF NO STYLES

I mentioned this before, but I can't stress enough the idea of flexibility in your approach. Let go of the teacher that you've been holding onto, and start listening to new stuff. Expand your mind realize that all your answers aren't going to come from one source (or at least not to my knowledge one exists), but from a variety of sources. A lot of teachers will try to market to you like this, saying "Save yourself time, come to me, I have all the answers". And this is sometimes true that they may have an answer that will help you attain a specific outcome, but I highly doubt that one teacher will help you attain all your outcomes (but I remain open to the idea of finding one such). Maybe me ;-)

The Poisonous Pill

2007-06-22T11:05:00.000-07:00

Eating the Forbidden Fruit!

There is a forbidden fruit in the Personal Growth and Self Help Genre, and it is one that I have eaten time and time again. It is one that will affect you or someone you know, and is one of the most DESTRUCTIVE things you will ever do in your life. What is this thing you are talking about? I am talking about taking the forbidden fruit of allowing one teacher (advisor as I like to call them) to teach you everything. It is alluring isn't it? I mean, what if there were such a body of knowledge, so coveted, so perfect, that were you to find it or get ahold of it everything would fall into place. What if told you how to eat, how to think, what decisions to make, what your purpose in life was, what will happen after you perish? I mean wouldn't that be amazing.

I believe people (myself included on this one) have this need and desire for simplicity. We want for someone to have all the answers for us, and we can just open up our head and let them just download all this perfect knowledge. But the truth is, that knowledge is not perfect. Everything you know is just an approximation of what is. Everyone thinks to themselves "ohh I know so much...we're such an advanced society", but 100 years from now people will look at us and think. "Gosh, those people in the 2,000 and 2,010 were idiots!" But the point I am trying to make here is that you can't expect anyone to know everything because everything doesn't exist. What does that mean? That means that how could people in the 1920s have known "everything" if they didn't even have television! Similarly, how can anyone know everything today, if everything doesn't exist yet. Again, people will look back at us, and be like, "Gosh, how did people in the 2,000s live the way they did. It seemed like such a simple life."

The bigger point I am trying to make here is that all knowledge is useful in a certain context. NLP states that every behavior is useful in a certain context, and I believe that all knowledge is the same way.

A great way to learn this principle is to find where you're hooked on some advisor. For me it was Tony Robbins, I knew it was time to let it go yet I couldn't. I thought to myself, "He's so smart, he's so successful, he has to have all the answers that I am searching for. What if I go with someone else and waste all this time?" Boy, was I wrong in thinkin that way! As I began, I quickly realized how little Tony Robbins knows or at least explains in his programs.

Another great way to do this is to use your intuition or at least use your emotions. People are like ohh that's garbage, or it's a part of your brain that knows more than you think. Well, I happen to believe that we have a 3rd eye that guides us if we let it, that knows more that doesn't speak to us in words just feelings, and it has led me to the most perfect answer, much better than if I would have analyzed it. Now does that mean don't think juse use your intuition. Nope, cuz I tried that to. Again, think in terms of contexts, and that certain problems and decisions can't be made on the level in which you are currently thinking. I think that is the amazing part of Power vs. Force, if I actually finish it. There are phenomena that are beyond our human understanding at this point. Like a fish a quarter of a mile away will turn at the same time that the school of fish turn when running from a prey. Or the hundredth monkey phenomenon, where an animal trainer in Japan found that when Monkeys who were trained to wash fruit before they ate them, also found Monkeys on other islands hundreds of miles away who had also learned this exact same behavior. And these islands were uninhabited, so no man could have brough them on and Monkeys don't swim! Another interesting phenomena is that when a new chemical compound is created, it will grow slowly, but when the same exact chemical compound is recreated, it will grow faster and faster. Point is that science is great, yet to actually conduct expirements.

In the end, rather than focus on what is, focus on what works. The founders of NLP realized this very quickly is that if they tried using science to back up their stuff, they were going to run into problems, so they instead said "Hey, this works, we don't know why, but it does. Use it, or continue to be depressed in your academic coma."

It's definitely an Art not a Science -- Thank you Bruce Lee

2007-06-09T07:18:00.000-07:00

I used to think that state management (or happiness as I know call it) could be something that could learned in a very scientific format. You feel like this, you do x, y, and z state management tools and you're back to feeling great again. But this didn't work!

I could never seem to feel good however in fact this way of thinking plunged me into one of the darkest holes I have been in (self-created of course). I knew that I wanted to feel good, so I began to seek teachers (or advisors would be a better term -- more to come on this later). I was given promises by some of my teachers (all of whom I am grateful for). One dangled happiness out in front of you kind of like a carrot, saying if you just take care of your "foundation" then you'll never have problems feeling happy or that you will have less resistance to feeling happy.

So, knowing that it would help me out, that's what I did. I fixed many relationships, got my income straightened up, got in better shape and take good care of my health. And it worked -- sort of! It made me happier, yet one thing I noticed is that the smallest things or thoughts would affect my happiness. No matter how happy I was! My advisor did tell me that I would always have to practice active happiness.

So, noticing that no matter how happy I become there will be things there that I need to seek to positively impact. Then, we must now acknowledge that happiness is an Art. That is, there are set actions that you must do in order to feel well. But what makes it an Art is that those actions cannot be put together into some formulaic compound furthermore. I do not know all the techniques and tools to make one a better Happy Artist (chessy name, but I am going with it), and I think that the classification of every technique would invalidate it in that it would water it down and overwhelm most readers. (This is much of Bruce Lee's stuff that I learned recently). Furthermore, Mr. Lee said something that is an absolutely outstanding way of looking at things. He said "if you try to remember, you will lose" In the Happy Arts, that means that when you're opponent (I know I am taking this analogy out a bit) a negative feeling comes, you must be prepared and trying to remember all the strategies that you have learned in that moment will be a fruitless effort. The only things that will come out are those that you have practiced relentlessly. Any other strategies will be quickly forgotten. I have a friend who is an excellent soccer player (should say was), and he said something very profound to me. He said that each week he would focus his efforts on one aspect of his game. Much like a professional athlete, if you wish to be happy, you need to follow this same regime. Now, I know those out there will say this is too much work, and I would add that nothing means more than being happy feels. Everything you are craving and desiring, ultimately will lead itself to you wanting to be happy. The western myth (largely created by Propoganda later renamed Public Relations specialists) is that you must consume or have in order to be happy. We all know that this is untrue, and in fact, a study proved that people in Uganda ranked higher in happiness than people in the US. Now, understand this, I believe strongly in capatilism, and I think that the enhanced freedom that we experience adds to our happines. Despite all this, I still know that you can be just as happy without any of it. To try to debate this is a losing effort.

So, having established that the art of happiness come from many different sources, and that trying to catalog every single strategy that works will not lead to our desired outcome. Then, what should we do. Well, I am going to turn to Bruce Lee again for advice. He said that you eventually get to a point where you have a "Style of No Style" or a "No Style Style" That you are formless like water, able to adapt to your environment very quickly, and even change forms if need be. To be soft and gentle at times, yet be like the crashing waves at other times.

Therefore to use a practical example, say you are in a hotel room full of people and you're trying to feel better or happy. You know you need to socialize and nothing you do is working internally. Now, you know that if you talk to that girl over there (or that guy you ladies) it most likely will make you feel better because she has been eyeing you all night. Yet, maybe one of your teachers says that before you try anything you should be in a positive state. So you sit there in a corner attempting to make yourself feel better. At this moment, you MUST blend to your environment and just stroll over and talk with this person. And the moment you do this, you feel happy. Problem solved.

Bruce Lee was also skeptical of styles (whether it be Buddhism, Tony Robbins, Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra) because styles lead to rigidity in way of doing things. That will lead to my last point for this post is that in the end you will be your first and only teacher. Meaning that every teacher is almost like a servant bringing you wisdom, and you can either agree with it or disregard it. What tells you what to think? Your own internal intuition backed with sound logic. Therefore, your true teacher is your intuition backed with logic. If something doesn't sound right or make sense, then it most likely isn't true for you.

Be weary of anyone who a.) tries to tell you what to think, b.) tells you explanations that don't make sense. The government has what they call "Spin Rooms", where they take the truth and make-up lies to make the truth sound better. Example and this is purely an example, truth=we're losing in Iraq, Official Spin=We're neither winning nor losing.

Anyways, Have a Great Day =)

Some Great Tips

2007-06-04T21:37:00.000-07:00

Meditate

a lot of emotional disturbances, and if you can't tell, that's what I am focused on. They're caused by listening to your ego. Yet your ego is very sticky and very sneaky. So, you need to begin to know what your true innervoice really sounds like. How do you do this? Simply spend time letting your ego and other residual thoughts go. Once you do this that "still small voice" will appear and give you all the right answers that you need. In fact, it amazes me how much it calms and centers me. And in this centered state I am powerful. I saw Deepak Chopra absolutely own a room with his extreme centeredness. That is in stark contrast to TR and his state pumping, and I am sure both are useful in certain contexts.

Practice Letting Go

This goes with the first, but if you find yourself feeling like you "have" or "should" or "need" to do something. Let it all go and you will realize that a lot of your restrictions are self-imposed. I know for me it was tough to do this because I felt by letting go you would be lowering your "standards" (another TR coinword). What I know now is that Einstein said "The same level of thinking ( I believe he actually said consciousness) that got you to where you are, won't get you to where you want to be" That's right. Einstein was a "New Agey" kind of guy.

Understand that the Flow of Life will take you to where you want to be Once you learn how to Let Go and Be

This is another principle that was tough for me yet if you get it your life will change drastically. I think of the Universe like a beautiful river of life that wants to give you everything you really want. Once you see this and more so feel this, you will see the river literally open up before your eyes. I have myself witnessed and performed miracles, where without ever having met someone I can read them and can actually help them even though I have never even met them. This may seem like hocus pocus, but all I can say is believe. Now, does this mean I think you should lay on your couch and let the universe take you wherever. No, I learned this one the hardway that the universe responds to action. Action represent energy in motion. It is the highest form of intention. You can intend abundance or you can take action toward it. Both are useful and have their place, yet I am certain that if we took two people. We had one intend a great body for 20 minutes per day, and we had the other go to the gym for 20 minutes per day. I think we can see that the answer is apparent. Now, the interesting thing is what if there is a third person who spends 20 minutes per day thinking of all the great things that he intends in his life and then is in action. I think we now know certain who will get the most results. Bill Bartman (a former billionaire turned Personal Growth Teacher) said that he was in position to buy the Chicago Bulls, and that he saw Dennis Rodman with the headphones on listening to music. He found out later that although Dennis wouldn't admit it, word leaked out that he was secretely visualizing. And that year he led the NBA in rebounds. Hmm. That is all great, but the part that really strikes me about this story is the ferocity that Dennis used to show during games. I mean that guy was hungry. Well, he was intended to be the best rebounder in the NBA. And let me tell you, to date I have never met anyone with as much presence as he has. I mean when I was by the guy, I felt the gentle power flowing from him. Amazing person.

Well, I hope you really enjoyed this. This is for all you people who want to feel emotionally happy. I mean after all, isn't everything you want in life just a vehicle to feel good.

SMILE!

=)

The Wisdom Age

2007-06-01T14:26:00.000-07:00

Hello Folks,

We're entering an age of Wisdom

The thing you need to know is that the Wellness Industry is in full boom right now. Fueled by the Baby Boomers along with a rising trend in consciousness, we are rapidly increasing our health. Think how much you are now seeing "Organic, All-Natural, Full of Anti-Oxidants". Did you see that diet Coke now comes with Vitamins. Now, what does this mean to you? Well, it means that you're going to get healthy. The drug industry (which in my humble opinion treats symptoms not the problem) is at a loss. My wife was telling me that pfizer is cutting employees, etc. Of course, you don't hear much about this, and that could quite possibly be because I am wrong. lol! But, my intuition tells me that two movies that are coming out. #1, the Secret (http://www.thesecret.tv), and now a new movie called "Pass It On" are really making a big wave. So going back to my prediction, and my prediction is piggy tailing off Popcorn Report, one of the best trend watchers in the world, that we're now entering the Wisdom Age. This is going to be impart fueled because Baby Boomers have now vacationed, have all the luxuries they could ever want, and now they want to be smarter and better understand the world in which they live.

So, what does this mean to you? Well, what it means is that you have any desire to be a teacher, now is the time to start. Start studying. If not, start thinking of ways to market information to the masses. People in these industries as we have already seen are making a lot of money. (Rhonda Byrnes was listed in Time's Top 100 Most Powerful People in America).

Just Reminiscing

2007-05-30T15:30:00.000-07:00

Man, I was reading Tyler's forum (realsocialdynamics.blogspot.com), and man it brought back a wave of what I used to be versus what I am now. Back then, I sometimes wonder what type of information I was giving out to students versus the wealth of information and even more so the insight that I have now. I sometimes think that if you are a teacher, you should give your students a huge discount to take your course again later. The more you grow the more realize how much more there is to know.

1.) EFT - This thing is freaking amazing, and I resisted it for years until finally I surrendered and check it out here: http://www.mercola.com/forms/eftcourse.htm. I go through frequent mood swings and have so ever since I was a child. I learned a lot of different things about state management, and they all worked -- in certain contexts. However, this tool seems to work no matter how I feel, and it seems to even reduce physical pain. Last night I used it on Dayana and her pain was reduced by 30%, pretty impressive for just a bunch of tapping

2.) Get complete with your relationships - I have heard that in studies of people with "afterlife" experiences, the number one thing they regretted is the relationships they have yet to be cleared. That may mean someone that you ended badly with, and you never got in touch with (I am very guilty of doing this). Regardless have the courage to make this happen. I have done it with my wife/soulmate several times, and it is very scary yet very necessary. I haven't met anyone who is willing to commit to the level of honesty that I have, nor have I seen someone as happy as I am in their relationships. It's easy to come up with 1,001 excuses, but in the end you just have to do it.

How do you do this? Simple. Make a list of 3 people that you feel incomplete with. Put a deadline on when you will come clean with this person(usually no longer than a week). Tell people who you trust (it will lock you into that deadline into doing so). Also, come up with plan on how to make it up to this person. I suggest that you find some thoughtful gift to give to that person. I am very well versed in this area, so I suggest you write me if you have any questions.

I'm back

2007-05-22T09:21:00.000-07:00

I was just reading my posts, and man, how insipiring. It's pretty powerful when yourself can inspire yourself! lol. I have changed a lot from that person however, I see how dilluted I was with the TR stuff. I caught phrases like "disempowering patterns" and "state shifts". But I feel like there were some really good things that I was speaking to. The strongest thing I was speaking to was the Power of Decision. Nothing opens your soul quite like the Power of Decision. I have made some amazing changes in my life, and they all happened when I made a Decision. Now, most people will never get this concept in their life, but it's subtle yet makes the difference. When you decide, you must take some action. I had a friend once, and I told him to Decide and he's like "Yeah, I am going to do it." And I said, well let's do it now! He got all uncomfortable, because he hadn't made a real decision. Now, i must admit, that I am emotionally getting stronger, yet I don't have all the pieces yet. I am realizing now some new revelations. I have a quest, and it is one that won't stop. It is to be the best teacher, speaker, and healer that ever walked the face of this planet. How's that for modesty?

I know that the Universe has big plans because I am not an overnight success. In fact, I am now caught up financially. And I have worked very hard these past few years. I made it my goal to really learn and master my emotions, and let me tell you the emotions are one of the challenging yet most rewarding. I have to say however that some people, especially in today's society will tell you "emotions are fickle" And I agree with that statement in the context that "all emotions are fickle in the sense that mastering them requires complex strategies" What happens is that you learn bits and pieces of state management, you experience the shift and then you think you've got it. Boy, you don't. Until, you can go a few months like this, then you've got it...maybe. I think the difficulty is that it is inherently a spiritual journey. To feel good all the time is to listen to your soul (which I believe in). To listen to your soul is to allow the unfoldment of it; ie, feeling good do that, not feeling good don't do that. The Secret was pointing to this. While I believe in the secret in the context that the more positive, the more easily and effortlessly you will operate in the Universe. I do not understand it all. Yet I seek to learn and understand and bring back my findings. I have decided that I shall start with my friends and move outward, that is as I learn more and apply more, and when that day comes that I have been hungering over for years. I will start with the people closest to me. Because I feel that once you can transform those around you's lives (ie, friends, lover, parents, etc), then you can change anyone. Yet I accept all who follow a different route as I know many have been my predecessors and have taught me so much that I am grateful that they took the route they did.

Now, with that said, and I have a lot more to talk about as you guys better believe that I am still going at this goal. Here are some new insights that I have had:

1.) Forgiveness- Learn to forgive yourself and others. Easy test, ask yourself " Do I forgive myself?" If there is resistance, you haven't. Ask yourself, "Do I forgive this person?" If the answer is no, there is resistance. You haven't forgiven that person, and you can imagine what unforgiveness does to your body-temple (to use Reverend Bernard Beckwith's Terminology).

2.) Acceptance - can you accept yourself and others? Can you accept your faults? Most people either delude themselves into thinking things are the way they are, or they ignore the problem? Either way, they still haven't learned to accept themselves.

3.) Be - can you just "be"? It's harder than you'd think, and it's the principle behind presence.

4.) Trust - do you trust the Universe? or do you resist it? I in my mind imagined that I was going to become this 22 year old super star overnight, and everyone was going to love me and I was going to have all this money in the personal growth. Well, my body is turning 26, and I am still not there yet. Yet, I know that when it does happen, it will happen right, and that it will happen powerfully and quickly. If I try to push against the Universe, I know I will lose. Or if I do win, my success will not be permanent. Tony Robbins made a lot of money, yet he lost the money he made and went $750,000 into debt. That's what happens when you push. You also see that with Donald Trump, etc. I personally want things to go smoothly because I have a soulmate/wife, and because it helps make more sense for my life (ie, it helps me out and motivates me to think this way whether it is true or not).

Well, I wanted to thank you guys for reading this far. Those that did. And one thing I wanted to mention is to "Make no small plans for they have not the power to stir Men's Blood"

Last Post (Kinda) & A Great Blog to Read

2007-01-27T23:46:00.000-08:00

Guys, as you can tell my passion for blogging slowed down. As I started to read my old posts, I saw how sloppy my writing style was. In order to get this blog to where I want it to be, I'm going to have to put in way more work than I'd like. Expect only a few posts every few months (if any).

BUT. I have a great recommendation.

There's a cool blog that has a lot of great content on there from a guy who I used to work with at Real Social Dynamics.

the Blog Address is: realsocialdynamics.blogspot.com

An Update to the Blog

2006-12-10T16:02:00.000-08:00

I recently spoke with a close friend about this blog.

He told me 2 things.

1.) I qualify myself too much on here
2.) I need to shorten up my posts.

I intend on revising this blog based on that feedback.

If u have any other suggestions for this blog, please let me know!!!

--Geoff

Top Beliefs

2006-12-01T13:43:00.000-08:00

*This will change ur life

I looked through my journals for the top beliefs that if I was present to would always guide me through any seemingly tough time. That's another conversation cuz I am realizing that things aren't difficult, we just make 'em difficult.

So anyways, I wrote them down on index cards and now no matter how I feel. I can turn to these cards and BOOM instant state change. I carry them around with me.

What I am also doing is writing up the most common neg emotions I feel and listing to myself how to get to them. *I just thought of an idea that u could maybe do the same thing for positive emotions*

Someone try out the positive emotion thing and get back to me.

Thanks for reading.

-Geoff

Needs Hierarchy

2006-11-22T11:38:00.000-08:00

Here's how I prioritize my life right now, and it's working extremely effectively. A lot of teachers hit on the idea that we have needs, but I believe that I have figured out the exact hierarchy.

One thing I'd like to note is that all the needs you must figure out for yourself, meaning that TR (who I have an immense amount of respect for. I kind of view him as a natural who isn't entirely conscious of everything that he does that is right!) trys to say that there are 6 human needs and that they are universal for every human being. I would disagree with that because we all have different needs, and the same way with Physical Needs. Don't copy mine but rather use mine as kind of an example, and then come up with your own hierarchy!

I have to say that I have done quite a bit of personal growth (checkout my profile at personalgrowth.com if you would like to see the exact courses I have done). I have never felt more fulfilled, and that fulfillment is carrying over to enhanced productivity and results. In one month, I have left behind my old job with RSD and now have a new job that pays be the same amount!

Here's an overview, and then I will cover each in the next few days.

THE BASE is Integrity (We'll have to discuss this at a later point because I am just now learning this)
1.) Physical Needs
2.) Emotional Needs
3.) Values

First, on my list is my physical needs because if you don't take care of your body it has a way of not taking care of you! I have seen really positive people and even myself at times start to get really negative, and then I can't figure out why? Reason is that there is not anything wrong with their psychology they're not taking care of their needs. Most people run around life trying to chase goals, but what they're really trying tooooo meet their needs.

GEOFF'S PHYSICAL NEEDS (Get your own needs don't be stealing my shit! =)

1. Posture and Movement -- If I don't hold my physiology properly my thoughts are so scattered that I can't focus long enough to breath properly! So I put posture along with movement at the top of my list of physical needs.

2. Breath -- Breathing is so important, and I've mentioned this before. So many turn to food when it is actually proper breathing that they're looking for. Meaning that when they eat the food it expands their stomach and forces them to breath properly.

3. Water -- enough said, if you feel fogginess or fatigue or tired, it most likely is water!

4. Nourishment -- Somewhere on this blog I have my Health Principles, which are still the same. Follow these and you will feel better than before.

5. Aerobic Endurance & Muscle Strength -- So crucial, and is something that i have been slacking on. But what is happening because I am slacking is that it is affecting my posture because my back muscles are getting weak and so I am slouching.

6. Rest -- Notice how this is number six and not one. I used to put sleep high on my list when it doesn't need to be that way! Your body in my experience needs about seven hours maximum, so long as you're taking care of the other things. If you're abusing your body, it's going to need more rest to recover. This makes sense, doesn't it?

PS. I'd like to credit Joseph Faust for inspiring the whole idea of physical needs then emotional needs.

Using Self-Help to Quit

2006-11-20T23:51:00.000-08:00

The more I started reading personal growth books the more I started to believe that I had to listen to my emotions and if I felt bad, I should analyze my emotions. This led me to quit every time I started to feel bad instead of hanging in there and persevering. I would tell myself that if I could read one more book or get one more audio or go to one more seminar that my life would change and I would never have challenges with my emotions. The funny thing is the only thing that changes your life is action. Insight without action is useless. John Locke said “A man's beliefs are reflected by his actions” Damn, I'm a slow learner. This lasted for years!
My time as a dating coach I used to see my students do the same, where they would start to feel bad and want to quit so they could go “work on their innergame.”

There is no excuse to ever quit, regardless of how you feel. I remember being in the military and having the “no excuse” policy. You either got the result or you had “no excuse.” That is the policy that I'm taking these days. Either I get the result or I have no good excuse. That's it!

The policy with regards to my emotions is that I persevere until I can have the time to listen to my emotions. And guess what I am finding? Sometimes when I persevere my emotional challenges go away!

A Few Effective Tools

2006-11-11T12:56:00.000-08:00

TRANSFORM YOUR VOCABULARY AND LANGUAGE, TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE

This is an old school technique. Robbins incorporates it as part of his "triad," which is really what I think are the three most effective ways to change way you feel. (for those that don't know about the triad, they are 1.) your physiology, 2.) your language, and 3.) your mental focus).

I recently revisited language seeking to improve my own, and here are some of the things I found myself doing. First, I was saying "I don't know" and "I got problems" a lot. So, immediately I took them out of my vocab. Anytime I say it, I will say aloud "erase" and replace it with something else.

OFF TOPIC: Another thing that we do to protect ourselves is that we limit our self-expression on the positive side, but we don't limit our self-expression on the negative side. Let me clarify what I mean here. I can walk up to most people and say "My life sucks. This fucking happened, this happened." People will smile, and might even say, "it's alright buddy, hang in there" If you examine this type of situation, you actually get LOVE for talking about your problems.

Now, if the same thing happens on the positive side. I walk up to a group of people and I say " my life is amazing, I have a perfect girl, I have an amazing future ahead of me, things are amazing." People will probably say "all right" and they probably won't want to talk more about what you feel. Now, people do this because you talking about how great your life kicks up their own insecurities AND challenges some of their own existing feelings about what is possible.

Now, here is my solution for this. If your around someone who you can sense or know can be sensitive (read insecure) than when you're talking about all these great things at the very end say something to play it down. Like I'll talk about all the great things in my life, and then I'll play it down at the end by saying "But then again, I'm a stupid kid. What do I know?" They might laugh when I say that. I never say something like that to my positive friends, they'll say "Dude, don't ever say that again." It helps to surround yourself with positive people. =)

But going back to the discussion at hand. Watch the habitual LANGUAGE patterns that you use. Let's be specific -- the words you use put a label on your human experience. Try it right now, go have a great meal, and then tell a buddy "man, I had an alright meal" Then, go to another friend and say "I had an amazing meal." Notice the difference in yourself and the way you feel.

Here's another effective point about language, ensure not to use language to magnify your problems. For example, say your fatigued, it's easy to say to yourself or others "I'm beat" or "I'm sooo exhausted" or "I feel dead". Bad, bad, bad. Yes, there is a situation that you need to solve -- your body is in need of physical recovery. But, if I say, "man, I need to recharge" versus "man, I am soo beat" Do you think that I will have a different experience? Of course.

Now, I am going to jump very quickly to metaphors because people use metaphors a lot of times in bad ways. I had a friend who used to say "I am starving" and not suprisingly he would go and eat and eat way tooo much. (Quick Note: I hung around him and after a while, I started to run this same language pattern myself. I had to bitchslap myself however and change myself then help him. He doesn't do that anymore and hence doesn't stuff his face like he used to). So point of this discussion, is monitor the words you use and remove ones that support you and replace it with something better. Below are some examples that work for me.

I am tired VERSUS I need to recharge (Notice also how this focuses on the solution and what you need)
I am hungry VERSUS I need some quality nutrients in my body (Sounds gay but it fucking works)
I have to go workout VERSUS my body is need of a workout
Life is a battle (will lead you to view people in terms of friend and foe) VERSUS Life is a game or a playground (incorporates play and instills a sense of friendly competition)
What are you up to? Not much VERSUS What are you up to? Too much (said with a smirk)

Below is a list of words I advise you to never let in your vocabulary, take it from my experience, these words are ineffective and less than useful because they don't lead you to solutions. They keep you in your comfort zone.

"It's a Long Story" - Then tell the short version!!! People use this to avoid divulging personal information or in fear of looking bad. You can explain a situation quickly without looking bad, can't you? Plus in talking with people about it, you begin to see the situation more clearly yourself. People tend to bottle up their problems, and then that bottle start to leak or even worse it wants to explode!!! (how's that for use of metaphors!) Also, one last thing I will say is that a lot of times by talking about the situations (notice I didn't say problems or challenges) in your life, other people can related to you easily.
"I don't know" -- That's right, "I don't know." People use this a lot of times what's wrong you say, they say "I don't know" You do know! Your just too much of a pussy to talk about the solution or think about the solution! People say that, including myself before, when we don't want to have to man up to my situations in my life.
"People don't understand" -- Then help them to understand. It's easy to think that your situations are more difficult than others when in reality they're not, you're just using it as a way to feel special about your problems.
"It's sooo tough" or "It takes a lot of work" or "It's hard" -- Instead what I say is "It's a little tricky"
Road Rage of Any Sort -- this has nothing to do with language but I see people when they drive totally transform into these maniacs. Road Rage is a symptom of taking yourself way toooooooooooo seriously. Fucking relax, man. Get some good music, or a good audiobook, and use the time in the car to relax. You can drive amazing without even having to focus on the road, your unconscious can do it just fine. I have even read books while driving (You didn't hear that from me).

The Same Level of thinking to that got you to where you are will not get you to where you want to be.

This is an old Einstein quote, but it's extremely effective when you think about it's implications. Basically, it means that you need to be flexible. Your way of doing things got you to where you are, and that's fine but get to where you want to be you must adapt.

SIDE NOTE: There's a super-smart dude named Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith, and
one thing he says is that "The seed of an acorn has all the perfection necessary
in it, all it needs is the right conditions to sprout into an oak tree" Your dreams and goals are the
same way, so ask yourself what are the right conditions I need to create (ie,
what do I need to learn? what skills do I need ?, etc) in order for this seed to hatch. Another great distinction that
I got from this guy is that you have to be able to separate your ego goals from
your true intuitive desires. Basically, it's that you need to set a goal
and continue to listen to what it would feel like, what it would sound like,
what would be some of the sights associated with that goal, so that your able to separate the surface level bullshit from your true calling. People never achieve goals because they listen to their ego-related goals, which is not what they really want.

Going back to flexibility, I have had to shift a lot of my ways. I recently realized that for all the personal growth I say that I have done, I have done little over 100 personal growth related courses (including, books, tapes, and seminars). That's ok, but in my head, I thought it was wayyy more. So, what I am now doing is reading one to two books a week. By the way, if you want to checkout the personal growth related courses i have done (checkout my profile @personalgrowth.com). I

realized that part of my reason for doing one-hundred and not say three-hundred is that I will read one book and get soo much value, and then I will get caught in that person's "funnel" (a term in marketing used to refer to one company's product line). I would justify to myself that because this person was the best (in fitness it was Bill Phillips, and in personal growth it was Robbins) that this was the best way to learn.

But in actuality there were two reasons why I was doing it, number one, fear (what if I learn something and it's the wrong thing, but in truth we're all smart enough to figure it out for ourselves) and number two, laziness (I thought to myself why have to read all those books if this person has already done it for me). No, no, no. Or rather as I should say specifically that it was a less than ideal strategy because each teacher has his or her own blindspots (including things they do naturally that they can't explain) AND sometimes hearing something from a different angle is exactly what you needed. This is a wordddddd to the wise. Remember, the same level of thinking that got you to where you are won't get you to where you want to be.

PS: I see people get into this mindset where they start using their
age as a reference point. For example, they'll say "I'm 30 years old now,
I can't be doing those things anymore." Thing is that it's actually not
your age that matters but rather the experiences you have within your age.
(The old phrase "it's not the years in the life, it's the life in the
years"). So actually, it's unwise to ever use your age as a gauge to
compare yourselves with others. What I say is that I am "25 years old going on 18" to always remind myself of the attitude
that I want to have. Very useful strategy to do as well. Or another one is to not say "I am 25 years old" but rather say "My body is 25 years old" Lol. ok, that's kind of cheesy, but if doing it to yourself works, then do it. No one will say anything I promise. ;-)

SAFE SOLUTION VS QUALITY SOLUTION

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EVERYTHING YOU WANT LIES RIGHT OUTSIDE YOUR COMFORT ZONE.

It's easy in life to stop pushing through fear, and to settle in your comfort zone. This is a death trap. I see this all over modern day psychology where they let people wallow in their safe problems & safe solutions. "I have intimacy issues" when what their real problem is that they're afraid to try again!!! Instead of going for a quality solution which is although I may have been hurt in the past, I have to go at this again and again until I become successful.

More Beliefs

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THERE'S ALWAYS A WAY IF I AM COMMITTED!

This is an old belief from Robbins, but I forgot about it for a while. The quality of my life when it came to achievement. It's the same as "no excuse" leadership. But this one is such a crucial belief because in life there are results or there are excuses. I cannot emphasize this one enough because in our society it is soooooooooo easy to make excuses. But there are no excuses, there are results or excuses, that is it. I don't say that to be a hardass but to help get people out of this mindset for making excuses for why they don't have what they want. It helps to be honest with yourself first and foremost.

EVERY IMMEDIATE PLEASURE PLANTS WITH IT THE SEED OF AN EVEN GREATER PAIN.

This subtle distinction is so true when it comes to abuse of substances or trying to find the easy way out of things. I read a book that says that people who avoid taking risks in business, that is, that they keep their day job and work on the business at night. Well, these same people eventually have to take risks as the business grows. But now, the risks are even bigger, like now they have to put everything on the line because the business is much larger now with higher expenses. Point is, there is no such thing as a free lunch.

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS PERFECTION, EXCEPT IN THE MOMENT

Perfection is such a fleeting thing that trying to attain it will be fleeting. You can make the perfect song, but in a few months it will be played out and within a few years people would have forgotten about your music.

Learnings from the Past 3 Years

2006-11-08T18:45:00.000-08:00

My biggest accomplishment in my life has been to gain a heavy influence over my emotions and mood. In 2003 I was labeled by Psychiatrists and Psychologists all types of things (bipolar, manic depressive, etc) and was given and chose to take over five medications to help alleviate my situation. The drugs work BUT while you're on drugs they they dull the lows but they also dull the HIGHS!

After attending a Tony Robbins seminar, the very first thing he said is that we're "drugging up" America. When he said that I felt like he was talking to me, and that was the point that I decided to go off all medications and go on a three year quest to handle my emotions using my own internal power.

I have to say that it was not easy. There were times when I felt like quitting, when everyone including my own dad was recommending that I take the drugs. I even read an entire book from Patty Duke where basically she was saying, take the drugs. I can be stubborn, and that was a great time to be stubborn because had I took those drugs I would not have the quality of life I have now.

I focused primarily most my efforts using Tony Robbins (which I actually attribute to the process going slower than it could have been. Reason for this is that one teacher cannot explain everything nor understand everything that you need to understand. This was a case where my stuborness was not so useful ;)

BUT through it all I kept prodding and reading and working until just recently I have gotten myself to the place where I feel like I really have a large degree of influence over my emotions. People who know me probably say "Geoff looked fine to me" but I was really covering up a lot of times my state of mind, and they didn't see me during the days where I was holed up depressed in my room. But I kept going.

I feel proud and although this doesn't show up in my bank account, or isn't even something people will ever recognize me for it was to me it was my most powerful accomplishment.

I am by no means perfect, and the only thing perfect is this moment. BUT I think I have learned a lot in the process to get to the point where I am at now.

Below are some of the major things that I have learned in the process

#1 - Practice is the mother of skill -- Most books have two things. Beliefs and Strategies (meaning, ask these questions, or take this action, etc). The beliefs are invaluabe because you don't have to go through the same life lessons to learn the same things. That is, you don't have to keep reinventing the wheel. On the side of strategies, ensure to practice whatever it tells you to do. Do it for FIVE days!

#2 - Get a tutor or a coach -- Would you study for a very tough subject without the aid of a tutor? NO. You'd probably get the help of a tutor or a teacher. Well why would you study the subject of life without a tutor? And no, the writer of the book is not a tutor.

#3 - The more you study, the quicker you will win -- The more times you hear something from different angles the quicker you will learn SO do as many books, tapes, and seminars as POSSIBLE. And different ones too. My old strategy was that I would get one book or one teacher and study everything I could from them, but then I would get frustrated. In my frustration, I would pick-up one new book and that new book would contain all the answers I had been looking for.

That's not my strategy anymore. Study as much as you can. Drink from great books. Participate in great seminars. And spend your idle time listening to the greats in your car or on your iPod (please tell me you have an iPod)

PS, here is an advanced strategy. When you read a book put your beliefs on an index card. Now, say you read in a book that "Leaders must be on time" your brain won't as easily remember that BUT your brain will remember the Vince Lombardi Quote "On time is late, ten minutes early means your on time" Suble difference, but will make the difference when you go to remember all these learnings.

More Useful Knowledge

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Behind Every Behavior Their Is A Positive Intention

This is an old NLP concept that I heard years ago, but it wasn't until a close friend of mine helped me to understand this that it actually made sense. Then, it took even more expertise on my part to come up with this strategy. When you want to use the following concept, here's all you need to do. Repeat the above "quote" then say "maybe he/she wanted to..." and fill in the blanks. Say to you gentlemen out there that a chic rejects you, you can be like "maybe she wanted to avoid being hurt again. maybe she thought i was some type of player that was going to 'hit it and quit it', or maybe she wanted to avoid the pain of talking with me and me never calling her." Get it?

It takes Even More Work To Be Less Than You Already Are

This one is a little deeper but I still view it as a useful distinction. It relies on the assumption that you are already perfect, you just forgot that somewhere along the way. Look at a baby, the baby comes out and can you really say that something is wrong with it? No, but along the way from our society, friends, and parents, we learn to be less than you already are. And does it take some work to be who you already are? Of course, BUT does it take EVEN more work to be less than who you already are? Yup. It's kind of like if your natural hair color is blonde, and you die it brown because some meaningful person who was doing the best with what they knew told you that it's better to be a brunette. You have to work pretty hard to be that way! You have to constantly die your hair, and that can get pretty costly!!! =)

But seriously, think about that. You can look at yourself or someone else and laugh at the f

Current Beliefs

2006-10-12T10:25:00.000-07:00

Hey Guys,

A quick note. I have done quite a bit of personal growth and it has a lot of power, but the most important and foundational aspect is a solid philosophy to fall back on. There are over 10,000 different ways to improve the way you feel and think but the one that continues to withstand the stand of time is philosophies, look at any Koran, Bible, etc. They don't have any fancy strategies. I actually believe in the power of both having great strategies BUT also having the right set of beliefs in place.

Every Action Affirms A Belief

everything you take an action remember that you are affirming a belief. No action is either positive or negative, but some actions are in line with what you want and others aren't. Also, your reality (or current experience) is the sum total of all your beliefs via the law of attraction. That is, you are literally attracting everything into your life.

Every Pain Plants The Seed Of An Even Better Pleasure

This is another law of the universe. If you remember, assuming you're a guy, working out in the gym? Well, you remember how you did experience some pain, but that it was nothing compared to the pleasure you experienced afterwards in terms of pride, accomplishment, and general well-being. Every event in your life is exactly what you need, but more so, if you look at any seemingly "negative" event it planted the seed for an even greater benefit. Therefore any regrets demonstrate a lack of understanding. All pain in general should not be something that you avoid, but you should understand anytime you experience pain that there is an even greater benefit about to come your way.

To use this tool, this is what has worked for me is to ask myself. "Ok, this planted the seed of an even better pleasure. What was it? Maybe I..." Then fill in the blanks, I typically ask myself three responses because usually the first is never very good.

Any Negative Emotion Demonstrates A Lack of Understanding

We have built into us a guardian angel of sorts (an emotional guidance system if you will), that tells us how we are doing. Now, this doesn't mean I am trying to neglect any negative emotions, but what I am saying that the more you understand universal laws the better you will feel. Frustration, Disappointment, Anger, Resentment, all of these just mean that you just have to get the underlying meaning, and then usually the emotion leaves. Now, this is a lot harder to do than it is to explain, but I believe that there is power to this!

The Beliefs to have and how to implement them for free in 3 easy steps

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Step 1 -- Read about subliminals here http://www.subliminal-power.com/

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Step 3 -- I have a list of beliefs, and if you would like email me. If not, the program has an incredible list of beliefs.

Overview of Clare Grave's Spiral Dynamics

2006-10-03T14:42:00.000-07:00

You can read more about Spiral Dynamics here (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spiral_Dynamics) BUT it took me 1000s of hours to come up with an understanding of the model. It is a human developmental model that shows the phases or stages that humans go through. It is useful because then you can relate with people a lot better.

EGOTISTIC - At this stage in development usually starting at about 2 but sometimes later in life, people tend to have love centered on themselves and only about themselves. Some people never grow out of it, people like Hitler are great examples of this. They identify with only themselves, but can use groups (churches, military, etc) to hide their cover maneuvers. You can hear this stage of thinking typified in "trust no one". But this life can get boring and empty and man naturally seeks order, so.. he

ABSOLUTISIM - the search ends in some sort of group with its own set of preestablished doctrine and body of law, examples of this could be a gang, a mob, the church, the military, a company (our company is the best and only way, other companies are just copy-cats). Identity is now based off this group, "I am a soldier", "I am a Christian", "I am a Jew", etc. Morals are based off those in the group, and there is no room for exceptions. "Black/White Thinker" Goals in this stage are to follow the rules in order to come out on top. "If I follow the ten commandments carefully, then I will come out on top and go to heaven. And all those others will perish in hell." "I'm going to work hard and eventually I'll come out on top." BUT, living this kind of muted existence can be painful, especially as you start to ask "why do I have to follow all these rules?" , "Can life be better?". So that leads to...

PLURALISM - At this point, man begins to see that there are other ways and other perspectives, but he still believes his way is the best. His way is now the pursuit of his own goals and desires, which he had previously suppressed. The drive is for lofty goals like status, prestige, and money. He loves those with which he still identifies himself with, his religion, his company, his friends. Morals are based off what is right and wrong based on rational thinking and science, not so much from doctrinal. There is a little bit of a contempt for the rules that he subordinated himself to in the previous stage. But, in the pursuit of these lofty goals, whether he gets them or not, he starts to ask "what's all this money, fame, etc for?" "once I get it, then what?". That leads to a sense of service for all people, which is...

RELATIVISM - Love tends to shift from a group to now the world and all people. This stage is marked by repairing of all relationships with all people, even those that have hurt them. (Landmark seeks to get people to this point in their introductory program, where they have you patch up all your existing relationships). Identity is now that of a human although sub-identities may exists. Goals shift as a deeper meaning into life rolls in and the desire to make a meaningful impact is desired, have a purpose in "life." Successful intimate relationships are possible because love is no unconditional. And this stage is also marked with a desire for meaningful relationships in general. When facing what to do, moral decisions are made according to ones own intuition and others decisions are respected according to one own intuition and others decisions are respected. In short, "what's right for you is right for you, but what's right for me is right for me. And if anyone tries to tell you what to do, that's a travesty" But eventually man's desire for order comes in and he begins to transition in his belief of universals...

INTEGRAL - Identity expands to all that which is living, that is, that compassion deepens. Goals are now the unification of everything and all knowledge because living in a fragmented world gets told, kind of like working at the post office and the mail never ending! Morals are based off universal laws that apply to all people. Love is unconditional to all living things.

*Very few people and not myself ever get here, but it is possible.

Organizing Principles

1. You can experience a higher stage but you must judge yourself based on your center of gravity

2. Although lower levels of development are not better, we should strive to appreciate and understand people where ever they are BECAUSE we were there once.

3. Make a decision to classify yourself and others and don't change it until you have compelling reason to.

One of the more provocative audios I've ever listened to

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Listen to this with open ears, but it will challenge you..

http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/09/stevepavlinacom-podcast-016-the-true-nature-of-reality/

Rules of Asking and Rejection

2006-09-28T11:38:00.000-07:00

HOW TO FEEL INFINITELY BETTER ABOUT REJECTION.

*A belief is nothing but a feeling about certainty. I don't believe you can simply learn a few beliefs, and you can get results BUT rather it is a series of beliefs that will actually create what you want. More specifically, it will mold reality to however you want. SO, here are the beliefs it comes to when doing anything involving rejection.

1.) It is a numbers game. (alternate: not every seed you sew will sprout)

2.) Always Be Closing - (Alternate Belief: Play to Win, and Act as if You've won).

3.) You miss every shot you don't take, and you're no worse off for taking the shot. (Alternate: It's always "on" [more of a game related belief]

4.) You fail at asking, if you fail to ask. (variation - you fail at approaching if you fail to APPROACH!)

5.) Rejection exists because we're not perfect.

6.) When people reject you, they're simply rejecting your image. Not you, it's usually bad timing or bad delivery. On a different day, you could win!

7.) Move on (a skill of taking your focus off the rejection, and onto your next prospect)

8.) I have value, so I feel sorry for people when they are rejecting me. (Taken from high-status people who really feel this way)

9.) Never ever ever ever leave on a low note. Always on a high note. (Alternate: never leave with your tail between your legs)

10.) Never ever ever give up (Alternate: Like a lumberjack, chopping down a tree. Keep chopping!)

Best Quote of All time

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THIS IS BY FAR MY FAVORITE

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

-Marianne Williamson

Second Best Quote

It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who at best, knows the triumph of high achievement; and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.
-Theodore Roosevelt,

How You Do One Thing is...

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How you do everything!

That's right, how you do one thing is how you do everything.

If you're always late to something, there's chances that you don't keep commitments somewhere else. If you stop and start goals a lot, you have to ask yourself. Where else does this show up.

Just a thought.

Some stuff

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For those of you that haven't checked out "The Secret" yet one of the thing it teaches is the concept of having faith.

Why do you want to have faith? Because you are attracting things into your life, much like a Magnet. So, if you are acting as if, you have a million dollars, you will soon have it because you are vibrating with the same resonance. But back to the topic at hand.

For the past four weeks, I have been doing the secret for 2-3 hours per day on walks, before going to bed, in the car, etc. And the results are amazing! And you can feel the difference too!

Here is the process that I recommend to begin to attract things in your life

1.) Go on a walk and get thankful for all the great things that happened YESTERDAY! That's right yesterday. Act as if all the great things you want in your life happened yesterday, and they're now just a memory. How does that feel? I found for me this worked really well because when I wanted to "act as if" I already had something my brain would reject it.

2.) While on the walk, ask yourself this question "What if it were true that these things happened?" So, if you want that shiny car, ask yourself "What if it were true that I really had this car how would I feel?" Then, watch as you start to get reallly excited and passionate. And in this passionate and excited state, you will begin to attract things that are in line with what it is that you want.

3.) Observe your body. When you think about the things that you want in your life, do you get excited? If not, then you really need this more than anyone else. Because if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt, that the things you wanted in your life would appear, then you would get really excited.

4.) Scramble any negative images stopping you. Ask yourself, "are there any images that are stopping me from feeling the way I want to feel?" And a lot of times they're are, so go back and scramble them. Read some of my previous posts on how to do this.

5.) Continually test yourself to see if you feel absolutely phenomenal. If you feel anything less than level 10939839398 THEN you probably aren't doing it right. Only under these conditions will you get the Law of Attraction to work for you. I'm telling you guys right now, that this is single handedly one of the most powerful forces in the universe. It's crazy, and I will soon be posting a major success story to tell you guys more about it.

6.) Get grateful for what you have. You have to appreciate and take care of what you got, else life won't give you anymore. Everything has energy in it, and to totally disregard what you have is to deny that what you have has any value. I actually went and named all the things in my life ( my car, my cellphone) so that there's that extra bit of appreciation.

7.) Here is a list of empowering questions to ask

"How did I create/attract this?" (There are no accidents)
"How can I turn this around?"
"What is the image that made things go bad?"
"What's great about this?"

8.) Here's another process to look at, which is a variation of the meaning generator, that I posted about earlier.

1.) Look at a situation, ask yourself "What meaning am I giving this?"
2.) Ask yourself, "When was the first time an event like this happened where I gave it x-meaning?"
3.) Could the meaning I gave it have been a misrepresentations, misinterpretation, or misperception? Do I know all the facts?"
4.) "What could it have meant?"
5.) "What do I need to do now to feel good?"
6.) What's great about this

9.) Always remember that the fastest way to change your state and hence your life is to change your physiology. Couple a powerful move with a high-powered word (such as yes, peace, hells yeah, whatever works for you). Also, always be conscious of what you are eating, sleeping, breathing, and how you are holding your body.

10.) Always remember too that beliefs are like rules that make the game of life more playable. Doesn't matter if they're right or wrong, you just need to believe in them. And you need to find ones that are empowering. I remember that my brain used to always question all my beliefs to find out if the beliefs are true, but it has nothing to do with being right. It has everything to do with being right for your life. Having no beliefs or lack of beliefs leads to a weak amount of confidence and cynicism, both of which will result in a compromised beliefs. Another helpful thing to do is to preface anytime you say your belief with "My own personal belief is..." That kind of sets people at ease because people are resistant to being told what to do, and the very nature of having to tell people what is right is on some level insecure because you need other people to validate your own opinion. So instead, just say "My own personal belief is..."

11.) One thing I've learned that people do is that they find sexy ways of covering up the way they feel, so for example, if someone is afraid to commit to a relationship because they're afraid to get hurt, they'll say I have "relationship issues". Like relationship issues even exists, rather you're a pus#y and afraid to love someone other than yourself. So anytime you feel bad, watch your language and watch how your brain describes it. Work on being honest -- with yourself, which is always the best place.

12.) Speaking of self-honesty, etc. I liked the following things I read from a guy named from Bill Bartman, who is one of those high-powered billionaire types:

//Begin Bill Bartman

Taken from: http://www.billbartmann.com/archive.htm

ÂTo be successful you must take risks.Â

Every one of us has seen countless examples of this Law in action. When we look at people who we think of as successful (whether it be money, fame or power) we can easily and quickly see the risks they had to take in order to achieve their success. Likewise, when we look at people who we think of as unsuccessful Â it is equally easy to see that they were unwilling to take risks in their lives.

What is the major difference between these two types of people? SELF-ESTEEM!

Once analyzed, the cause of success and failure is easily identified. The logic is simple and inescapable.

To succeed you must take risks.

To be willing to take risks Â you must be unafraid of failing.

To be unafraid of failing Â you must be unconcerned about other peopleÂs opinion of you.

To be unconcerned about other peopleÂs opinion of you Â you must have high self-esteem.

The proof of the hypothesis is that the reverse is equally true.

Unsuccessful people are afraid to take risks.

They are afraid to take risks because they are afraid to fail.

They are afraid to fail because they worry about other peopleÂs opinion of them.

They worry about other peopleÂs opinion of them Â because they have low self-esteem.

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Who knows me better Â them or me?
Who is more qualified to formulate an opinion of me Â them or me?
Who has access to more facts & information about me Â them or me?
Who can be more honest about me Â them or me?
Who has seen all of my positives as well as all of my negatives Â them or me?
Who has more at stake Â them or me?
Who is without a bias- them or me?
Who is without an agenda Â them or me?

The next time you are about to let someone elseÂs opinion of you change your own opinion of you, ask yourself this series of simple questions.

By being honest with yourself and asking and answering these simple questions you will quickly realize Â they donÂt have the same amount of information that you have and because of their lack of information, their opinion should be dismissed as unworthy of consideration.

The bottom line is simply: The only opinion of you that matters Â is your own. ÂI am what I am, and that is all that I amÂ

//end of Bill Bartmann

13.) NOTHING HAS ANY MEANING UNLESS THE MEANING I GIVE IT. I finally figured out what this meant, and it is simply that things happen, like we go talk to a girl and she says "No" and we then take it to mean that we aren't good enough. This is such bullshit, we need to have high enough self-esteem that someone saying no to us is THEY'RE LOSS not ours. I was at a conference one time, and I saw this Hollywood Executive say that if people don't like him, he "feels sorry for them" Wow! What a great belief to have. We need to raise our self-esteems, so that we can take more risks and have fewer hick-ups in life.

See the Secret and Other Distinctions

2006-07-13T07:07:00.000-07:00

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NEVER SET A GOAL AGAIN UNTIL YOU READ THIS

2006-06-08T04:10:00.000-07:00

I'M TALKING TO YOU, YEAH, YOU! DON'T SET ANOTHER GOAL UNTIL YOU GO ON A CHALLENGE TO ELIMINATE ALL SABOTAGING BEHAVIORS WHETHER IT BE OVERSLEEPING, OVEREATING, SMOKING, ETC. YOU'LL KNOW IF IT'S SABOTAGING IF YOU GO ONE STEP FORWARD, THEN ONE STEP BACK WITH YOUR GOALS.

I HAD THREE SABOTAGING BEHAVIORS THAT I WOULD TURN TO WHEN I GOT STRESSED OUT OR DISAPPOINTED, I WOULD EITHER OVERSLEEP, OVEREAT, OR STOP SCHEDULING MY DAY.

I PUT MYSELF ON 3 10-DAY CHALLENGES FOR EACH AREA. SO, FOR EXAMPLE, THE FIRST 10 DAYS WAS FOR EATING, WHERE I FOCUSED ON EATING PROPERLY. THE NEXT 10 DAYS WAS FOR ARISING ON TIME, WHERE I FOCUSED ON GETTING OUT OF BED ON TIME. THE LAST 10 DAYS WAS FOR SCHEDULING, OR POWERPLANNING AS I CALL IT.

ONE CHALLENGE WAS THAT I PUT LIKE 50 RULES ON MYSELF, AND THEN I WOULD FORGET ABOUT SOME OF THEM. SO THAT'S WHY I NARROWED IT DOWN TO 3 SEPERATE 10 DAY CHALLENGES. I ALSO BELIEVE YOU NEED TO HAVE A BALANCE OF MUST, SHOULD, MUST NOTES, AND SHOULD NOTES. LET ME GIVE YOU AN EXAMPLE, WITH EATING, HERE'S WHAT I DID AND HERE ARE SOME OF MY RULES:

MUSTS
ALWAYS EAT ACCORDING TO MY LIVING HEALTH PRINCIPLES
DECIDE EXACTLY HOW MUCH I'M GOING TO EAT

SHOULD
HAVE A SALAD WITH EVERY MEAL
EAT SLOWLY AND IN A RELAXED STATE

MUST NOT
EAT PAST A LEVEL 10 ON MY OWN SCALE
GO BACK FOR MORE FOOD AFTER I'VE FINISHED
EAT MORE THAN EVERY TWO HOURS

SHOULD NOT
EAT PAST LEVEL 7
EAT TOO QUICKLY

ALSO, THE MORE PEOPLE YOU TELL THE BETTER, THAT WAY YOU'RE ACCOUNTABLE. AND JUST BY EXPRESSING IT, AND BY "SELLING" IT TO ANOTHER PERSON, YOU DRIVE IT EVEN FARTHER HOME TO YOUR LIFE. THAT IS YOU'VE ENGRAINED IT INTO YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS.

WELL, I'M WISHING YOU GUYS THE BEST, AND I REALLY HOPE THIS POST MAKES SENSE BECAUSE IT IS QUITE POWERFUL! PLEASE SEND ME AN EMAIL WITH QUESTIONS. I ALSO HIGHLY RECOMMEND BODY YOU DESERVE BECAUSE TR HAS LIKE 20 SEPARATE AND DISTINCT TOOLS THAT YOU CAN USE TO CHANGE ANY SABOTAGING BEHAVIORS. EVERYTHING FROM SWISH PATTERNS TO URGE CRUNCHERS TO RULES REALIGNMENT. IN COMPARISON, MOST PROGRAMS WILL BASE THEIR WHOLE PROGRAM OFF ONE TOOL FOR CHANGE. WE ALL KNOW THAT WHAT WORKS FOR ONE PERSON MAY NOT WORK FOR THAT PERSON IN THE MOMENT, SO BY HAVING A VARIETY OF TOOLS, A STRING OF THINGS WILL WORK!

AGAIN, TO REITERATE, THE KEY IS TO DECIDE THAT ONCE YOU START THIS, THAT YOU ARE GOING TO KEEP GOING UNTIL YOU COMPLETE IT. EVEN IF YOU HAVE TO START-OVER 50 TIMES! I WENT OUT AND GOT A DRY-ERASE MARKER. NOW, KEEP IN MIND THESE ARE SABOTAGING BEHAVIORS THAT I HAD BEEN TRYING (THERE'S YOUR FIRST INDICATION) TO CHANGE FOR YEARS. USING THIS PROCESS, I HAVE REVOLUTIONIZED MY LIFE IN JUST A FEW MONTHS! ALSO, JUST TACKLE ONE SABOTAGING BEHAVIOR AT A TIME.

NEXT, CHANCES ARE THAT YOU'RE TURNING TO THAT BEHAVIOR WHEN YOU'RE FEELING A NEGATIVE EMOTION. IF YOU'RE LIKE ME, YOU HAD TURNED TO IT YOUR ENTIRE LIFE TO CHANGE THE WAY YOU FELT. BREAKING THE CHAIN IS CHALLENGING, BUT TOTALLY REWARDING. YOU'RE GOING TO LEARN TO CHANGE YOUR EMOTIONS IN OTHER WAYS (DON'T GET ME STARTED ON THAT TOPIC) AND YOU'RE ALSO GOING TO RAISE YOUR STANDARDS, SO THAT NO MATTER HOW YOU FEEL, YOU'LL NEVER GO BACK.

LET ME GIVE YOU A TYPICAL EXAMPLE OF HOW THINGS USED TO GO WITH ME. I WOULD WAKE-UP LATE, THEN FEEL UNMOTIVATED, THEN HAVE A GIANT BOWL OF SALAD. THEN, I WOULD FEEL MORE UNMOTIVATED, SO I'D HAVE ANOTHER SALAD AND A SANDWICH. THEN, I WOULD FEEL GROGGY AND GO BACK TO SLEEP. NEXT THING YOU KNOW IT'S 2PM IN THE AFTERNOON, AND THEN I FEEL WORSE! DOES THIS CYCLE SOUND FAMILIAR? OR DOES ANY ONE ASPECT?

THEN THIS IS SOMETHING THAT NEEDS TO BE HANDLED FOR YOUR OWN BETTERMENT. I DON'T KNOW HOW MANY PEOPLE WHO ARE INVOLVED IN PERSONAL GROWTH WHO STILL HAVE SABOTAGING BEHAVIORS LIKE THESE. I KNOW THAT I WOULD GO STRONG FOR A FEW DAYS AS FAR AS MOMENTUM TOWARD MY GOALS, THEN MAYBE ONE DAY I WOULD OVERSLEEP, THEN BOOM, I WOULD LET MY WHOLE DAY GO DOWNHILL FROM THERE. CHANGE THESE NOW!

SOME BIG BREAKTHROUGHS I HAD ALSO, WERE BELIEVING THAT I COULD CHANGE. AND REALLY BELIEVING AND FEELING WHAT IT WOULD FEEL LIKE AT THE END OF THE CHALLENGE. REALLY FEEL IT AND CELEBRATE. NEXT, I HAD TO HAVE CLEAR GUIDELINES, THAT'S WHERE I TIED IN THE MUST AND THE SHOULDS AND THE MUST NOTES AND THE SHOULD NOTES. I DID THIS BECAUSE IT WAS MUCH BETTER THAN SAYING I AM GOING TO EAT "RIGHT". WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? SO VAGUE. I LIKE THE PRINCIPLE OF HAVING AN EXACT FINISH LINE, SO THAT YOU KNOW WHEN YOU'VE VIOLATED YOUR RULES AND NEED TO START OVER. ALSO, SO YOU CAN CELEBRTE WHEN YOU WIN. I CANNOT EMPHASIZE ENOUGH THAT YOU BE SUPER CLEAR, AND I ALSO SUGGEST THAT IF YOU'RE GOING TO START OVER. YOU ONLY START OVER IF YOU VIOLATE THE MUSTS AND THE MUST NOTES, RATHER THAN THE SHOULDS. I HIGHLY SUGGEST THIS.

NOW, THE NEXT THING THAT COMES TO MIND IS THAT SHOULD YOU NEED TO START OVER. IT'S GOOD TO HAVE A LIST OF QUESTIONS THAT YOU CAN ASK YOURSELF THAT WILL REMIND YOU OF YOUR PURPOSE IN DOING THE CHALLENGE. PAIN QUESTIONS ARE BETTER THAN PLEASURE QUESTIONS. I SUGGEST YOU HAVE BOTH. QUESTIONS LIKE "WHAT IS THIS GOING TO COST ME IN THE LONGRUN IF I DON'T CHANGE THINGS NOW?" THEN REALLY FEEL HOW BAD IT FEELS. REALLY. IF YOU DO IT RIGHT, YOU'LL FEEL YOUR BODY RUSH TO THE SOLUTION AND GET PASSIONATE ABOUT THE GOALS THAT YOU'RE SETTING.

ALSO, YOU SHOULD FEEL SIGNIFICANT FOR TACKLING THIS BECAUSE MOST PEOPLE NEVER HAVE THE COURAGE OR PERSISTENCE TO CHANGE THESE AREAS IN THEIR LIVES. I'VE MET MANY A MILLIONAIRE NOW WHO HAVE ALL THIS MONEY, BUT STILL CAN'T TAKE CONTROL OF THEIR EMOTIONS AND THEIR BEHAVIORS.

TO ME EMOTIONS ARE THE MOST POWERFUL TOOL WE HAVE TO CREATE CHANGE IN OUR LIVES. ALL BEHAVIOR WE HAVE IS DICTATED BY EMOTIONS. AND EVERYTHING WE HAVE ATTRACTED INTO OUR LIVES WAS DONE BY OUR EMOTIONS. I HIGHLY SUGGEST YOU GUYS TAKE A LOOK AT LEAST AT THE BEHAVIORS THAT AREN'T SUPPORTING YOU AND DETERMINE IF RIGHT NOW WOULD BE A GOOD TIME TO CHANGE THEM.

POWER OF POWER EMOTIONS

2006-05-23T17:47:00.000-07:00

WE ALL HAVE A SET OF FOUR MAYBE FIVE EMOTIONS THAT WE NEED TO HAVE WITHIN US TO MAKE ANY SHIFT. WITHOUT THEM, WE CAN KNOW WHAT TO DO, BUT THEY WILL NEVER MAKE A REALITY. FOR ME, THEY ARE:

COURAGE - WITHOUT COURAGE, YOU'LL CON YOURSELF OUT OF TAKING ACTION.
FAITH - WITHOUT FAITH, YOU'LL LOSE HOPE WHEN THINGS GET DIFFICULT
CONFIDENCE - WITHOUT CONFIDENCE, YOU'LL GET INSECURE WHEN CHALLENGES ARISE
PERSISTENCE - WITHOUT PERSISTENCE, YOU'LL NEVER GET IN STATE. I HAVE A BELIEF THAT SAYS THE HARDER YOU WORK, THE EASIER LIFE IS BECAUSE YOU GET IN STATE! IF YOU HALF-ASS THINGS, YOU'LL NEVER GET IN STATE AND THINGS WILL BE DIFFICULT.

SO START TODAY! ANYTIME SOMETHING DIFFICULT IN YOUR LIFE, MAKE SURE THAT YOU HAVE YOUR POWER EMOTIONS!

One of the Most Powerful Tools Ever

2006-05-22T19:18:00.000-07:00

This is quiet possibly the most powerful tool you'll ever have. I created this when I was in one of those creative states that I get into.

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BELIEF GENERATOR

*FOR USE WHEN YOU FEEL BAD

DO YOU WANT TO CONTINUE FEELING THIS WAY? ARE YOU READY TO LEARN AN IMPORTANT LEARNING LESSON?

WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE IN ORDER TO FEEL THIS WAY? I WOULD HAVE TO BELIEVE THAT...

HOW COULD THIS BELIEF DESTROY MY LIFE? WOULD SOMEONE WHO I WANT TO MODEL BELIEVE THIS? IS THIS A POISON? WHAT'S RIDICULOUS ABOUT THIS BELIEF? WAS THE PERSON I LEARNED THIS FROM WORTH MODELING? WHAT WILL IT COST ME IF I CONTINUE TO DO THIS BELIEF?

WHAT WOULD SOMEONE WHO I WANT TO MODEL BELIEVE? I COULD BELIEVE THAT...

WHAT REFERENCES TO I HAVE TO BACK UP THIS NEW BELIEF?

WHAT DO I NEED IN ORDER TO FEEL GOOD NOW?

WHAT'S GREAT ABOUT THIS?

A LETTER FROM GEOFF

2006-05-16T13:27:00.000-07:00

*PLEASE EXCUSE THE ALL CAPS, IT HELPS ME TO TYPE FASTER WHEN EVERYTHING IS IN CAPS

RATHER THAN ASKING MYSELF "WHAT IS WRONG WITH MY LIFE" I'VE BEGUN TO ASK "WHAT REALLY DRIVES HUMAN BEHAVIOR? WHAT IS IT THAT REALLY MAKES PEOPLE CONFIDENT?" TO GET OUT OF MY OWN CONFIDENCE ISSUES, AND INTO WHAT REALLY MAKES SOMEONE CONFIDENT.

FIRST OF ALL, I THINK THAT "ANALYZING" IS SOMETHING YOU CAN PUT OFF UNTIL LATER. SO I LITERALLY SAY I'LL THINK ABOUT THIS LATER, TO MYSELF. THIS IS SOMETHING THAT I REALLY DON'T NEED TO THINK ABOUT RIGHT NOW.

SECOND OF ALL, YOU NEED TO ALWAYS NO MATTER WHAT EVERY SINGLE MOMENT OF THE DAY, HOLD YOURSELF LIKE SOMEONE WHO IS CONFIDENT!

THIRD! YOU NEED TO REMEMBER ONE SIMPLE BELIEF, THAT YOU'RE NOT BETTER THAN OTHERS, AND THEY'RE NOT BETTER THAN YOU. THAT YOU ARE ALL EQUAL. GOD DOESN'T PUT PEOPLE ON THIS PLANET WITHOUT GREATNESS BUILT INTO THEM.

FOURTH, YOU NEED TO CELEBRATE YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS. LIKE WHEN YOU DO SOMETHING GOOD, NO MATTER HOW SMALL REWARD YOURSELF. LIKE THINK TO YOURSELF, "YESS I DID IT" THEN HAVE A PHYSICAL GESTURE YOU DO TO ANCHOR IT IN!

FIFTH, YOU NEED TO FIND OUT WHAT IT TAKES TO WIN, WHAT IT TAKES TO LOSE, AND WHEN YOU'RE GOING TO LET YOURSELF FEEL REJECTED.

SIXTH, YOU NEED TO REMEMBER THAT WHEN SOMEONE IS TOUGH ON YOU, IT'S USUALLY NOT ABOUT YOU, IT'S ABOUT THEM. THINK ABOUT IT, WHEN YOU'RE IN YOUR MOST HAPPIEST POSITIVE STATE, DO YOU REALLY FEEL LIKE BELITTILING SOMEONE. NOW, YOU OBVIOUSLY HAVE TO SHARE THE BLAME AND CONTINUE TO IMPROVE YOURSELF AS WELL.

SEVENTH, WHEN FACED WITH FEAR, COMMIT TO PUSH THROUGH IT. THERE IS NOTHING THAT HOLDS US BACK MORE THAN FEAR. WHEN WE LEARN TO PUSH THROUGH IT, THEN THE PEOPLE WE FEAR SUDDENTLY WANT TO BE OUR FRIENDS.

EIGHTH, ALONG WITH THAT LINK UP THAT MASSIVE SUCCESS IS GOING TO EQUAL MASSIVE REJECTION. YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO GET COMFORTABLE WITH PEOPLE YOU KNOW, POSSIBLY EVEN YOUR FRIENDS TALKING TRASH ABOUT YOU. JUST RECOGNIZE THAT IF YOU HAVE A VAST MAJORITY OF PEOPLE THAT LOVE YOU AND SOME PEOPLE THAT HATE YOU EMBRACE THAT.

NINTH, LOOK PEOPLE IN THE EYE AND HOLD YOUR HEAD UP.

TENTH, BEGIN TO TAKE PERSPECTIVES. ASK YOURSELF, "IF I WAS THIS PERSON, HOW WOULD I WANT TO BE TALKED TO?" THEN FOLLOW THAT. OVER TIME YOU'LL BEGIN TO IDENTITY HOW DIFFERENT PEOPLE LIKE TO BE TALKED WITH

ELEVENTH, REMEMBER THAT YOU DON'T KNOW SOMETHING UNTIL YOU HAVE APPLIED IT. YOU CAN READ ABOUT THE SISTINE CHAPEL IN BOOKS, BUT YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW IT UNTIL YOU DO IT.

TWELTH, THEY TAKE ACTION ON THINGS RATHER THAN TALK ABOUT THEM. WE ALL HAVE 3 DECISIONS OR ACTIONS THAT WE HAVE BEEN PUTTING OFF, WHICH IF WE DID WOULD UNLEASH OUR POWER. AND WHEN YOU DECIDE, FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION. YOU WILL FIND A WAY NO MATTER HOW LONG IT TAKES.

THIRTEENTH, YOU DON'T GO BACK AND THINK THROUGH MEMORIES ALL THE TIME. YOU LEARN WHAT YOU NEED TO, SO WHEN YOU CONVEY YOUR PAST EXPERIENCES WITH PEOPLE YOU CAN TELL THEM ABOUT IT AND NOT GET CAUGHT UP IN THE STORY OF IT ALL. THIS IS SOMETHING THAT I AM MAKING A LOT OF PROGRESS ON, WHEREAS I USED TO RETHINK WHAT I "REALLY HAPPENED". JUST DECIDE AND DON'T BOTHER RETHINKING THINGS.

FOURTEENTH, TAKE ALL INSECURITIES, AND REALIZE NO MATTER WHAT YOU'RE SITUATION IN LIFE, YOU NEED TO ALWAYS REMAIN CONFIDENT. YOU LEARN FASTER WHEN YOU'RE CONFIDENT, UNFORTUNATELY, PEOPLE NEED SOMETHING ON THE OUTSIDE TO MAKE THEM CONFIDENT, LIKE INFORMATION. RATHER THAN FEEL CONFIDENT ON THE INSIDE.

FIFTEENTH, BREVITY IS KEY. SOMETIMES WE OVEREXPLAIN THINGS BECAUSE WE FEEL THAT WE HAVE TO MAKE SURE THE OTHER PERSON KNOWS EXACTLY WHERE YOU STAND. THE BAD THING ABOUT THIS IS THAT YOU USUALLY LOSE YOUR POINT IN TOO MANY WORDS. BREVITY IS KEY. SAY MORE WITH LESS.

SIXTEENTH, WHEN YOU START QUESTIONING YOURSELF, STOP. INSTEAD, REMEMBER THAT YOU HAVE A CORE SET OF BELIEFS THAT YOU NEVER EVER EVER QUESTION! NEVER! YOU HOLD THEM CLOSE TO YOU ALMOST LIKE A POLISHED SET OF CHINA. DON'T BREAK THE CHINA. DON'T QUESTION YOUR BELIEFS.

SEVENTEETH, IF YOU'RE GOING TO DO SOMETHING, GO FULL OUT! HALF ASSED EFFORT, HALF ASSED _____. YES, RESULT. DO THINGS FULL OUT. YOUR BRAIN HAS A BUILT IN INDICATOR THAT WILL MAKE YOU FEEL BAD IF YOU DO BAD, ALMOST LIKE A FEELING OF REJECTION. FROM YOURSELF! SO REMEMBER, IF I'M GOING TO DO SOMETHING, GO FULL OUT!

EIGHTEENTH, REMEMBER THAT YOU CAN ALWAYS FIND A WAY! ALWAYS. ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS COMMIT YOURSELF A LITTLE. THINK ABOUT A CHALLENGE YOU HAD IN YOUR PAST. FOR ME, IT WAS DECIDING TO START A LIFE WITHOUT A COLLEGE DEGREE. SCARY THING, BUT I FOUND A WAY. NO CERTAINTY THERE! YOU HAVE MEMORIES TOO, OR REFERENCES. THAT CAN HELP YOU BACK UP ANY BELIEF.

NINTEENTH, WHEN YOU START FOCUS ON THE NEGATIVE. CHANGE YOUR FOCUS. REALIZE THAT YOU'RE GOING TO CREATE THE NEGATIVE IN YOUR LIFE, IF YOU KEEP THINKING LIKE THAT. INSTEAD, ASK YOURSELF "WHAT IS THAT I REALLY WANT?" AND SEE THAT PICTURE INSTEAD! WE WEAKEN OUR CONFIDENCE BY CONTINUALLY FOCUSING ON WHAT MIGHT HAPPEN. REMEMBER THE OLD QUOTE, A COWARD DIES A THOUSAND DEATHS WHEREAS THE HERO ONLY DIES ONCE. A COWARD CONTINUALLY REEVALUATES ALL THE THINGS THAT COULD HAPPEN, INSTEAD OF JUST HAVING FAITH AND TRUSTING THAT HE WILL GET WHAT HE WANTS IN THE END.

TWENTEETH, WE NEED TO ALL REMEMBER THAT WE HAVE GOTTEN OURSELF OUT OF NEGATIVE EMOTIONS BEFORE, WE HAVE GONE THROUGH THE PROPER STEPS, WE JUST HAVE TO BEGUN CONSICOUS TO HOW WE DID IT. EMOTIONS DON'T HAPPEN TO US, WE DO EMOTIONS. IF YOU FEEL BAD, YELL OUT LOUD -- LEARN LEARN LEARN! ASK YOURSELF, "HOW AM I CREATING THIS?" AND THEN ASK, "HOW CAN I TURN THIS AROUND?"

TWENTY-ONE, ACTION ALWAYS BEATS INACTION. ALWAYS. RATHER THAN WAIT FOR EVERYTHING TO BE PERFECT, START TAKING ACTION AND WATCH HOW THINGS WILL FALL INTO PLACE PERFECTLY FOR YOU.

TWENTY-TWO, THE DABBLER READS A BUNCH OF BOOKS AND APPLYS SOME OF WHAT HE LEARNS. THE MASTER READS A FEW BOOKS AND MASTERS THOSE. ONLY 20 PERCENT OF THE INFORMATION YOU LEARN WILL ACCOUNT FOR 80 PERCENT OF THE RESULTS OF WHAT YOU PRODUCE.

TWENTY-THREE, HAVE BIG DREAMS. SHOOT FOR THE STARS, WORST CASE SCENARIO YOU'LL LAND ON THE MOUNTAIN TOPS. NOT TOO BAD. BUT I'M POSITIVE THAT IF YOU REALLY COMMIT YOURSELF YOU, MYSELF, AND EVERYONE AROUND US CAN AND WILL REACH IT!

I REALLY HOPE THESE WORDS REACH TO THE TRUE CHAMPION THAT LIES WITHIN YOU. BECAUSE IT IS THERE!

FOREVER PASSIONATE,

GEOFF

My Favorite Tools Right Now

2006-04-15T19:49:00.000-07:00

MASTER MEANING MASTER YOUR LIFE

As mentioned in previous posts, mastering meaning is a very important aspect to life. Here is a simple way to look at any event.

EVENT ==> MEANING ==> THAT MEANING HAS AN IMPACT POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE ==> IF NEGATIVE MEANING ATTACHED, FIND A MORE EMPOWERING ONE ==> MOVE FORWARD WITH THAT MEANING.

REMEMBER THAT YOUR PLANS ARE NOT LIFE'S PLANS. WHEN WE MAKE PLANS, GOD LAUGHS.

We have to have faith and belief that whatever we want in our life will be created so long as we have faith and remain true to what we believe. There is no future other than the one that you're currently creating from the past. Don't let your past carry forward into your future. So long as your living according to your life's purpose then life will bless you.

IF SOMEONE HURTS YOU IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU IT'S ABOUT THEM

A lot of time, someone hurts us and we interpret that as meaning that we're worthless, bad, whatever. We know this is not true, and what I've come to realize is that 100 percent of the time it's not about you it's bout them. They have their own issues that they're projecting onto you!

Where's Geoff At?

2006-03-26T12:26:00.000-08:00

Geoff's right here.

IF YOU WANT SOMETHING IN YOUR LIFE, MAKE A STUDY OF IT

We maybe have heard about this, but it applies to anything. You want a better sex life that is totally passionate. Then, make it a study of it. No, seriously, I apologize for that comment, but I use that as an extreme example of what you can have if you simple make a study of it. I know I did this with fitness, school, dating, health, and now with sales. The more you study something and hence apply it. The key is that you must apply it. A typical process goes like this

learn it --> apply it --> master it --> assimilate it with what you know

Most people might apply something but rarely master it. I used to be skeptical of books written on wealth cause I was thinking "If this is so easy, then why aren't more people wealthy?" Same reason why there are tens of thousands books written on how to build a great body, yet very few people ever accomplish it. Or, if they do get a great body, then they stop and say that was a "stage" of their life. Have you seen the people in that video "Pumping Iron" NOW?! Hardly any of them kept up their training programs. I believe that life is about balance and growth. You have find the key areas of your life (health, emotions, relationships, etc) and commit to growing each one of them until you die. That's it. You're growing or your dying. You think you know it all!?! That's the moment when you're wife leave you, your body goes to shit, your finances fail, you lose your kids, your business goes under. Plain and simple. So one thing that I realized is that how do you grow in an area. Simple. Set a goal and go after it like a madman! Then maybe set a goal in another area and go after it. I also believe that with goals you have to set ones that you know that you're going to accomplish. I believe that everyone has a window of comfort. Some people should NOT set goals every three months. That's right, I said some people should NOT set goals for every three months. Why? Because right now they're commitment to anything lasts not three months -- but three days!

So, should they not set goals? No, they should set three day goals. Then, once they do that, they should expand. What's a three day goal look like. Well, it's usually oriented on actions. Like for the next three days, I'm going to go to the gym and do this type of workout. You need to find your comfort zone and constantly push outward. And when you do accomplish your goals, you need to feel good. You need to say to yourself "Yeah, i did it!" The problem is that people set goals so far outside their comfort zone that it's hard for them to stay committed to them. Hence, the big reason why new years resolutions fail. What if we had a new year every week. Would people be more motivated! The same thing with breaking through fear. I'm not going to give someone a phone call and a list of potential customers and say, "Hey, go cold call for three hours." No way, they'll freeze up. So what I'm going to do instead is say, "Here I want you to make five minutes of calls, that's it!" Then, keep building from there.

HERE'S A NEW SET OF MORNING AND EVENING QUESTIONS THAT ARE VERY GOOD

The whole principle of reviewing and beginning your day with controlling your focus is a very powerful tool that you do anyway. Think about it, when you were on a roll, you'll wake-up and say, "Ok, what are the cool things I'm going to do today?" But, then when you have bad days, you don't!

1. What are your Wins from yesterday? Achievements
> Personal:
> Professional:
2. What have you enjoyed yesterday? Celebrations - Magic Moments.
3. What feelings came up today
4. Challenges?
5. What have you learned today / Distinctions (from the challenges and the above)
6. Where have you Sacrificed / Raised my Standards?
7. What have you contributed yesterday / Contributions
8. Gratitude. What are you Grateful for Today?
9. Intention for the Day today (based on your outcomes for today and all you learned yesterday
10. New Action Items/Outcomes (for the next 24 hours):

FIND THE POSITIVES AND DOWNSIDES WITH ANY ONE THEORY

Yes, that's right. You need to be conscious of what you are reading, watching, listening to, and talking to (as a sidenote even be conscious of the things that you aren't conscious of such as TV in the background, etc). Avoid extremes if possible, so that you can have a balanced life with all areas of your life in check. For example, if you get too extreme into health you get into "raw sprouted vegan organic" eating. That's right you have to eat in that manner or your unhealthy. The funny thing is that this style of eating can easily take away from your ability to focus on your career or say your finances. Hence the reason, why I see a lot of people immersed in health who are hurting financially (myself included in one point!). Why? Because where your focus goes, energy flows. So of couse I should point out that, if you're hurting health wise, then go after it. But once you get to where you want to be, then keep doing what you learned from that area and move on to another area of your life. BUT!

AVOID PURSUING PERFECTION IN ANY AREA OF YOUR LIFE...

Don't make your goal perfection, because when you get to a new level with anything, you realize there's a level above where you're at. And the funny thing in life, is that we are all secretly searching for that end point. But you have to remember that in life you need to follow those who seek the truth and run from those who claim they have found it. What that means is that we all out of our need for certainty want some expert to tell us what to do, but the thing is that we're all students in life. so what they say, could change in 3 years or 5 years. Bloodletting at one point was considered THE way to cure disease. Now we laugh thinking that how they could be so stupid. Was it that they were stupid or that they were doing the best with what they knew? And if they were doing the best with what they knew, and so are we, then who'd to say that 50 years from now people won't laugh at us?

NO CEILINGS...ONLY PLATEAUS...

There are no ceilings, only plateaus! That is it. And remember this, sometimes taking on other challenges will help you come back to the goal you were working on and it will seem easier. Remember, that God's (or life's) delays are not God's denials!

ARE WE GROUP THINKING...

what we do as humans is that we subconsciously want someone else to lead us! And that inherently leads to Group Think! When you start following a pack, inevitably you set yourself up your failure. Have the most powerful influential people been the ones who were in the pack, or stood out from the pack? Here's the interesting thing, is that people's desire for certainty and group think affects them even in personal growth. Go to any seminar, Tony Robbins, Landmark Education, T. Harv Eker, Dr. Robert Young (founder of alkalizing), or Robert Kiyosaki. What you will find is that there are groupies of that type of thinking, and while I'm sure each "guru" is grateful, especially for the revenue they get from the people that buy every single one of their products, they probably also realize that they too have their own blindspots.

BE YOUR OWN GURU...

Remember, BE YOUR OWN GURU! That is where your true power lays. Now, remember that gurus are like restaurants. You can can spend all your time eating at one, but do you really want to do that?No! And do you want to eat everything on their menu until you go to another restaurant. Of course, not, then don't do that with your own personal growth! Challenge yourself and get around where it is better. Have friends of all types, not just the "cool" ones. Because the one person that you don't want to be friends with could have the one tip that will revolutionize your life.

PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE

The reason why NLP was as powerful as it was, yet it hasn't worked its way into mainstream America. Why? It is because the founders forgot one thing! To get good at anything, you need to practice, practice. You cannot simply reprogram someone's phobia, and expect all their problems to be solved. Even, if say the phobia doesn't come back, you need to fill that void. Else they'll develop another phobia. You need to teach them to confront their fears and do the thing which they fear the most.

WHY PEOPLE LIVE MUTED EXISTENCES...

People so often live muted existences because they don't have courage. That is one thing that I respect so strongly about the dating company that I worked for! Each one of those men had to exhibit an extreme amount of courage, and for their hardwork, life will and has rewarded them handsomely. Yet, I see it so often that people get stuck in a comfort zone. A typical scenario could be making 100K a year, with a decent level of health, and a relationship that is just ok. And they never move forward, they never really express what's on their minds but they never really get upset either. So they are in this in between zone. They have in essence a muted existence, which makes for good worker bees. But who wants that? I know no one who is reading this wants that. Why? Because we each have a potential with us that is so great, and that we have experienced in times. That makes us believe that we do have more within us. If you see some people as they age, they keep reflecting back to their younger years. It's because in those years they were willing to take risks, fail, live crazy lives, take on challenges that they didn't think they could have. Yet, somewhere in life, we stop taking those challenges, and we stop believe in them ourselves. And that is where we lose our power. Then we let doctors, the media, advertisers, friends, family, and religion take over the way we think. Each one of them leads primarily by fear!

RATHER THAN LIVE A LIFE OF REGRET, UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE GROWING AT ALL TIMES.

I think very often people lives in regret because the perfect life that had pictured growing up was never fulfilled. Yet, what they don't realize is that it was part of a bigger plan. Remember, life's delays are not life's denials. Sometimes you need to grow other areas of your life in order for you to get to the next level in your life. That's kind of like the businessman who has tried everything (or so he thinks) to get his business to the next level, and then meets a girl, falls in love, and then his business shoots to levels he never thoughts possible. Sometimes not getting what you want is the best thing that could have ever happened because then you wouldn't have thought that you needed to change.

PEOPLE SOMETIMES WRONGFULLY BASE THE QUALITY OF THEIR LIFE ON THEIR EMOTIONS...

And people base the quality of their life on their emotions, when it's so much more than that. It's just that you feel the emotions, but you don't see the other areas. So just because you felt particularly well in one area of your life, does not make it the "best" time of your life. It really means that you felt the best. And while there are clues on what to do to experience those emotions, and we shouldn't deny our powers to feel absolutely incredible every single day of our life. We don't want to delude ourselves into thinking that when we feel our best that we are in fact at the best point.

MASTER MEANING ALREADY...WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR...

Next, I see a lot of people who confuse meaning. In the tool, I published below. I tell you exactly how to reframe the meaning, and live a better quality of life. People may say that your not living in reality if you give things a better meaning. But if you take a closer look at life, you realize that 95% of the negative things you assumed, never actually happened. So you are in fact, living out of reality. The last thing to mention is that a master of life, is a master of meaning. Look at the Dali Lama, he has mastered meaning and anyone who meets him claims that they feel happier themselves after being around him.

WATCH OUT FOR YOUR INSECURITIES, THEY CAN RUIN YOU!

People get so insecure. Why? Because we all have egos and we're constantly comparing ourselves to others to see how we're doing. Even a guy like Kanye West admits that he is insecure. A lot of people will say the one thing about him "He's an awesome artist, but he's kind of cocky!" Why? Because he is constantly comparing himself to others. (My obvious interpretation) So, what is the solution. Well, some of the greatest performers on the planet, all say that rather than compare yourselves with others, compare yourself with your goals and the best you can be. And learn to appreciate other people for being their best. Guys go out to clubs and get all insecure when they see their girl getting attracted to another guy. Rather than respect the fact that guy is an attractive guy and trusting his girl not to do something wrong.

Can anyone be influenced...

If you're scared she's gonna cheat on you, then you got another story! lol. And yes, with enough persuasion, you get almost anyone to do anything. But, as an adult, we can remove ourselves. Say, we took the guy that founded the Sandler Sales system, one of the most powerful systems for selling. And we but an individual in the room, chances are that he could probably get you to buy whatever he is selling. But, you have to be adult enough to remove yourself to remove yourself from the situation.

SO GOING BACK TO INSECURITY...

We will perpetually feel insecure in our lives if we lead our lives with our egos. If we lead with our egos to become the "best" (which is a subjective term much of the time), we're gonna be in fear that someone is gonna overtake us and we're going to have to shittalk our competition. The funny thing is that when you shittalk your competition, you induce reciprocity. So eventually, people are going to shittalk you. And it becomes a lower level of existence. Or, the other thing I've seen people with egos do (or I should say people driven by egos) is that they delude themselves and others into believing that they've accomplished more than they have. You'll hear them have to repeat the same thing over and over again to maintain this "propped up" state of an ego. The key is to be your best and to continually refine what it means to be your best and continually improve. Kaizen. The Japanese term for continual improvement.

WE ALL NEED EXTREMELY LARGE EGOS...

BUT. We all need to have egos, typically the world is dominated by men with extremely large egos. So have one and make it big, have a desire to operate on a worldclass level. Just realize that if you let that drive your life, then you're going to get insecure and do a.) shittalk your competition, b.) lie to yourself and others about your accomplishments, or c.) live in a perpetual state of insecurity.

I give you respect if you read this far because it says a lot about your commitment to living the life that you desire or that is possible!

Checkout this FREE online seminar

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https://www.tonyrobbins.com/passion/passionInstruct.aspx

One of the most powerful tools you'll ever need!

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*All you need to do is to take a situation and answer the questions below

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Am I willing to learn something new? Am I willing to do something? Will making this person wrong help me to make things better?

What meaning am I giving this situation? The meaning I'm giving this is...

Could this be a misrepresentation, misinterpreation, or misperception? Do I know all the facts?

What else could this mean. This could mean...

What do I need in order to feel good now?

Do I need to change my perception?
Do I need to find out more info?
Do I need to understand their viewpoint?
Do I need to know this person really cares?
Do I need to get a commitment?
Do I need to change the way we're doing something?
Do I need to apologize to this person? (maybe for assuming)
Do I need to remember who this person really is and how much I love them?

How can I communicaate my needs that will truly empower our communication? I need your help... I have to apologize... I have a confession...

What's great about this?

The Arena

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when you step in the arena, you better have your game face on! Because your opponent will beat you down if you don't throw blows at your opponent. It's not a game of letting your opponent give you all these blows and not fight back. Who wants to be the dog that lies down and just takes his blows in hopes eventually that the master will grow tired? You have to fight back! Why would you not want to step in the arena and play full out? You want to win, don't you?

Yet, we're afraid to take the jabs and crosses at life. Instead, we go back to the corner of the arena and talk about how tough our opponent is. Or maybe, we fight one round, lose, and then say boy "that sure is a tough opponent." Or worse, we start thinking that maybe we're not meant to win. But by now we both know that it's not the case at all. In Life you have to get back in the arena, and keep fighting those rounds. If you give every ounce of yourself to what you're doing, one of two things will happen, either you'll win! Or you'll learn! Remember, that learnings learned from a half-ass effort, while useful, could be quite easily eradicated by simply playing full out. I used to step in the ring, and try to learn the perfect punch as a substitute for not putting forth my heart into what I was doing. I was secretly afraid of my opponent, or I wanted to win yet didn't want to get hurt.

Remember that failing in life is not the falling down, it is the staying down. We all have to keep going! They say that a business fails 10 times before it succeeds, so that means that at most we're on maybe round 3 of our life, so that means we've still got 7 more rounds until the fight is over. Each of us this moment need to pick up that phone, make that call, commit to that change, and know that god's delays are not god's denials. God is having us reach further and deeper to challenge our level of commitment and to challenge us to grow!

So which fighter are you? Are you the one that gets good by jumping in the ring and boxing everyday? Or are you too sick, tired, hurt, or exhausted to train? I tell you what, those excuses may fly in the status quo, but do you really want to live that! What a waste of talent that YOU have!

Can I figure everything out?

2006-02-12T11:12:00.000-08:00

People out of our need for security always want to know "all" the answers. They want to make sense of everything, but sometimes it is almost impossible to know why it happened. Hours spent analyzing something that happened until you get the perfect answer. And by then, you've wasted time and your in a down state.

FIND THE BEST POSSIBLE ANSWER AND MOVE ON. THE RIGHT ANSWER WILL COME LATER WHEN YOU THINK ANEW.

Come up with a answer, it may not be the perfect one. Accept it and don't doubt it. Then, here is where the magic will come through -- weeks, months, maybe years later, you can "think anew" and then it will all make sense. All the toughest times have actually been the biggest gifts. All the bad relationships will teach you what you want and what you don't want. There is a rhythm to life, and it's up to you to trust that it's there.

Should I detach from outcome?

2006-02-12T11:05:00.000-08:00

I've heard a lot about detaching from the outcome. Just do things, and if they workout great, but if not, don't get too upset. The challenge with this way of thinking is that you may not get to the point where you can achieve all the things you want to. That is, sometimes to achieve a goal you have to have the "die trying" attitude, which is "I'll achieve this goal or die trying"

So what I've found to work well is this

DETACH FROM THE OUTCOME IN THE SHORTTERM

That is, say your cold calling (a very nerve racking thing for most people). You can't be too attached to the outcome in the shortterm. Your job is to simply put in the phone calls, and push the envelope. Then, after a month to three months, you'll see noticeable results, and since you weren't too attached to the outcome, you were able to take more action. Action always wins.

People who can't make it, do way too much prep work to take action. Get too attached to one potential sale, rather than realize that it will take a lot of deals to fall through in order to get good at closing.

Some newer tools

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VIVIDLY CREATE THAT WHICH YOU WANT TO INTERRUPT THE PATTERN OF FAILURE. With cold calling, you cannot let one harsh rejection bother you. What happens when you have a string of rejections and have no good memories to drive you. Create them. Go on a walk and have a simple phrase that will motivate you like "Closing the deal" repeat it over with emotion while seeing the process unfolding as you would like it. Hear the sounds of callers being receptive, and you have new essentially created a pattern of success. Jump on the phones and watch how well it will work for you.

SCRAMBLE THINGS IN YOUR LIFE THAT BOTHER YOU. If things continue to bother you, say a harsh rejection that got underneath your skin. It happens to me and prolly everyone, so all you need to do is scramble it. For me "kartman" from Southpark is a funny voice, so I change the callers voice to "kartman" when they reject me harshly and it becomes easier. Then, go on the above walk if you need to, and you'll be good to go.

USE SYMBOLS TO REMIND YOU OF THINGS. Sometimes your realizations are too long to be languaged, and will be of no use to you when you need it. For example, I highly believe that we as humans have our strengths and weaknesses, and that we can learn from any person, even people we wouldn't normally associate with. It's easy to look at a bum and say "Yeah, I'll learn how not to live my life" but if you dig deeper you'll find something that he is really good at and better than you. This whole idea of strengths and weaknesses is called "lines and levels" meaning there are lines to human development (physical, emotional, social, etc) and also different levels (with physical --out of shape, in shape, buff, competition level, etc) So for me, I remind myself lines and levels. Or maybe you have a necklace that does that. Remember those WWJD bracelets that's what they did. Or how about even a cross or star of David? They all do the same whether verbally or visually -- they are symbols.

Be your own expert

2006-01-09T22:21:00.000-08:00

PUT EVERYTHING THROUGH YOUR OWN CRITICAL THINKING FILTER

So often in life we want to rely on some expert and we override our own logic and common sense to listen to what they say. In doing so, we lose any power that we had before. i know in my own life, I've been guilty of this several times and it really hurt me in the long run. now, I strive to be my own expert and listen to what they have to say.

new revelations

2006-01-07T17:13:00.000-08:00

Couple things

1.) you need to work on your innergame while going after your goals. and sometimes your goals will help you work on your innergame.

this is such a crucial concept that has helped me a lot lately. a lot of times people wait until thigns are perfect to get started. it's like let me have a six-pack set of abs, a kickass car, and then i'll feel great and can start what i'm really passionate about.

2.) get out of your head. when you start spending time in your head that's time you could be taking action.

we live too much in our heads. it's like we have to think things out so thorougly and have to know and understand ever nuance of why things happened in our past. but you know what? you'll never know what happened in your past, you can't figure it all out. you just have to trust. constantly reanalyzing thigns will not get you there. the past for me is for things -- remembering great memories and lessons learned. that's it. it's not for me to play over and over again, why i didn't get picked first in a game of dodgeball in first grade. so what do you do to get out of your head? well, if you start hearing negative voices start giving them funny voices, like donald duck or like cartman from south park. if you just think a lot, it could be because you feel some uncertainty about an event and you want to reassess it over and over agin. so what you need to do is remind yourself of the belief and move forward. and as always your physiology is a great way to change your state if your too in your head also i like to start cracking jokes and think of all the funny things that have happened to me. also, rmemeber that it could be your innerself telling you that you need to take care of some on taken care of matters.

judge behaviors not people

sometimes people are afraid to confront others because of fear that they might be judging them, but there aer sometimes when you need to confront someone about behaviors that you don't agree with. if your buddy is on crack tell him. to add to this drugs are fucking gay and for dorks. more to follow later bout this...

Some recent learnings

2006-01-04T11:07:00.000-08:00

Traveling right now, been having a lot of fun

AVOID OBSESSING OVER THINGS THAT AREN'T GOING TO CHANGE MOMENT TO MOMENT. Back in my body building days, I wanted to get bigger arms. I didnt' get them as quick as I wanted, and I began to obsess over them. I'd feel them twice ad ay, then three times a day, then more and more. Until it became an obsession. To fix it, I had to develop better beliefs as far as my body and learn to love myself. Lastly though, the thing that I also had to do was to come up with a plan and to only assess my progress periodically. I found when we obsess over thing the most is when we don't have a plan. Or if I we do have a plan we don't stick to it.

LIFE IS SEASON. THINGS ARE TEMPORARY. IT'S PROBABLY JUST WINTER. When thigns are going difficult, sometimes people get freaked out and think "is this the way my whole life is going to be?" Instead, i actually learend this from my girl is to view things as temporary. As a winter of sorts and it makes me feel much better.

MEASURE YOUR LEVEL OF FULNESS USING A SCALE 0 to 10 AND STOPPING AT A LEVEL 7. I can't say enough about not stuffing yourself too much at meals befcause it completely zaps you of energy. people are all like the turkey makes you tired. that's why you get tired at thanksgiving. bull shit. i have turkey sandwiches all the time and i don't get tired from them. i'm sure there are things in turkey that can make you tired bt there are a lot of things in a lot of foods that can make you tired. grains make you tired. farmers sometimes like to overfeed pigs because then there stuffed and become inactive. and that's exactly what happpens when you overeat. you become inactive. Why? because all your bodies energy is going to process the food. there's no energy left to do anything else. i've been into health but a lot of times i would shove my face full of food like a fucking animal. and then all my energy would leave me. that was until i used quality quantifiers on how full i felt. I stop now at about a level 7 fulness (I used to stop a level 10 - 12), and my metabolism goes through the roof. In addition, because of that metabolism reved up, I feel so much energy. In adddition additoin, I feel hungry about 3 hours later, which is perefect for the eating plan that i ascribe too.

My 2006 Living Health Principles

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These I've found work very well for me and are based off a variety of sources

*Vibrating with Health Principles*

11 Gifts to Give Yourself

Emotionally Free and eating to nourish - this means that you can direct your mind in such a way that you experience positive emotions most of the time in your day to day life. This means that you won't be turning to food as a state change, nor will you turn to food as often. It requires a lot of work but then you treat food as secondary source of nourishment

Proper breathing - you'll die in 30 days without food, 7 days without water, and a few minutes without breath. So, which do you feel is most important. Take time throughout the day to breath properly. If you're stressed breathe properly rather than reach for food, and watch how you're craving for food will go away. Reason is because eating a lot of food puts food in your gut and makes you breath diaphramatically.

Adequate Hydration - you wake up in the morning, and feel hungry. It's probably not hunger, it's usually dehydration. We all know the importance, but few people actually follow it...regularly.

Go green LIVE - read the pH Miracle, but essentially most all food we eat acidic (bad) for the body. Blood is the river of life, so eating live green foods will actually get rid of a lot of acidity plus green foods have a higher energy frequency. You get two bonuses alkalinity plus energy. In the morning, have water with green powder. Then, make sure to have salads throughout the day.

Oil Up - You'll experience the immediate side-effects of this too. As soon as it enters your body, you'll feel more vibrant and awake. That's because it has a host of benefits that compile to make you feel better. Choose Organic Flax Oil and/or Fish Oil.

Proper meal timing and amounts - seen way too many fat vegetarians and vegans, so I know this principle is in effect big time to build a great body. 2 Things first, eat every three hours. We all know this. Second, eat to a level 7 on your own "fullness" scale. If you skip a meal, don't eat to like a level 11 to make-up. So crucial and don't believe what any health enthusiast tells you that you don't have to follow this if you're eating health.

Proper digestion - When you eat proteins, your body secretes one digestive enzyme. It secretes other digestive enzymes when you digest carbohydrates. Way too often in the American diet, we like to combine carbs and protein, mean and potatoes, fish and chips, burger and fries. Thing is that this will take digestion from three hours to seven hours and literally zap your energy. To combat this, you need to take digestive enzymes every time you combine protein and carbs. If you don't have any, then you need to eat how some of the healthiest civilizations eat -- concentrated food + vegetables. For example, fish + steamed vegetables + salad OR baked potato + steamed vegetables + salad. Also fruit alone as it digests suppppppppper fast and will ferment if you eat it with other foods.

Healthy Protein consumption - I tried to eat no protein and lost 20 lbs (and I wasn't fat), so I don't recommend cutting out protein out of your diet. I have also seen a lot of people who don't eat that much protein and I'm not impressed. I recommend eating protein but chose healthy proteins, organic meats and wild fish. Avoid whey protein as it is just as bad as milk.

Aerobic Endurance - we all know this, and there are many different types. High intensity, low intensity. Point is that you find something you like to do and do it for your cardio. I like elliptical trainers and i can watch tv. an ideal heartrate for moderate intensity cardio is 180 - your age. For example, say your 24. Your target heartrate would be 156 as your upper limit. And the lower limit is 170-age. So 170-24 is 146. So you want to warm up down in the 110-120 for 10 minutes then for 20-40 minutes go at 146-156. And yes, it may seem slow, but it is the most effective. The Kenyans are some of the fastest runners in the world, and they spend a lot of time in the build phase (which is essentially this type of training) only shortly before a competition do they do higher intensity stuff. It surprised me too.

Maximum Strength. For both sexes, especially guys, you want to have a great looking physique not only one that feels great. So, find a weight routine that works well, some like static contraction, body for life has a great program as does shawn phillips' absolution. In addition, i love anything from Tom Venuto. Find something that you like and judge your performance by your level of exertion rather than how sore you feel. I've done the whole soreness thing, and it can drive you crazy. I've also grown when i didn't feel soreness.

Light Supplementation - this is last, but still important. Food-based multi-vitamins, probiotics (healthy bacteria), vitamin b, antioxidants (Vitamins A, C, and E.)

AVOID THESE POISONS

emotional eating of any kind (even healthy foods) - you can overeat almonds and it can be detrimental to you health. Your digestive system is still going to have to work overload to process this food. Avoid this at all costs.
acid addictions -- alcohol, cigarettes, coffee, wine, sweets. You know these are bad for you despite what antioxidants it has, that's just a push from these corporations to get you to view it as a healthy food. Like wine manufacturers have done a great job and getting people to think that a glass of wine a day is good for you, and neglect to tell you all the harm it will do on your blood stream, your kidneys, and your general health levels. If weed had antioxidant properties, would it make sense to smoke some up everyday. Use common sense. If you do it, do it maybe once a week and follow the other health principles. Don't take a day off where you "relax" and let your standards slip. Instead, do all the other things that you know are healthy.
pasturized dairy - anytime i take any dairy, it gives me massive amounts of mucus and i used to have allergies. Not anymore. My allergies used to be so bad that i had to take medication for it. i don't take dairy anymore and don't have any of these problems. Anytime i have any dairy -- cheese, yogurt, anything. It acts up. Some can tolerate it, but in general i think that you should avoid it.
unhealthy oils - for a while i was eating salads, but not feeling very energized. Then a health coach of mine told me to get rid of processed oil (canola, corn oil, safflower oil) any of these are terrible as they essentially run bleach through the oil so that it separates it. i found that once i stopped using salad dressings that had these in them, and used instead oils like olive for my salads or coconut for cooking. i feel wonderful. Do some research on them, and you'll find out that canola oil is actually rapeseed oil but they renamed so you'd buy more and that they want you to think that it's a healthy oil when people get sick off these oils all the time.
unhealthy animal products or byproduct - you know that the beef from McDonald's is no good. Go to meetyourmeat.com if you really want to find out. Move up in the world and start incorporating more organic meats and wild fish and organic eggs. If you're at a restaurant, and the menu is looking bland (don't go with the chicken as it is usually very low quality) instead get one of the fish. If you're at a good restaurant ask them if it's wild, because the more people that ask the more likely they will be to get it. More and more restaurants are increasing the quality of the products they carry, but it will only happen if demand increases as they are in business to make a profit.
grains - GRAINS are fed to hogs to fatten them up. A lot of diets are now advocating that you avoid it. My concern is what it does to your system too as they generally pollute your blood stream. If you have to have brain, look for sprouted grains which are a better alternative. Even then, you'll feel better once you eliminate them. The whole carbohydrate addict came from grains, not from other carb sources like fruit, potatoes. When was the last time you saw someone saying, dude, i can't stop eating rice and/or baked potatoes. Never. It's all things like sandwiches, chips, crackers, cookies, cereal -- these are all grains. Fuck whole grains. They're just trying to make it look like a healthy alternative. I say avoid these. If you're going to have grains, have sprouted grains!

Well, there you have it, these will change for 2007. But I'm following these for 2006.

Emotional Flood for the Future

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I've done this myself but also found it useful

DO AN EMOTIONAL FLOOD OF MEMORIES TO COME IN THE FUTURE. Very effective tactic that can be used to help people who haven't experienced any great emotions, and who don't see the future any brighter. Have them experience memories, such as playful, sexy, proud, adventurous, challenging, moments

Say,"now, think of a time in the future where you'll feel so proud. and bring that in"

Memory Management

2005-12-25T13:16:00.000-08:00

YOU MUST CONTROL YOUR MEMORY'S AND THE ONES YOU CHOSE TO RECALL UPON. We have infinite memories, and no one can say I've had a tough life because it's all relevant. At least that's been the case in my experience, you think you've got problems, let me take you to Africa where the major mission for the day there is how are we going to find food. That's the challenge with a lot of american society is that some people are born into families where they aren't challenged to grow, and because of that, they spend their life in and out of rehab or on antidepressants. If anyone deserves to be on antidepressants, it sure as hell isn't anyone in the US. It's just people lack a compelling future, or if they do, don't have the guts to make it happen. So, what I chose to do, and for me, it's been a process of taking over control of what i'm focusing on is to consciously focus on what's been great in my life. not what's been bad. i used to play over and over the bad memories, until i made myself all tense and tight. but now i know better. also, we do way too much thinking too, thinking is wonerful when it is combined with action, but i think that people use thought to escape from reality. like "hey, let's go have this debate about how to live life" instead of just going out and living life. so they become very good at debating stuff, but not very good at actually going out and living life. like me above other people, i love a great debat, but i'm always making sure that i realize that it is more of a form of entertainment than any real progress on my life.

ENVIRONMENT

2005-12-15T15:13:00.000-08:00

WHO YOU'RE WITH WILL DETERMINE HOW YOU FEEL AND THE THINGS YOU DO

When I was growing up, I chose to hang around guys that really well academically and not suprisingly I did so. I also at times became very introverted. Point is, that you will not only take on the behaviors but you will even take on the emotions of those you hang out with. Funny, I was lucky enough to be with a peer group that is always happy and chatty, and I'm that way as well. Also, funny enough but my income matches that of my friends. Interesting.

back

2005-12-14T12:44:00.000-08:00

one simple quote

WHOEVER HAS GREATER CONVICTION IN WHAT HE IS SAYING POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE WILL WIN IN ANY SITUATION. Basically, you have to strongly believe in what you're saying else someone who has an opposite conviction will win. this helps me out a lot because i'm continually refining my theories such that my level conviction isn't as great as it could be. i'm changing that to just have faith that my philosophies are the best i can have at the moment. else, who's going to listen to a quasi convinced guy.

USE QUALITY QUANTIFIERS TO INCREASE YOUR COMMITMENT LEVEL

2005-12-01T12:40:00.000-08:00

GET YOURSELF TO COMMIT USING QUALITY QUANTIFIERS.

The other day I was pondering how do you measure how committed someone is to a task. The reason is because I was examing what it takes to really get something done and done well, and it usually means that you have to be in the commitment level of 9 or more. Thing is that I think people approach a lot of things especially the things they dont' want to do with a commitment level of six. So, how do you a.) find out where they're at, and b.) get them to commit more. As I was examinging it, I started to look at what it means to be committed. Is it time? No, because I have been committed to things (such as ideals) that I spent no specific time on, but I just did it. So, then I realized that it was more scientific than that. Then, it all came to using a quality quantifier to gauge it. Then, I thought ok, now I've got it gauged how do you change it. And as always baby steps aka reward proximity aka reward progress not perfection.

So, here's the process.

1. Identify something that you want to change, and you know that the only real thing you need to change is your commitment level in order to get the results you want. (Don't be like most people and change your approach quickly when it's not your approach that is suffering it's your commitment level. I see this a lot in the fitness area, where people will half-ass try out a diet for two weeks. See no results. Then, go back to what they were doing before. You have to commit level 9 or more to really see the results that are merited by the appraoch)

2. Gauge your commitment level 0 to 10. 0 meaning you don't give a fuck. 10 meaning you're fully committed. And usually your intuitive sense is right here.

3. Take your commitment level and add two (for example, if it's 4, then add 2, to get 6), ask yourself the following question, "To get to a level 6 commitment, what would I have to do or believe?" Then don't let yourself off the hook until you have a solution.

4. Now go and do that action if applicable or really make that belief a reality.

5. Repeat Step 3 but with your new commitment level (in question 3) until you get to a level 10+

SO HERE'S AN EXAMPLE

Say you're having a hardtime getting up in the morning. (Note: all questions are things that you ask yourself)

What do you want to change?

I want to get up on time everyday

How committed are you to actually getting up 0 to 10?

Level 6

Ok, great, to get to a level 8, what would you have to do?

I'd have to schedule out my day, so when I wake up I have a compelling day ahead of me. Usually when I wake up I think, uhh, just another day.

So, when thinking about scheduling out your day, does that get you to a level 8?

yes, it sure as hell does

So, how you're at a level 8, what would you have to do in order to get yourself to a level 10?

I'd need to have a commitment or sometype of meeting even if it's via telephone because I love human communication. I can work all day at my home office, but there's no fun there.

So, you'd need to have a meeting with someone each day? What type of meeting?

Anything, it could even be a scheduled phone call to catch up.

What if you can't get a scheduled phone call?

Then, I'd have some time to call up everyone I know.

And that would get you to a level 10?

Yup.

So now, thinking about doing this, does this get you to a level 10?

Yes.

Ok, thanks for participating, that'll be $1,000 US

What the!?

Just kidding.

THERE'S POWER IN CONGRUENCY

2005-11-28T12:13:00.000-08:00

THERE'S POWER IN CONGRUENCY

Recently, I had an experience where I realized the true power in congruency. I would begin to tell my friends all the cool things going on in my life, but then I'd pull back thinking "it's not important" or "maybe some other time." Over time, I could feel my spirit weakening away, and I was getting angry becaues I was feeling trapped (a feeling that I hate). Then, finally I told some of the people about the cool things going on in my life, and then like that it changed. I'm not one of those people that says that you have to be super-honest all the time, but I am in favor of being congruent. Of being who you are at your core, and that ot me is at the root of congruence. I see it so often that in life we try to be someone else, when that's not what we need. All we need is to add more to the core of our personality because there's nothing wrong with you or anyone else. And also to add to this, we're not lacking anything. Like last week, I was working with one of my buddy's who found out that his girlfriend of about a year was interested in another guy, to him it was crushing. He kept saying over and over "I need to get my confidence back." The thing I noticed though is that he was confident around me, so it's not that he was lacking confidence. Something would happen though that when he'd get around his girl, that they'd bring each other down.

Point is though that he wasn't lacking confidence, he just needed to find it in the right moments. He in short wasn't being congruent around his girl. I haven't talked with him recently, but I don't think there's anything wrong with the relationship, and hopefully they'll get back together.

To me being congruent, is something that I want to feel all the time. It's more than honesty because you can be honest yet feel incongruent. Now what the heck do I mean by that? Well, have you ever told someone the truth but while you were telling them you felt nervous or you felt upset, so your words weren't that of your real self. Your congruent self. Yeah, you were being honest but not congruent and thereiin lies the distinction. The other thing that I have noticed and I have commented on before. That it is much more than a emotional shift, it is a shift in your spirit. And therefore, you get a surge of energy and enthusiasm that you didn't have before. Congruence.

Control the Focus of your Mind or it will control you

2005-11-28T12:02:00.000-08:00

CONTROL THE FOCUS OF YOUR MIND OR IT WILL CONTROL YOU

One thing that I've worked very hard recently is to control the focus of my mind. Now, what the heck does that mean. I mean our parents were always telling us to focus, but what does that mean how can we use it? Well, I used to think and I hear to this day that some people still say that. In fact it's common in today's society and we're prescribing drugs more and more to handle this, but what I've found is this. YOU ARE ALWAYS FOCUSING ON SOMETHING YOU JUST HAVE TO CATCH WHAT IT IS AND CHANGE IT. I mean you are always thinking about something it may not be the most useful thing, but you are still focusing. The key is to begin to catch yourself focusing on things that dont' help you out and change it. Well, what is thought. Thought is merely a series of questions asked either unconsciously (unknowing) or consciously (knowing). If you've trained your brain well enough, you don't have any problems because you unknowingly focus on all the right things. Also, if you look at any great philosopher in history he was always seeking to answer a question, and he would dedicate his life to doing this. So, that's they key is not to "think positive thoughts" it's to ask yourself "positive questions" which will get your thoughts back on track.

Here's a great example, I'm in a relationship and when I get hurt I instantly start focusing on how much this person hurt me. That's literally the question I'm asking "How much did this person hurt me?" What's cool is to literally stop yourself and ask yourself "what am I focusing on right now?" And you'll notice the crazy shit. I'll be doing something important, and I'll be doing something important that needs to get done I'll be asking myself something shitty (out of habit) like "What if this pen runs out of ink?" boom. I stop myself and bring myself back. To me it's kind of fun. What's even more fascinating is that there is a focus question that governs your entire life that you go back to time after time. It's cool to explore that.

Having a direction for your life

2005-11-28T11:51:00.000-08:00

LOOK TO YOUR PASSIONS FOR THE PURPOSE OF YOUR LIFE

So often, when you read anything on creating the purpose of your life. They just have you make it up on the spot, but i've found it useful to look to the past to examine what were some of the driving motives behind that "vehicle." Let me list some things that I wanted to do when I was younger to give you an idea and by asking myself "What did I really want to get by doing this?"

Priest - helping others

Rollercoaster Designer - build things that create freedom

Businessman - earn respect

Professional Basketball Player - do somthing that is challenging, be in the spotlight

College Professor - teach other meaningful things

So by doing these things, you can start to get a feel for what it is that you're exactly looking for in your life. So, then you want to write one out using the above notes, I also recommend a "be" part where you talk about traits that you're going to have within yourself. Here is an example of mine:

The purpose of my life is to build freedom, to teach meaningful things, to make a difference, to help others, and to serve as an example that people will respect of what's possible when we dedicate our life to helping others.

PEOPLE REMEMBER WHAT THEY'RE DOING AT THE MOMENT TO GET THEM WHERE THEY WANT TO BE

This is something important to keep in mind if you ever read a book by someone. I've noticed that people are amazing deletion creatures (myself included). so much that a lot of times when you want help in your life, they will give you advice that is working for them at this stage in their life rather than what worked for them earlier. It's like going to Microsofy corporation and saying "hey guys, i want to build a business, tell me what you guys are doing right now" and of course they'll tell you (maybe ;-) ) but what they tell you will be what they're doing right now rather than what they did WHEN THEY WERE STARTING OUT back in the early 80s. See the difference? So, what does that mean and how can you use it. If you meet someone who is getting results, and he has a very simplistic model for what he's doing, ask him what he did to get to where he is. Like with me, I'm in great shape, and if some guy comes up to me, and says "How'd you get pecs like that? What are you doing right now to get that?" Bad question. Instead ask, "What are the things that really got your chest to where it is right now?" Small difference, big effects.

What a relationship has done for me and others

2005-11-22T02:14:00.000-08:00

I think a lot (big suprise there) and I recently started looking at how much I've grown with my girl in the past year. Man, she is a beautiful person and a beautiful soul.

THAT YOU DON'T TRY TO BE BETTER THAN OTHERS YOU JUST TRY TO LOVE.

I found myself comparing myself to her previous boyfriends and comparing her to my previous girlfriends. Obviously, a little is ok, but I was doing this incessantly. Then, I just realized that maybe in a lot of areas I wasn't as good as her previous relationships, but that I was going to love her and that's what it was about

EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON.

I am convinced that every person put significantly in your life is there for a reason. A big reason not a small one. Like a close friend is not there to "teach me to smile" but maybe to "take my life lightly afterall angels fly because they take themselves lightly" I know for sure that if your in a relationship with someone special that person is in your life for a very big reason. I think a lot of times people say that opposites attract. Well, that is true in the context of masculine and feminine energy. But I have to say that you will be opposite in other regards too, and you'll find that that person is there to help balance you out, or show you a new perspective that would have never seen, or to stop thinking and start enjoying life.

YOU'RE IN A RELATIONSHIP TO LOVE

Man, I don't know how many times I had to relearn this one. I sometimes start craving certainty, and then start trying to make things very certain. And I never get happy because for me, sometimes, the more certainty I crave the more I realize things are uncertain. Then, I came up with my belief that really helps me out "If you don't commit, you'll never know. And once you commit, the answers will become apparent"

WE ARE IN CONTROL OF OUR STATE

2005-11-18T11:38:00.000-08:00

Not sure if I've hammered this home enough, but you are in control of the way you feel. Well, let's look at a couple situations and you tell me if you agree. Case #1. You are totally depressed, then I come in with a million bucks and give it to you. How do you feel? Well, depends (if you're already a multimillionaire then probably not too much), but if you're like most of us, then you will feel elated. But what really changed? Yeah, yeah, you have more money, but what really happened is that you decided to feel better. And if money automatically led people to be happier, then it would have made the multimillionaire or the billionaire happy. It didn't. So, there you chose to feel better.

Case #2 - you ever been working on a project, totally putting it off, and then all of a sudden maybe it's due or maybe you get inspired and then you start working at it. Not just working on it, but you're really making it happen. The stuff is just spewing out, well, that's just because you somewhere decided to yourself "Ok, I'm going to make this happen now" and through that belief came the emotions (I'm just guessing here) of passion when working like you were just working so fast yet it seemd so easy, determination that you knew that you were going to find a way, and faith that it would all turn out ok in the end. These emotions are really the fuel that guided your behavior.

You must remember these things, and never ever let yourself believe "I'm not feeling right" or "I'll do it when I feel better" I say these things at times too, but I always know that if I wanted to I could really change it. I've been tired and exhausted only having slept 3.5 hours for days (I don't always do this it just depends on how inspired I am) and boom a new idea will come through me and I totally feel energized. My emotions were fueling me. They are the best source. There's an old quote that goes "when the soul is nourished, the need for sleep and the hunger for food go away" Now, obviously, I'm not saying don't eat or sleep. Nor, am I saying even deny yourself. What I am saying is that if you find yourself excessively getting hungry or excessively sleeping (like the 9 hours a day I used to sleep...sometimes even up to 15 hours per day) then you really need to look at your like and make some major decisions to moe you in the right direction. For me most recently it was the decision to leave behind a job that was not serving me at the time, and the longer I put that off the longer I was hurting. It's a small step but hey it could apply to anything to business, to whatever.

Few quick things

2005-11-18T11:23:00.000-08:00

CHECKOUT INTEGRAL NAKED ON THE RIGHT

What it is a famous author basically locked himself up in a room for 30 years, read thousands of book, and met people from around the world in hopes of synthesizing a path of human development that we all go through. We all know that you go through "stages" in life, but he wanted more clarity as to what they were. So, he read every single book on psychology doing one thing that very few people never do. He didn't look for a school, but rather the truths in each field in order to incorporate them all. His stuff is really insightful and very intellectually intense (so if you're looking for something to listen to while you're doing your housework go out and get Dane Cook's CD, which is funnnnnny)

REMEMBER THIS QUOTE:

you don't have to get it right, you just have to get it going

So often in life, in our quest to get things right, we never take action. This quote and belief really has helped me out tremendously.

Wishing you guys a great weekend and thanksgiving is around the corner!

~~Geoff

A Quick Technique that will change your life

2005-11-18T11:00:00.000-08:00

Ok guys,

We all know that I'm always looking for things that will really enhance the quality of your life. Things that for me has made a difference, and that's why I don't just say, here, go listen to this program or whatever because a lot of times there are things on there that don't always work but the author put in their because he needed some way of practically applying that which he was describing. What I'm getting at is that I will only put things in this blog that really work for me -- ideas, concepts, etc.

One thing that I've always been obsessed with is the idea of raw energy. I mean, yeah, you can drink energy drinks or drink coffee, etc and get a quick jolt. I did that back in my west point days to a certain degree of success, but the thing that always bothered me was the belief that, "someday this amount will stop working and I'll have to keep upping the ante." Obviously, now if you do any search into coffee you find out it's distructive properties. Hell, even the world's leading coffee taster down in Columbia drinks tea!!!

I've been on this quest to give me raw energy. I've tried the green drinks, I've tried green tea, I've tried concentration and energy pills, I've tried dietary shifts , I've tried more sleep less sleep. And all these things worked to a significant degree. By the way, if you don't change your diet so you can sleep less, you will never get the energy that you deserve. Point is, however, that I've now come to believe heavily in idea of "Alkalinity and Acidity." The basic principle is that the blood balances at 7.38 pH, but most of our diet is acidic less than 7 pH so our bodies tend to get out of balance so we need to put things that are alkaline (do a search and look at several results for "alkalnity charts foods" The biggest thing you'll find is that green vegetables all have a high pH (I don't know exactly but I imagine around 12).

Well, there is a whole industry dedicated to taking your money from this concept with pills, drops, and powders all aimed at helping you to raise the pH of your bloodstream. Well, I'm not saying not to buy them (well...maybe), but what I am saying is that they still lack one thing. FRESHNESS. No matter how good the process, you're dealing with the fact that you're taking the greens and dehydrating them, processing them whatever. And, it doesn't take a genius to see that this will kill the plants potential.

So, what am I saying to do! Well, the idea I got one day when I was at a local juice bar and saw that they had fresh organic juices. They usually like to give is some flavor with carrot, but I told them to make it without carrot. They gave me a little bit of a hardtime, but they made it. Then, I had that along with a 2 oz wheatgrass shot. I had it, and within seconds. BOOM. I felt like I had so much energy, like I had drank 20 cups of coffee. I had never experienced anything this powerful. Then, I said to myself, well, let's see how long it lasts. It stayed for 4+ hours, and I felt incredibly mentally clear, insightful, energized, motivated. All of this. And all from this simple technique. I decided that night that I needed to do this everyday in order to be the person I aspired to be and do the the things I aspired to do. So I set out and did this everyday, and it never leaves you. It literally has become my cup of joe. I roll out of bed and stumble to the juice shop and get a fresh green juice (celery, spinach, and cucumber) and 2 oz. And day after day.

Another true story. For three days, I was taking care of my sunshine after she had her surgery. I hadn't been to the juice shop. I found myself craving food, not bad foods, but good foods like health bars, salads, etc. Point is, that I still felt cravings and I hate that feeling. So much, that today, I was in the juice shop and while they were making my juice, I felt like I wanted to have a bar in the shop. Then, I told myself "just wait, have the juice and wheatgrass shot, then decide" so I waited then as soon as I could...boom I took the wheatgrass shot. And then, instantly the cravings went away (by the way, if you look into the alkalizing concepts, you'll find this is very common...as you shouldn't always listen to your body...as an acidic body will crave acidity...not the best thing). But the cravings went away! Do you guys realize the power of this? Man, this is such a simple concept and technique that goes so far. And the beauty is that you don't even have to go a juice shop to get it, you can just buy your own juicer -- go and get a flat of wheatgrass and some fresh green veggies and have it every morning. Will it taste great at first? Well, it depends on the person some will like it some won't. But do you stomach alcohol and not really like the taste of it because it gives you that buzz eventhough it's going into your body and killing it off via high acididty? Yes, so why not put a healthy buzz in your body. And if you want to order my turbo-juicer, just click here. JUST KIDDING!! It's so funny because anytime someone comes up with a good concept they rush to market it, which is good. But you don't want your only rule with health to be "eat live green foods" although that is a HUGE START.

So there you have it. Basically, have a big ass FRESH squeezed green juice (preferablly 16oz) plus a 2 oz wheatgrass shot. By the way, a female friend of mine got sick and vomitted the first time she had wheatgrass. Not suprisingly she's very overweight and overeats all the time.

Defining Roles in Relationships

2005-11-16T15:20:00.000-08:00

This has been something that has really helped me out tremendously in my own relationship, and I've heard it has really worked well for others. It is this

YOU MUST DEFINE THE PURPOSE OF THE RELATIONSHIP. I think a lot of times people want to find someone who is there super counterpart. There business partner, their intellectual partner, their best friend, but in the end, all they end up with is frustration. I was trying to do that, and kept getting frustrated as two people no matter how much they are aligned are going to be at the same level on everything. Then, finally, I asked myself, what is the purpose, and immediately I saw, "to love" Then, finally my head cleared up and funny enough things have gotten even better. To add to this, the less I focus on things and the more I focus on love -- the more the other things to get better! For example, since I don't focus anymore on having this strong intellectual counterpart, the more she has actually stepped up to this role. Funny, it's almost like I was trying to forcing it
EVERYTIME YOU RUN A PATTERN (GOOD OR BAD) YOU STRENGTHEN THAT MUSCLE. I liken patterns (such as persevering, being happy, overeating, doing drugs, being on time, being thankful) to habits physiclal, emotional, and spiritual. One thing to look at too is that physical patterns, take overeating, usually stem from some emotion. So the chain goes emotion -> physical pattern. You feel stressed, you eat. You feel depressed, you eat. So usually, your first job is to begin to look at your emotional patterns, ask yourself "When I eat, what am I feeling?" Sometimes, people eat during all occassions, but I think people overeat when they're feeling a negative emotion. But even once they know this and begin to work on their emotions, that's where I think you'll begin to change you'll begin a three phase process of stopping the poisoning, cleansing the system, and introducing new patterns. I found myself overeating (luckily they were healthy foods!) as I was feeling unmotivated when a recent career move didn't workout. This was bad because as soon as I fixed the situation (pursuing a new job) I still found myself reaching for food, I had still built up the pattern. The last thing I'd like to mention is this. Say you want to build a great set of emotional muscles like faith, determination, courage, perseverance, compassion, yet when you go to the gym of life you end up building emotional muscles of frustration, despair, hopelessness, guilt, resentment. What muscles do you think will grow? Emotions are a choice that you can change if you are really willing to find a way. I am convinced of this.

Another quick thought

2005-11-14T03:43:00.000-08:00

Pattern recognition is power. Notice the patterns that you run and change them.
How you deal with your problems is how you will live your life

Live it your way

2005-11-14T03:40:00.000-08:00

Forcing things and finding your own way. Sometimes we tend to hold onto other people's ideal of life, how others say we should live our life, but then you start to realize that you must chose your own way and never judge anyone else's. I think a lot of Latin cultures are raised very much so to judge other people, and make someone right and someone wrong, possibly the influence of the catholic church. But I have recenlty begun to unwire all that, and man, is there a beautiful shade of life on the other side. Man, i feel so much lighter, because it is true that oftentimes, can you ever really be right? do you need to be right? isn't being right just about a belief? does it even really empower you to be right?

Man, I feel like I can approach situations with a whole new sense of clarity and purpose that i didn't have before. I have a way of really making what it is I want a reality, but I don't have to compare what I want with others. To me that is empowering, hope it makes sense or appeals to you guys.

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